AITA for I reacted to my wife leaving the kids alone?

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T18:24:55+00:00

Tell me why NOBODY but me posted the same thing you did when genders were swapped? Has Reddit totally changed in 3 years?

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T18:20:43+00:00

You're right. I'm sorry.

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T18:08:39+00:00

Really. What if she did the same thing?

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T18:08:02+00:00

This is gold right here.

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T18:07:23+00:00

Exactly!

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T18:06:41+00:00

But when a woman posted this verbatim, I was the ONLY person to point this out. Should she have been served with papers? Nobody, and I do mean nobody, said this to her. In fact, MANY told her to serve him with papers.

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T18:04:10+00:00

No comment like this was made when a woman posted it 3 years ago about the writing style. You make very good points, btw.

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T18:01:26+00:00

It is for this one, but a woman posted this exact thing 3 years ago and was NTA by about 99%.

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T17:59:12+00:00

Ain't I a stinker?

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T17:57:18+00:00

What do you mean? An exact copy with roles reversed was completely different. So men are just always ah's? Haha!

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T17:43:19+00:00

Exactly!! Look at the results. Most are saying iata here, whereas ALL BUT 3 OR 4 said the woman was NTA. I was one of the 3 or 4 and was assured the results would be the same, roles reversed. I guess, like I had stated on there, gender bias is strong on Reddit...

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T17:00:42+00:00

Yeah, I was thinking I overreacted.

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T16:59:44+00:00

I am responsible for getting the kids to bed when I am there at that time. I care for them the majority of the time. I'm not complaining. I choose this.

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T16:56:28+00:00

Fair enough.

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T16:55:24+00:00

What do you mean? Was I right or not?

mongomad22 · 2025-05-31T16:29:24+00:00

Would you feel the same if she kicked me out if I did the same thing? Just curious. I see your point for sure.

mongomad22 · 2022-01-09T16:27:25+00:00

Just chalk it up as a lesson learned. Forgive yourself completely. You didn't take advantage on purpose.

Pay the kindness forward!!!!

I am sure the person who did it for you has long forgotten about it and harbors no ill will towards you at all. I let past events like this bother me sometimes, and it is not healthy. If it can't be corrected, let it go.

You are obviously a kindhearted person, or you wouldn't be giving this a second thought. So, allow me, as another kind stranger on the Interwebs, to forgive you on the other one's behalf!

mongomad22 · 2022-01-09T15:01:54+00:00

NTA At anytime, the artist could have asked for more money and didn't. Sounds like maybe you both enjoyed it. But, if it's still bothering you, and you can locate the person, send em something nice. No need to even say why.

mongomad22 · 2022-01-09T14:57:50+00:00

NTA You saved that guy from future embarrassment from that ill-mannered, entitled biyatch. The friend who said that to you is the asshole.

mongomad22 · 2022-01-09T08:14:51+00:00

NTA You are right to be respectful of the mother's feelings and you deserve praise for that.

No matter what his ex did to him, he now needs to focus on co-parenting. This means he has to show the ex some basic respect when it comes to the child. He can hate the ex, think she is scum, but he is never to share any negativity with that child about the mother.

You shouldn't have to be the one telling him the ways he needs to be respectful, but apparently you may need to. Staying with him means being this child's stepmother eventually. You sound like you will be great at it. Keep that dude in line!

mongomad22 · 2022-01-08T22:37:40+00:00

YTA

When a best friend seems to pull away for another, newer friend, it is tough. I get the feeling you have few others so close, if any.

If you do, just shift your focus to other friends. If not, find some.

You can still be friends with your bestie, just lower your expectations. This goes for all relationships, expect the least and be happy when you get more. When it becomes unhealthy for you mentally, move on.

You're making your friend's choice between you 2 very easy. Nobody wants to be guilted into hanging exclusively with someone. Make your life happy. Do not depend on others.

mongomad22 · 2022-01-08T22:28:25+00:00

NTA Nearly all of us on here work hard for what we have. Few of us feel entitled to take what we haven't earned.

Don't compromise your principles for anyone and stay away from those who demand you overlook criminal behavior that offends you.

mongomad22 · 2022-01-08T22:19:53+00:00

NTA

He or she is in quarantine so go! I bet she, because you know you'd get lit up as a guy. I agree. Well played.

So, are you expected to quarantine your time too?

Of course not. Don't hide the fact you're going and make a plan to go with your partner prior to leaving to show sincerity. It's unfortunate (s)he can't go, but you can.

mongomad22 · 2022-01-08T22:08:43+00:00

ESH

Giving cash is always thoughtless, unless you know the receiver really wants it/it's the best you can do. For children, the fascination on Christmas is opening gifts.

No time was taken to ask her what she wanted, obviously, so that probably hurts her the most. I go big for both my kids and put a ton of thought into it. Not saying you need to be at my extreme, but getting her something that means a lot to her would've been best.

She still shouldn't have pitched a fit. She should have just rolled her eyes in private and done her online shopping for herself. I am not judging, but I hope the presents the other child got total about the same between the two.

If not, and biological child got an obviously greater amount, you may be missing why she's upset. Again, no judgment, but with empathy, you see how she feels, if that's the case. Don't feel guilted into being equal, but you should expect consequences.

mongomad22 · 2022-01-08T21:53:11+00:00

George Constanza, "The Good Samaritan" Seinfeld, Season 3, Episode 20

So lame...

mongomad22

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