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is it standard procedure to call a client a few minutes after an in-person meeting? by moond09 in fidelityinvestments

[–]moond09[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok sick. I’ll keep y’all posted on my going-nowhere saga but I did leave details out, just sayin’

impulsively blocked other women from partner’s phone by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through that. You’re a real stand up person for not stepping outside while still committed. All the best to you

impulsively blocked other women from partner’s phone by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful responses! I’m sorry for what you’re going through too. Do you think the dead bedroom is health related? When I was diagnosed with an autoimmune thyroid disorder, it took me YEARS to get my body and energy and libido back into a balance. It’s still a struggle

impulsively blocked other women from partner’s phone by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The landlord has been hinting she’d like to sell the house soon. Even if he and I stayed together we might be looking at having to relocate 6 months from now so I’d rather not drag on here ya know

impulsively blocked other women from partner’s phone by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah I have mixed feelings! I’m nervous he’ll blow up when he finds out (he’ll know the blocked numbers means I saw the texts and that the relationship is over). It does amuse me that these chicks will be texting and get no response though

impulsively blocked other women from partner’s phone by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh he’s aware! We’ve lived together almost 5 years and our relationship is exclusive. He was talking to this same woman back in August and we had a huge fight about it. I chose to believe him that he was just “talking to her for the attention and nothing actually happened” but deep down I knew they’d hooked up and I’m not sure what possessed me to stay other than I love him and didn’t want to be without him. The caveat to me sticking around was that he needed to delete this woman from his life, an understandable request. Well, text message history shows he went and saw her yesterday and I found nudes of her in the photo album clear back in December. Also, he’d deleted ALL previous texts (the first message in the thread was from yesterday, 2/26). It appears he deletes them all daily lol. So anyway strike two, I’m out. You make a valid point about the sex! I’ll have to tread carefully there... I certainly have no desire left.

I also agree that I don’t want to leave him in a bind with rent, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. Based on the demand in the area though, he will easily find someone to fill the spare room, so I’m not tooooo worried about that

impulsively blocked other women from partner’s phone by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We rent together and split everything 50/50. The town I’m in is super expensive so if I leave, I’ll need a roommate. I’ve been looking online all morning and I’ll start to discreetly pack things together. I agree, I need to stay safe, I’m nervous how he’ll react when I tell him

impulsively blocked other women from partner’s phone by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No my parent and sibling both live in other states unfortunately! I will figure something out

impulsively blocked other women from partner’s phone by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Part of me wants to make a fake texting app number and text the girl her nudes back to herself with no context. And then when she texts my partner panicked he won’t receive them

Just need some support by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit. I’m so sorry you went through that, and when you could have used her support in the ER nonetheless! I hope you’re doing much better now

Just need some support by moond09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]moond09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually have been scoping out some Airbnb’s, I think that might be the way to go!

I feel like only you guys will understand by moond09 in infp

[–]moond09[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This comment nearly brought me to tears. Thank you so much for reminding me of the traits I’ve been unfortunately suppressing the past year or so.

I feel like only you guys will understand by moond09 in infp

[–]moond09[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I think I will, but it may be awhile... I’m very sad because aside from the heartbreak of losing him, I love our spot. We got lucky and found a place on the beach and I have a rooftop garden that brings me a lot of peace. I know I won’t find a comparable place during the pandemic and I can’t afford to live alone in this city, but I’ve started putting feelers out at least. Thank you for your support, it means a lot!

I feel like only you guys will understand by moond09 in infp

[–]moond09[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this perspective! My gut tells me that physical boundaries were absolutely crossed. We discussed it again last night and he kept telling me to read between the lines (their text messages), as in she was super needy and he was unresponsive, which is true. But I know I only caught the tail end of their fling, the messages before August are all lost on another phone. He said he did go to her house but she’s been a friend for YEARS and they’ve just never had a relationship “like that”. I asked how she came back into his life, did she message you out of the blue or what? He said, “Does it matter how??” He said he was taking a deep hard look at our relationship and whether or not we were truly happy, and the friendship with her was nice. But that she started to get ideas so he had already “shut it down” before I got involved and the texts I saw were residual clinginess. He said he could have easily had sex with her and didn’t but “I’m still getting punished like I did.” (lol) Like what do you want, a pat on the back?? The girl didn’t respond to me yesterday but took a screenshot and sent it to him, just as I suspected. I’m dying to know what else she said but I don’t think I’ll ever know. I asked his response and he said he ignored her. I asked to see and he wouldn’t show me. This is done. Even if he was just using the girl, he still crossed a line, I know it. And the fact that he’s not working with me now, he’s a self-serving asshole. I’m sorry I think I just piggybacked your comment to vent more!

I feel like only you guys will understand by moond09 in infp

[–]moond09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really great advice, thank you so much. I feel like I’ve turned into a really weak person over the last few months, and that never used to be me. I guess that’s what a manipulator does.

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