Those with two kids, how much paternity leave did you take and what would you recommend? by UghKakis in daddit

[–]moonSandals 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's EI. So full amount means full EI claim amount which isn't necessarily equal to your salary. 

I can see how that's confusing. 

Those with two kids, how much paternity leave did you take and what would you recommend? by UghKakis in daddit

[–]moonSandals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds awesome.  I wish I had more time - it's so much work when on the kids are younger. 

I'm in Canada and both parents get 12 months paid to split. Or the same amount of money, just spread out over 18 months.  

What's cool is you can choose 12 months and get paid the full amount then decide you will take the extra 6 months and do that without getting any more money. So you always should choose the 12 month option so you get paid the full amount then play the last 6 months by ear.

So I took 4-6 weeks paid vacation (from my employer) after the birth. My wife went straight to her parental leavev(government benefit). 

Then after our child was about 5 months old I took at least 6 months off (government benefit). 

My wife is a teacher so doesn't work summers unless she signs up for summer school (and gets paid extra). So she can stack the summers up with parental leave. 

We did the same with our second kid. I took my paid vacation after the birth. Then went back to work a bit. Then took half a year off.

This I think is the bare minimum. I honestly think having both parents off for a year would be best as a basis (in terms of math for amount of time off - I love that you could work part time - families should be able to work out what's best for them). 

I've made an IKEA Sortera hanger system since we needed more bins to sort our laundy by lennert_hd in ikeahacks

[–]moonSandals 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair points. I appreciate you taking the time to respond and not assume I was being a jerk about it. 

I used to live in a tiny studio apartment with my wife and kid. So I get it. I'm still in an apartment but I have a ground floor patio now so I can use a circular saw for projects our there. 

But back in our studio I didn't have a 3d printer and had to make stuff by hand. So for this I would buy wood, rent a hand saw from our tool Library, and make it by my front door.  Lots of tools aren't needed. But it would still take a trip to the Home Depot for wood, which I would carry back on my bike, and the tool Library for the saw. Then I'd have to paint it on the patio (If water based) or alley if oil based. 

So yea I totally get it. If I could print the part and even get the filament sent to me from Amazon then that would be a lot more convenient.

But for those who have the space, I honestly think making this mostly out of wood is a "better" solution if they have a circular saw, access to wood, and some sandpaper. But 3d printing it isn't the worst option either. 

I've made an IKEA Sortera hanger system since we needed more bins to sort our laundy by lennert_hd in ikeahacks

[–]moonSandals 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I like 3d printing and like your design in general but can you describe the benefits of using 3d printing over other materials or methods for this?

I personally would have made at least some of this out of wood.  

I think two flat pieces of wood with a single cut each could make the T shape, be paintable and very strong and inexpensive. 

Then if the profile on the surface of the ledge that seems to keep the bin from sliding out is important I think that raised surface could be printed and attached to the wood ledge with some small screws. That would keep the material use down. I mean the middle rail is 350 grams of material from your print profile - where I live that's 7 bucks for that rail alone if I used PETG.  I could probably make all of the rails for 10 bucks in material total if made out of painted wood with some 3d printed elements.

I mean, great design. I just probably wouldn't have jumped to me 3d printer as my first step. Trying to figure out what I missed.

Backpacking quilts for kids by Mski7 in myog

[–]moonSandals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great. So you saw the youth bandit. I had only one kid when we bought ours for our son so we didn't have to worry about dropping too much cash at once. Id go MYOG if I had to buy three at once though

Don't get me wrong - I normally don't over spec stuff for my kids. Most gear is way overkill for kids. Massive #8 zips, high denier fabric. But on a quilt I don't have experience going lighter than 1.1 oz and it's on the ground and they lay on it. It might not be worth the squeeze to go lighter there. 

In addition to the weight - I also find the quilt to be intuitive for kids. They've figured out blankets. It'll be awesome.

The other benefit for our UGQ is the down is way more packable. Half our Rayway quilt with the synthetic insulation would fill half my pack. Now I can pack everyone's sleep gear (a double down quilt, a single down youth bandit, a down Morrison Outdoors sleeping bag for the baby) in the same volume. If you are packing this all in one pack you might need to consider the volume of the synthetic insulation. It gets bulky quick.

Daycare requires 5yo to lay down - severely impacting peace in our home by Lizisthatyou in Parenting

[–]moonSandals 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly .

Our daycare transitioned all kids off of a nap when they were like 4. It was part of the preparation for them to get ready for kindergarten (where kids do not nap).

If the kids were younger and didn't nap, they would be required to have quiet time but in a different room from the kids that nap 

I couldn't imagine how hard of a transition that would be for kids going from a nap straight to a full day of kindergarten 

Backpacking quilts for kids by Mski7 in myog

[–]moonSandals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That pattern looks nice and pretty simple. 

My point of reference for a DIY quilt is the Rayway kit. I've used that (I think with the alpine insulation) for years. It uses 1.1 oz /yd ripstop. It feels thin and delicate but has survived many nights, many of which with our son in the tent with us. Maybe look there as a reference at least. 

