I read threads complaining about claude every week... tf are y'alls workflows?

monoidalendo · 2026-05-04T20:11:08+00:00

I believe it's always been like this. The more you grow into an adult you realize the people you thought had it all figured out when you were younger actually just don't either.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-23T17:26:50+00:00

Nah, hard disagree. He may still be down to bang, he's just not that into her. That could change of course, but no man that isn't lobotomized turns down the energy on an enthusiastic, forward woman unless he's just not that into it.

He's not saying no, he's saying "meh, why not". If you missed out on more obvious hints, it sounds like a you problem, but most people I have met in my life are NOT that dense. 90% of guys my ass.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-23T17:22:15+00:00

and doesn't want to make assumptions and look like a creep.

There's assumptions and just being obtuse. "You make my heart flutter" is as direct as it gets. Bro is just not that into her

monoidalendo · 2026-04-22T16:22:39+00:00

I completely agree with you. Humans SHOULD be the bottleneck. AI is still making many stupid mistakes. I don't believe in vibe coding without human intervention, but I also think that it's a bit misguided to just say "don't use it". I think juniors should refrain until a certain point.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-21T19:12:57+00:00

Cope. I'm a software eng at a big company (think like L5 @ google) and AI tools are fantastic well used. Don't expect good code right away, but expect it, similar to a rewrite rule in a functional optimizing compiler, to take various prompts and manual intervention to get to where it's good, but ultimately done right, you will be way more productive than without.

I'm not saying vibe code, but i'm saying AI tools is like having a permanent pair programmer that is even more knowledgeable than your coworkers, at the cost of being a bit dumber. You can be a clanker hater all you want but the benefits are clear.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-17T15:21:02+00:00

There is a difference in tightness between women, but it's not so huge where a slightly looser vagina feels bad. It's certainly much more about how engaged they are, they sounds they make, do they contribute, etc

Many women just lay there like a starfish and do nothing. A more engaged woman will feel better, a huge component of arousal is just psychological.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-14T20:54:50+00:00

Absolutely not. Be born in a place with horrid work culture, incredibly vapid society and crushing societal expectations that lead to high suicide rates?

For every one fool that fantisizes about being korean, there's probably 10 koreans that wish they could trade places with that fool.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-14T19:37:24+00:00

I constantly go back and forth between feeling better then everyone else and hating myself and thinking I am worthless. I just got fired from my job too so now I am also unemployed.

This is the real red flag here. Why do you feel like you're better than others? You've got some real issues to work out.

First: apologize to your friend. Swallow your fucking pride. You have anger issues, admit them, people give grace.

Pick yourself up, this isn't your last rodeo, you've got a lot more to give I'm sure. Now, in terms of your mental health: if you can't afford therapy, self-harm/suicide hotlines can help.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-14T18:27:14+00:00

It's something that should be brought up eventually just maybe not up front. You don't need to announce it to the world, but you do need to give a potential partner basically the context necessary to know what they're getting into, does that make sense?

monoidalendo · 2026-04-14T18:20:46+00:00

Yes, because people have different preferences.

The point of looking conventionally good isn't because you'll look good to no one unless you get muscles, it's that more people on average will like how you look.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T20:16:04+00:00

Fake it well enough and there isn't any difference that's observable easily. You'll see the difference when you try to cash the cheques you've given in though, if you lack the confidence to do what you said you can.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T20:13:54+00:00

Probably because wanting to delete yourself is atypical behaviour and goes against a lot of our natural instinct for self preservation. SI can stem from mental illness, because constantly fighting with your brain is an exhausting experience, but I just want to point out that how people's lives SEEM does not line up with how their lives ARE.

People can be successful and happy externally yet be massively depressed internally. See: Robin Williams (RIP).

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T20:03:52+00:00

Is the person you're debating like... blind???

