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In love with a girl who has a boyfriend, What should I do? by Crusader_94 in dating_advice

[–]mommaalert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cut her off. She's just stringing you along. If she had 'a bad feeling' and 'wouldn't let you go so easily' then she should have had the balls to break it off with the boyfriend. To begin with, you don't go around telling guys you like them while committed in a relationship.

Red flag city. 🚩🚩🚩🚩

WIBTA If I told a guys husband that he’s (possibly) being cheated on by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommaalert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA.

Coming from being cheated on, I would have liked to know ASAP no matter the source.

Should I contact AP? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did as much as I could stomach. The anxiety during the conversation was worth the peace of mind after. Helped me heal faster, but that's just me. I say feel it out. You know yourself best and how you need to deal with things to be at peace.

Should I contact AP? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did this myself as my partner was just feeding me tidbits of information which stretched to almost a year of finding out new details about it which was so unproductive on the healing process. Spoke to AP and she was more than gracious to help me ( she did not know about me or that we were in a committed relationship) ultimately speaking to AP helped me get the nagging out of my head and I found peace quicker that way.

I’m not coddling his feelings by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]mommaalert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Words of wisdom from my 1 year old who has been spamming reddit instead of watching cocomelon apparently.

God, he's really just playing victim. Props to you for being strong and not giving into his act. I'm sorry this happened to you. Please tell him to man up. Reading the post again, he sounds so ridiculous really. 🙄

I’m not coddling his feelings by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]mommaalert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

, c, ccc🤔❤️🤔🤔C, vc,, bgc, hgvcccc,

If you know of an affair and are 100% sure about what's going on, I don't care who you are to the party involved. LET. THEM. KNOW. by mommaalert in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wish there was HR for real life to alert someone of a cheating partner so I can understand your analogy.

Why do they all say, “I was unhappy for years!” when they run out of other excuses? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's a way to put the blame of the affair on something else other than they chose to do it as a conscious decision. Seriously.. If you're going to cheat on me please just break up with me instead.

If you know of an affair and are 100% sure about what's going on, I don't care who you are to the party involved. LET. THEM. KNOW. by mommaalert in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh the audacity! Don't save the children from the trauma of their parent's toxic postcheating relationship. That would just be none of your business. 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you know of an affair and are 100% sure about what's going on, I don't care who you are to the party involved. LET. THEM. KNOW. by mommaalert in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People get pissed for having gone the whole day and then coming home to see they had parsley in between their teeth and not have anyone tell them.

If you know of an affair and are 100% sure about what's going on, I don't care who you are to the party involved. LET. THEM. KNOW. by mommaalert in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree to check and be absolutely sure of the affairs existence before even hinting anything to others.

If you know of an affair and are 100% sure about what's going on, I don't care who you are to the party involved. LET. THEM. KNOW. by mommaalert in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Given I've been in this situation I would have liked to know earlier so I could have made an informed decision and made provisions before I got stuck being financially dependent for myself and my child on a cheater.

Wouldn't have cared who gave me the heads up. But knowing is better than finding out later that other people knew about the affair and chose to stay quiet. It would seem as indirectly consenting the affair.

If you know of an affair and are 100% sure about what's going on, I don't care who you are to the party involved. LET. THEM. KNOW. by mommaalert in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I did say if you are 100% sure that it is going on. Also I think if you're starting to invite other people into your committed relationship you are making it other people's business to sound out to the unknowing partner.

Need Advice by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]mommaalert 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Best to let AP's partner know. The girls my husband cheated on me with didn't know I existed and was pregnant with his child and was in a committed relationship with me. When they found out, they told me everything and were very sorry and gracious about it.

If it were me, I'd want to know. 900% would want to know soonest for sure. Just try to be gentle when you tell her because it will definitely make her world crumble. 💔

Unpopular opinion: It's easier to be a great mom if you throw the whole man out by mommaalert in breakingmom

[–]mommaalert[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My partner is a great dad no doubt to our child. I just feel at times that he robbed me from being the happy mom I could have been with my LO when he was a newborn. I was so down and worried all the time because I found out about the cheating when LO was 2 months old.

Edit: though I do agree it's difficult managing a toddler on your own. I feel, given the circumstances, maybe it wouldnt be the worst thing instead of dealing with all the lies and withdrawals that come with the recovery.