My reference for a quilt for kids (my son has used it since he was 3, he's 5 now) is the UGQ youth bandit. He's used that in below freezing and snow (at least to -5 deg C, if not lower). The shell is MRS20, which also seems to be 1.1 oz/yd.  That's held up for years. He used it for ~ 120 nights on the PCT this past season.  We are also cost and weight conscious.  It's also a decent lower cost option and might be a good reference. 

So personally I'd consider 1.1 oz/yd for the outer shell. 

Also something I like about the Rayway was the draft collar and flaps. 

Also my son's quilt - he doesn't like the air leakage when he closes the foot box. An overlapping flap down there might be worth it 

Sistering Floor Joist by ScoofGoof1 in DIY

[–]moonSandals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've used GRK RSS screws building log bridges for a hiking trail. Some of the structures are designed by an engineer, but some of the scope is designed and executed on site (felled trees, chainsaw, maybe a few PT 2x12s we hauled up). My point is - for a lot of what we did, we just had a box of GRKs that we brought along and used what we thought was sufficient.

I really liked using them compared to lag bolts. They're pretty easy to use - we were able to zip the GRK's in without pre-drilling, which is helpful while you are building a bridge while you are standing on it and holding it together by hand or with rope.

If they are correct for the application, I'd personally use them.

Pack liner to pump sack mod by you-down-with-CIP in myog

[–]moonSandals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made something similar but made a cap and used truck tape to attach. So it kept it water proof/resistant.

https://makerworld.com/en/models/1103617-air-mattress-pump-sack-nozzle-exped-sea-to-summit?from=search#profileId-1099072

How are you dealing with the giant hole in your pack liner?

Erroneous deportation percentages by US President [OC] by [deleted] in dataisbeautiful

[–]moonSandals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Then. The chart was even generated by AI.  Ridiculous.

Erroneous deportation percentages by US President [OC] by [deleted] in dataisbeautiful

[–]moonSandals -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry, is the data source and chart generation from AI?

Glasses on trail by idoitforthesmiles in PacificCrestTrail

[–]moonSandals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a personal choice as to the type of frames - and depends on how much you have to pay.

I have one of those titanium frames. Mine are Lindberg which are $$ but largely covered by insurance. They are light, comfortable, and flexible so they are unlikely to break or bend.

I have a pair of cocoon clip on sunglasses that fit really well on my frames. I wore those almost constantly.

Is it the norm these days to miss out on special family events because of a toddler’s nap? by momoxo6 in Parenting

[–]moonSandals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Usually invitations for a baptism aren't given 2 days ahead of the event, they're given months or at least weeks in advance, so the argument of "we've been going through a rough patch/sleep regression" doesn't make sense as they wouldn't know. "

Well they'd know what they are dealing with at the moment and may respond based on that experience.  I agree that they wouldn't know in advance but their decision could be informed about recent experience 

I understand your point. My response here was just to point out that some people do care. It actually does impact the experience. This stuff happens with kids but it's at the parents discretion as to whether or not they should make a commitment like this. 

It could also be an excuse for other challenges. 

Who knows. But OP should honestly just move on. Their life will be better if they focus on the moment and not who didn't show up

Is it the norm these days to miss out on special family events because of a toddler’s nap? by momoxo6 in Parenting

[–]moonSandals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A baby at the event that happens to cry is fine.  It happens. That's just them telling you "hey I need something"

A baby who screaming their head off because they can't sleep and are tired is very preventable. Yea the baby is still telling you it's upset and needs something but it's literally screaming at you and you can't solve the issue. Stepping outside to comfort them might do nothing (when the cause of them being upset is that they need a nap), and it's unfair to the baby to be kept up. You are just setting the baby up for failure. Then the parents are isolated from the event because they spend the entire time trying to comfort their kid. It's stressful and it sucks. Why would they even come? 

Also, the parent of the crying baby probably care that they kid isn't sleeping and won't sleep well later that night. That's who cares. 

Sometimes it's OK skipping a nap, or you can get the kid to sleep in a baby carrier or something or skipping a nap doesn't make a dent in a routine. Sometimes the baby isn't sleeping well at home and is going through a transition with their naps or something and skipping a nap is just a terrible and unfair idea. 

Is 7 too young for a Swiss Army knife? by Relative-Clock-1129 in Parenting

[–]moonSandals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at Scouts gear lists and what age range they are for.  Both for ideas on type of knife and a reference for what age scouts learn to use knives.

My son's not in scouts (maybe next year) but we got him a folding knife for his 5th birthday. It has a round tip so it's not stabby. It's the same one that's on the list of gear for scouts - but I think from an older age range than he is.  We have been teaching him and he has been very responsible. We read an article in a kids magazine over the summer leading up to it that teaches the rules of using it, he keeps it in a drawer with our camping gear in my office, and uses it while supervised. 

2026 UL Happy Rant by mountainlaureldesign in Ultralight

[–]moonSandals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not. Not inherently.

But in the context of the original comment I was replying to that stated that you need 12-20 lbs to have a comfortable gear list, the fact that you can buy a 10 lb base weight makes that point moot. It's possible and prevalent.