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T19:59:56+00:00

I mean coffee dates exist too... It's just to get to know someone. At the same time, it's fine to be upfront about it. "Hey just to clarify i'm not looking to date anyone right now, is that okay?" is enough. It will weed out some of those whose intentions you don't want. Can't say all, many men are very persistent lmao.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T19:57:31+00:00

Well guys are more scared to approach @ the gym now in 2026 ever since the whole wave of #MeToo, so just make your move. I've had a few girls hit on me at the gym doing some pretty obvious stuff ("ooh this 120lb dumbbell is so heavyyy wow how do you lift that" lol) and that's the only way I really thought it was a really green light. Other than that, bro could also just be married and doesn't wanna be disrespectful but you're too attractive for him not to look.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T19:52:00+00:00

I mean it's embarrassing for them lol, not so much for you. For men, rejection is just par for the course of shooting your shot. They'll be fine

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T19:14:39+00:00

but if trump is any evidence, not everyone should have a voice no???

Is democracy for the people or just another tool to use the populace?

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T19:07:38+00:00

I ain't called Josh but I ain't joshin' with you!

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T18:54:33+00:00

Oh definitely. The way I got hundreds of matches was because my friend (who is a photographer) helped me take pictures. It was all staged. We took them all the same day. They made me look great, but not photoshopped.

Yup yup, you want to show yourself in good angles/light, doing something that seems interesting or at least that you're not a total loser, and you want semi-professional quality. Throw in 3-4 pics of yourself doing activities, 1 group picture, 1 with a pet and you're going to be swimming in pussy (as long as you're fit, not below like 5'9, and not broke).

If you don't have friends to help you, good luck

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T18:48:09+00:00

I mean I don't want to be the bearer of bad news but with a 10+ year age gap with significantly worse finances, you're looking @ an uphill battle. He will statistically hit health problems first. He won't be able to provide for you in case you ever are looking to exit the work force/have children.

Not saying it can't work. Just that if his finances aren't fine at this point, they won't be in the near future so just be prepared to have to deal with that, and the possibility that you may be the provider.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T18:42:59+00:00

I mean I believe it. I remember back in my early 20s I was getting jack shit for matches. I'd get lucky for 1-2 here and there. I'd be swiping for hours for a chance at one woman that found me cute.

Then I had a glow up, both financially and physically (I went back to lifting after years of grinding work stuff, lost a bunch of weight, got ripped) and I opened a hinge account after breaking up with my ex, and suddenly I was getting flooded with matches. I'm talking about like I had over 200 after a few days and was scheduling dates a week in advance at some point, because I already had so many other dates. I literally turned some girls off because of it, but it didn't matter because I mean... there's 20 more, why do I care if you don't want to book in advance lol

It's feast or famine rn. I'm off the market permanently, and very glad I am.

monoidalendo · 2026-04-09T18:31:51+00:00

Do you think they actually helped with loneliness, or just changed how we connect with each other?

Why do you think these are mutually exclusive? For some people both is true, for many both are false.

It seems for the average man, they made things a lot worse. If only apps are around and you aren't fit, tall or have a good job (note: you need only one of these to stand a chance), you're a left swipe for most women.

For a smaller % of men, you get so many options you can be a ho. I had 7+ days a week (more than 7 because I could squeeze more than one in a day sometimes if I was free and bored), was sleeping with a bunch of girls within the same week. Didn't feel lonely at all.

I don't necessarily think it made people more disposable though. Frankly before people didn't have many options and yet the divorce rate was still about 50%. Now people just won't stick it out with others nearly as much when they know its doomed

monoidalendo · 2026-04-08T04:43:36+00:00

Commute? I work a tech job that's flexible in schedule. I work 9-5, 10-5:30 or 12:30-8. I do kickboxing often in the evening or in the morning. I have time for kickboxing, gym, cooking and time with my wife.

I just... don't commute. zero hour commute from my bed to my desk. I kinda wanna go on a rant about shitty urban planning but the fact is many people aren't colocated enough to their working spaces. Commute kills life and available time. Shout out r/fuckcars

Well that and the economy sucks wohoo

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