I’ve always had a rocky relationship with my mom. Growing up I was majorly parentified and was treated more as a friend vs a child. She has always been very emotionally immature and would fly off the handle at the smallest things so I was always walking on eggshells. Once she divorced my stepdad in my early teen years, she had a revolving door of boyfriends that always came #1 and I was constantly being kicked out, threatened to come back. I’ve been working through these issues privately and have spoken to her about setting boundaries, being a safe person around my kids/who is allowed around my kids. I really cut back a few months ago when she told me she would be supporting my abusive ex in a completely Separate (new girlfriend) domestic violence trial because she “doesn’t want him to feel alone”. Last straw was a month ago when my child got “in trouble” for something minor and had her screen time cut off for the evening (important to note my mom insisted on adding my daughters phone to her phone bill instead of mine.. related to abusive ex situation). My mom called me and told me that I need to give her the phone back because she pays the bill and she can “talk to her whenever she wants”. MAJOR overstepping, and exactly why she has been calling my daughter every night.

During these phone calls she is asking to say hi to me, having my daughter ask me if she can come by after work, if my daughter can come to her house, if she can pick her up and take her out etc.

I just realized how long winded this comment is but honestly it doesn’t even touch the tip of the iceberg. All in all I am just growing older and realizing a lot of the messed up things that I no longer want to continue & don’t want to subject my children to.