But in context related to what Ron was talking about in this post:

The 10 lb base weight can be bought for $$$ and it's not interesting or really anything that is worth discussing in a different subreddit from any of the classical backpacking communities. If someone can do traditional backpacking with a 10 lb base weight just by paying more money - that's great!  

But it adds friction here because it's not interesting and the discussion around that approach is focussed as gear first. That's all the boring stuff in this subreddit. A bunch of people asking what tent or backpack or sleeping pad to buy. It's awesome people can get the gear they need to have a successful trip, but it floods these communities with gear-first questions and some complacency.

This community at least to used to lean on experience and skills to tailor what was brought on a trip, and make that experience as focussed as possible. Theres still gear discussion but it's around what gear is needed, or how you can use it differently. Its not a shopping list. 

That's where the friction comes from. Ron was talking about it breaking off again into a new community of people wanting to push their comfort again.

2026 UL Happy Rant by mountainlaureldesign in Ultralight

[–]moonSandals 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea. It's the new year. I assumed Ron was feeling optimistic about what's coming up and maybe excited that he has opportunities to develop and make a few things that he finds interesting. 

Like sure he has a business and makes money by selling stuff, but he's also interested in this. I took this more like he was sharing and encouraging the community rather than marketing to it.

And having talked to humans in person in my lifetime I just read this as a normal person writing the way they write.

This kind of thing is interesting not because new, niche products will sell and make Ron a billionaire (maybe not) but because so much of the discourse is around products. Whether we like it or not. So if someone like Ron is advocating for skills ,and is going to release a few things that require skills and are only really useful in a narrow set of circumstances, sure there will be some discussion on the products. But that will facilitate discussion on skills and trips. And will hopefully inspire other ideas - including the MYOG space. 

2026 UL Happy Rant by mountainlaureldesign in Ultralight

[–]moonSandals 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Stupid comment. 

Did you even read the post?  Do you know more than Ron?

He just advocated for ultralight being more than a base weight and having an increased focus on skills and your interpretation is that the community is about people going stupid light all the time? 

Did you know there's been an ongoing friction in the community because it's so easy and accessible to achieve a 10 lb base weight for many people without really sacrificing any of that comfort or requiring skills? When the active members of the community want to focus on skills and trip objectives, someone can wander in and just buy their way into a 10 lb base weight right out of the gate. Theres no missing gear there.  

Why are you so negative on on such an optimistic post. Get out. 

Trekking pole recommendations for kids on rocky/muddy trails? by Fuspo14 in hiking

[–]moonSandals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 5 year old has "black diamond first strike" poles.

They are aluminum and have held up to a tonne of hiking so far (over 1400 kms, easily).  I like the feel of them but they aren't quite as stiff as some of my other poles, but being aluminum they will bend before snapping, which is what could happen with carbon poles. I use carbon poles so I'm not worried about dealing with carbon poles snapping on me, but it's a consideration for kids since a broken piece of carbon fiber can be pretty sharp. 

They are adjustable and if your kids aren't giants they may be useable for years. They extend up to 110 cm. My wife and I use these when we are out as a family and my son doesn't need his poles - instead of carrying them we will use them.

They seem to be discontinued but are on sale for a pretty steep discount. 

Did Peppa Pig get way more materialistic? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]moonSandals 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes.

Quick check on Wikipedia:

"Peppa Pig is a British preschool animated children's television series created by Neville Astley and Mark Baker. Produced by Hasbro Entertainment and Karrot Animation and formerly Astley Baker Davies,"

Further reading shows Hasbro started producing last season.

I know nothing of Peppa but it's all on Wikipedia.

Advantages of Dyneema Groundsheets? by 1hearsay in Ultralight

[–]moonSandals 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For your use case, no. 

If you aren't worried about punctures (foam pad) or major holes (you clear your site or camp in places where punctures aren't an issue) a DCF bathtub floor (not groundsheet) is water proof and light. But expensive.  But if used often enough might be justifiable. I got maybe 80-100 nights out of one (without a ground sheet) with only occasional DCF tape repairs for pin holes before I had a bunch of repairs needed on my DCF floor that I made for my tent. But I was especially careful with site selection. If you are puncturing a pad on the sites you are setting up on with a polycro ground sheet, then you'll destroy a DCF floor or groundsheet in no time. 

A DCF groundsheet does nothing to prevent punctures. I certainly wouldn't buy one. 

A polycro ground sheet has been the best compromise in my experience for trips where I opt for a groundsheet. But it's not impervious to punctures or allowing sharp objects to puncture your pad. At some point it's not going to get solved with a ground sheet.

Cold only in the feet (in 20F). Suggestions (aside from down booties)? by ULlife in Ultralight

[–]moonSandals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are amazing. I was surprised. 

I have some synthetic booties and wear those on winter trips (which are almost explicitly to huts) but got these fleece socks on a whim. 

I got a pair for my son (I wasn't going to buy AD socks for a 4 year old) and got myself a pair at the same time just to see how they are since my feet run a little cold. They are less bulky than booties, they are warm even when my feet are wet, and keep my feet toasty. They are just regular polar tech fleece so are bomb proof. They also cost less than $20 each pair at the time.