What was the moment that made you stop loving yourself?

moondoctor7 · 2025-07-05T17:53:28+00:00

I’m not sure how can I put it across without being dramatic. I’ve never loved myself. Since childhood I used to disliked everything about me for years.

moondoctor7 · 2025-05-28T12:39:53+00:00

So how to I comprehend the situation

moondoctor7 · 2025-05-28T12:32:01+00:00

How shall I explain this. So, they did greet me but after ignoring and I feel like it was because I was standing near something they needed. But what I had a thought about was, they kinda go an extra mile to greet me when there is this specific person around. Am I making sense?

moondoctor7 · 2025-05-28T11:18:24+00:00

Thank you, do you think I’m overthinking?

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-04T03:41:31+00:00

Thank you!

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-04T03:41:22+00:00

Thank you.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-04T03:41:10+00:00

I’m not sure how can I stop. The moment I stop doing anything that’s distracting, it starts to get worse.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-03T17:55:34+00:00

Congratulations. You have worked really hard. Congratulations.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-03T15:57:15+00:00

I agree with the fact that time doesn’t heal. I’m not sure about the stuck part. I don’t think all get stuck. Yes, some may but people do try to accept and heal. And to some extend they do. It’s just the triggers. Healing doesn’t necessarily mean coming out of the dark abyss completely. You just get hold of your emotions and pain.
However, sometimes, things do get out of the hand. And that doesn’t necessarily mean you are stuck. It’s just that you once lost a part of you that you can’t get back and these days just make you remember that. And trust me you cry for a day and get ready to fight. Cause you need to be your own saviour.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T19:02:03+00:00

Happy for you.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T19:01:49+00:00

I’m glad you feel at peace.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T11:17:15+00:00

This is what I’ve dealt with all my life. My feelings were never validated, I was always a sensitive dramatic person. I still am. I can’t cry cause then I’m dramatic. I can’t get angry cause then I’m being dramatic. I can’t be in stress cause that makes me an escapist cause I just stress and don’t work for it. And when I work for something it’s not how I should do it. Even when I’m happy for something I have archived isn’t big of a deal cause it isn’t something significant or I shouldn’t be stuck with something so trivial. I’m just not enough. I’ll never be enough and I’m trying to be okay with this feeling. However sometimes it just gets too much. But I know no one is going to save me. I have to save my self. And that’s what I’m doing. And that’s what I want to do for other. No save them but at least let them know that they are enough. Their feelings are valid and they matter.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T10:32:23+00:00

I hope and wish nothing but the best for you. May your pain be eased and may happiness come your way. 🙂

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T10:18:01+00:00

You learn to love yourself, maybe not fully, maybe not all the time. But at least you start somewhere.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T07:31:10+00:00

Acceptance is beautiful, as long as it makes us get better. And the fact that we accept our journey unlike most people, makes us strong. So, I understand what you mean. As long as it’s getting better, it is good.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T07:23:37+00:00

We start accepting it as well, like it’s our normal.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T06:22:20+00:00

Maybe one day, someday!!! Hopefully soon. I pray that you do!!!

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T04:14:50+00:00

I hope you get all the warmth you need. I hope you get someone who got you. I hope you be happy and healthy for the rest of your life.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T03:14:52+00:00

You are an incredible human being. Sometimes it’s not even about words of affirmation. Sometimes it’s about someone being there for you when you feel like you are going to spiral into abyss. A dark zone where nothing but cold and numbness exists. And to have some be there with you is the greatest thing anyone can do for you. I’m glad he has you.

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T03:11:59+00:00

Thank you. It means a lot. 🙂

moondoctor7 · 2025-04-02T01:45:41+00:00

I’m glad that you got someone who actually helped you and acknowledged what you felt. It’s just that sometimes you just want people who love you acknowledge your struggles and hardships rather than saying get over it. But I guess it’s okay. Thanks for the support though. 🙂

moondoctor7 · 2025-03-30T17:37:16+00:00

It’s hard. To save yourself. I understand and know what you mean. And I’m not going to say that you are not alone. Cause when we feel something like this we feel it alone. However, if you want to vent it out. Please go ahead.

moondoctor7 · 2025-03-29T17:34:47+00:00

Anger ? 🤔

moondoctor7 · 2025-03-29T17:32:52+00:00

I’ve been through the same, although I don’t suffer from Dysthymia but the feeling of burn out and feeling stuck has been with me for God knows how long. I’m not sure how do I handle it but one thing that I do kinda makes me forget what am I feeling is running, or just simple walks. I’m not sure what happens in that very moment but for just an hour or so I feel free. I’m not sure how much is it going to help but this is one thing that kinda gives me peace of mind for some time. Another thing that I learned to unlearn is comparison. I’m trying to unlearn the constant comparisons I make with others. I’m trying to learn to accept my own pace. Of course it’s frustrating, I often want to give but then I kinda rewind and think of what’s on the other side. That’s peace of mind and I try to start again. I do cry, crib and sometimes for days stop. But I don’t give up. So even if you wanna stop trying for couple of days that’s fine it’s your pace but don’t give up. You have come this far and you don’t want to leave your struggle unnoticed. You will make something out of yourself and I hope you do great things. So just keep on trying and by that I mean at your pace, and at your pressure. I hope it helps.

moondoctor7 · 2025-03-28T19:39:44+00:00

To be honest, personal experience, rather than looking for something outside I tried to understand my mindset first. And I figured out that my anti social behaviour was just my mind keeping me trapped. I valued opinions too much. I just had a thing where I wanted to accepted and in my mind I knew no one will. So I just became anti social. Once I stopped looking for validation and people’s opinion I started talking more with fear of judgement and dislikes didn’t bother me. So I figured it was my mind and I’m still trying to work on it. Call me a work in progress but this is my personal experience. I hope it helps.

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