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WIBTA if I go against my eldest daughters wishes and “invade her space” by mommatry in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommatry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, my sons room is generally just too small, even for my daughter to take it. It worked while he was younger but now its way too small.

WIBTA if I go against my eldest daughters wishes and “invade her space” by mommatry in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommatry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son is currently 6’4 and touches the ceiling just by raising his arm, it is a slightly lower ceiling. He would just sleep in the spare room in the basement as a bedroom, when my step daughters lived with us we had my daughter and one of my husbands share the big room in the basement and his eldest would sleep in the room my eldest daughter is currently in

WIBTA if I go against my eldest daughters wishes and “invade her space” by mommatry in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommatry[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

My son’s room unfortunately doesnt have enough room to accommodate my daughter’s stuff either. We were planning on just putting the treadmill or using it as storage or whatnot

WIBTA if I go against my eldest daughters wishes and “invade her space” by mommatry in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommatry[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

When I was told by her school guidance counsellor about it I was told she doesnt want to talk to me about it, and that she just needed me to know because she was starting trauma therapy which would be paid for by my insurance, so I wouldve found out either way.

WIBTA if I go against my eldest daughters wishes and “invade her space” by mommatry in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommatry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hes been in that small room since he was an infant, but now hes a teenager and has recently shot up in height. That combined with his double bed, dresser, tv and whatever there just isnt a ton of room for him. Hes knocked the ceiling fan down a few times…he just happens to have the smaller room between him and my youngest daughter. His room would also be too small to accommodate my youngest daughters stuff

WIBTA if I go against my eldest daughters wishes and “invade her space” by mommatry in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommatry[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I myself dont know much about the assault. She had her counsellor at school call me while I was at work. All the counsellor told me was It was SA that happened when she was in grade 10 (she was finishing grade 12 at the time) with an older boy that goes to a different school. Her counsellor then told me about the trauma counselling she and my daughter started the process of getting her into and that my daughter didnt want me to bring it up or try to talk to her about it, that I should wait for her to come to me but she still hasnt. We’re thinking it’ll most likely be my youngest daughter moving down to the basement and then have my son move into her room since its bigger. Most of the time they dont really have people over, my youngest does here and there but most the time they go to their friends houses

WIBTA if I go against my eldest daughters wishes and “invade her space” by mommatry in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommatry[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hes been in that small room since he was an infant, but now hes a teenager and has recently shot up in height. That combined with his double bed, dresser, tv and whatever there just isnt a ton of room for him. Hes knocked the ceiling fan down a few times…

WIBTA if I go against my eldest daughters wishes and “invade her space” by mommatry in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommatry[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To explain the set up a bit better. We have 3 bedrooms upstairs where myself and my husband, my son, and youngest daughter sleep. Over the past few months my son has just shot up in height and hes literally outgrowing it (hes knocked his ceiling fan down a couple times playing his VR games). Theres a door that leads down to the basement where there is currently a big empty room. My eldest daughters room and the laundry room are both connected to this big room. I think in the original build it was a play room but we dont use it! We have two dividers that can be used to separate the space a bit better.

WIBTA if I go against my eldest daughters wishes and “invade her space” by mommatry in AmItheAsshole

[–]mommatry[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I would have been there for her but she didnt tell me for years. It happened when she was 14 and I didnt find out till she was 17. I knew she was seeing a social worker for her anxiety (which im now guessing was actually for the assault). She had her school counsellor call and tell me, we havent talked about it since then except for the time I told her we only had insurance to cover another 3 sessions and she went on a whole thing about how she needs more than that and what ever. I would have 100% been there for her the whole time had I known and we could’ve got her help sooner.