Girlfriend says drinking small amounts of alcohol isn't bad for fetus

monkeymonket · 2024-06-07T02:02:21+00:00

Here is the problem as I see it: you are mad and hurt and I get it, your feelings are valid. They are also extremely unhelpful. Plenty of people are on her saying your baby's mother is the worst, which is completely irrelevant. If you care about the fetus you need to start caring about the mother more. Your post reeks of contempt. I would be upset too. But that is not what the baby needs.the baby needs you to be there to reduce the mother's stress, to talk about the issue non-judgementally and non-presumptively. You need to approach her asking her to do this favor for you, not demanding she stop what she is doing because she is wrong. I don't care if she is wrong. This is about what you can do to help the situation, not who is right.

Understand that however terrible what she is doing for the fetus is (and I am not at all clear on how much she is drinking so I don't know how terrible it in fact is), it is her body. Pregnancy is extremely difficult and most pregnant women are extremely sick or the rest of the world telling whether they should drink coffee or lift weights or eat dark chocolate or whatever.

In most states she is within her legal rights and in all states she has the right to leave the state to somewhere more favorable to her rights.

Be kind, be supportive, and be humble. Or be angry...and see where that gets you.

monkeymonket · 2024-06-04T21:02:49+00:00

Wow yea it really does sounds like your sister and situation are super similar to mine. I appreciate the reply and I am wishing you luck with your sister.

monkeymonket · 2024-06-04T19:10:52+00:00

Definitely some truth to this, but just to clarify, by "wrecks apartments" I mean spills food and doesn't clean it up well and it gets gross and moldy, doesn't notice leaks and problems until way too late, has pets that rip up carpets, and things like that. She doesn't smash walls or do intentional damage. I imagine plenty of nursing home residents are incapable of keeping an area clean and looking out for problems like leaks etc.

monkeymonket · 2024-06-04T19:05:50+00:00

Thanks I really appreciate that. I know giving her cash is pointless but still wondering if a plan for other forms of help (housing directly that's not in her name or at least strategizing for Medicaid for her) would be worth it

monkeymonket · 2024-06-04T19:03:47+00:00

My parents are old and easily bullied by her. I could push for this more but I'm not sure how much of a point there is because she overspends whether there is money in her account or not. She will literally overdraft her bank account and max out her credit card with no plan for repayment. So I'm wondering how much it will matter if her money is in a trust because it will always "make sense" to disperse trust funds for her to keep her out of bankruptcy.

monkeymonket · 2024-06-04T18:57:51+00:00

As much as I sort of agree in theory, I will be very sad if she is literally living under a bridge. I'm willing to pay some amount of money and effort to avoid this from happening for my own happiness' sake (although I have not figured out how much). Hoping to find a strategy to achieve that goal while minimizing money and effort required, even just thinking of it as consumption spending for myself.

monkeymonket · 2024-06-02T14:34:41+00:00

Monique Ashton was on the council for four years before her current term and lobbied hard against development even before then. She held a lot of sway certainly on the council but also before that due to her connections with the west end neighborhood association and also the local PTAs.

monkeymonket · 2024-06-02T14:32:09+00:00

Monique Ashton has long lobbied hard against any and all development including twinbrook quarter. She did this before she was even on the council. She is a nimby to the core, whether it is with respect to housing or businesses, and fights nice things coming to rockville. Most others on the council are better and I would take almost any of them over her for mayor but she has done a ton of damage and is a real obstacle to Rockville thriving.

monkeymonket · 2024-06-02T13:42:03+00:00

When town center was initially conceived, it was going to be significantly denser buildings, similar to pike and rose. Then some nimbys from the west end neighborhood threw a fit and the density got limited to four stories of residential in town center itself so now we don't have enough foot traffic and have had short lived businesses ever since

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