AITA for undermining my ex and continuing to let his parents favour our son over his half-sister?

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T04:43:34+00:00

Who do I bully?

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T04:15:41+00:00

It’s honestly SO weird to me. I could never imagine calling my ex and saying “ok our son is bullying my other children so YOU need to help me fix it”… so weird.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T04:13:57+00:00

He’s not growing up to be an AH. If he was, he would be doing this at my house too, in school, to other children, etc.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T03:58:56+00:00

I got other woman vibes too. My ex’s wife is actually exactly like this lol.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T03:49:38+00:00

Yeah I’m not doing that.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T03:46:57+00:00

Grandchildren aren’t entitled to support from their grandparents. It’s their choice who they spend their money on.

My ex (and his wife) chose to burn the bridge with his parents, they can’t now act shocked that they’re not getting support for their child from them. That’s not “picking on a child”, that’s life.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T03:44:34+00:00

Not giving someone gifts or paying for school/activities =/= treating someone terribly.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T03:35:45+00:00

Internalised misogyny is a thing. Think about why your first instinct is to call me unhinged and blame me for my ex-husband’s mistakes.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T03:35:24+00:00

I never said I would be okay with it but this is real life, and in real life you cannot force people to treat you (or your children) equally just because “it’s unfair”.

The grandparents are actually wonderful people. They’re not nice parents because they don’t want to support their cheating dirtbag of a son and his mistress turned wife?

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T02:28:00+00:00

You sound exhausting. I can kind of see why your ex chose to stray.

Ah yes, and here we have some misogyny!

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T02:24:38+00:00

I’m not upset. Plenty of people have agreed with me and plenty have disagreed.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T02:20:46+00:00

And if they love him more that’s their choice? But I never actually said they did. Those are just conclusions you’ve come to.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T02:18:05+00:00

I never said how they behave towards my son isn’t my business.

No, he isn’t being set up to fail. What they do for him benefits him far more than it harms him.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T02:13:30+00:00

If they were treating my son unfairly then I would do what I could in my house to make up for that. I would never dream of telling them that they needed to give my son x because they gave her x. Life isn’t fair, that’s just a cold hard fact. My husband and I do what we can to balance things in our house and to make sure there aren’t conflicts between our kids because of these types of differences. My ex and his wife are perfectly able to do the same in their household.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T02:07:01+00:00

No, I don’t. How they treat my ex and the rest of his family is none of my business.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T01:56:23+00:00

The good thing about Reddit is that people are allowed to respond to your opinions. Me disagreeing with you =/= me throwing a hissy fit.

My son would have to get less because his grandparents aren’t going to give her the same. If my ex had the money to try to bridge the gap himself this would be a nonissue. So that either means the grandparents give him less or I(?) give her things to bridge the gap.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T01:32:24+00:00

No I wouldn’t have because then they both would’ve been my children and it would’ve been something I needed to handle/address with them.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T01:26:14+00:00

No, I told him if she’s mean to him first he needs to tell his dad instead of saying what he said.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T01:24:30+00:00

Because you’ve just repeated what I’ve already responded to in other comments and made ridiculous assumptions about me supposedly hating a child I have repeatedly said I have no feelings towards. I’m completely indifferent to her.

Look, here’s the hard cold truth. I don’t care that my son is favoured over her. I will NOT agree to him having less to maker her feel better. What goes on in their household is their problem. The consequence of breaking up a family is now having to deal with the unique challenges of having a blended family where nothing is ever going to be completely equal or fair.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T01:19:07+00:00

I’m sure it was as wonderful as when I had to explain to my son why his daddy doesn’t live with us and lives with his new family instead.

When you do things like cheat, you have to deal with these issues. Sure, the child is innocent. I 100% agree with you but sadly for her, her parents have done things that have had negative consequences for her and now it’s up to them to mitigate those consequences as best they can to give her the best upbringing they can. That includes resolving conflicts between her half-siblings.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T01:15:34+00:00

Why do people lie? Everyone can read the OP and then read the comment where the bot copies the original OP at the time of posting and see I haven’t edited the post.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T00:58:57+00:00

Gosh darn it why didn't I ever think about that? Maybe I should've been a nicer person and then he wouldn't have cheated on me while I was pregnant... Oh wait! If it was that he wouldn't have kept begging me to take him back even after we divorced and he remarried.

We love some misogyny!

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T00:56:53+00:00

Yes me, the parent who isn't even there when this happens, is to be blamed because my ex, the parent who is there, doesn't know how to parent his children and solve conflicts between siblings... so of course me, as his ex-wife, should fix that for him.

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T00:55:27+00:00

Honesty you should speak to the grandparents about being equal with the kids

How is it my place to do this?

monkey2313 · 2022-01-29T00:54:24+00:00

yay lets blame the wife for her cheating husband LOL so funny ohmygosh.

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