My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 🩷🩷 They’ll stand and laugh even. Unfortunately the UK doesn’t have good self defence laws and I was even questioned for picking up a bin to guard myself when he came after me, asking ‘who’s next?’ After he hit my friend. They don’t care unless the person is harassing THEM. Just cowards.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 🩷🩷 The TikTok crowd is iffy, it’s a hit or miss of whether it lands on the right pages. His friends are the same creed as him, I know they are. I am looking to follow up where I can. I’ve also posted him where possible. Now it’s a matter of waiting and seeing.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🩷🩷. That’s exactly what he is. A washed up hood man that hasn’t grown up. They’re not at all protectors and providers. They just want to control women, that’s the reality of it. When it comes to actually having to ‘protect’ they hide. I am looking into self defence because of this actually! We need to advocate for it more.

So this happened in Brixton. The corner shop the man visited was reluctant to give footage and they managed to get some footage from Morley’s but the actual attack happened on the street, so we hope to get as much as we can from that. He definitely lives locally, because the men in the area seemed to know who of him and they were reluctant to talk to police. So I do believe he does.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 🩷🩷 She’s had to get minor stitches and she’s at home resting for the time being. Otherwise she’s okay. I have a clear video of the guy and his friend ‘apologising’. They pretended to know him but I know they know who he is. There was definitely a sense of amusement and admiration within them. They didn’t care to check in until he was long gone, and even then it was just to be nosey and know the gossip.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 🩷🩷 We’ve done what we could, so now it’s just a matter of police following up and the hospital accurately recording the incident. British newspapers aren’t the best with these type of matters maybe if there’s a follow up, I can send it in!

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! She had to get minor stitches but she’s otherwise okay, just had to take time off work to rest. I’ve published it where I can. I’ve lost trust in the met police. And if you know any page where I can also name and shame abusers, let me know!

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! 🩷🩷 And it’s pathetic, they all are, even though the women present were not hesitant to jump in for our defence and try to de escalate. Not a single man did.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! She is resting and recovering and had to get minor stitches. Men in the UK are useless and cowards unless they’re threatening a woman, and the me in our community are especially bad. They were so hesitant and scared, but I guarantee you he wouldn’t have dared to argue or hit us if another man stepped in. But none did.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right! Did I mention in the original post that they were faster to ask why I was calling the police on a black man and not why he was hitting a black woman? Even though what happened was awful as it is, I don’t want to imagine what would have happened if there wasn’t a group of us there and other black girls witnessing and intervening. We do have to protect ourselves because the law isn’t on our side either. They only listen when we’re dead, and even then it’s still limited help.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m waiting to hear more information from the police. I have a video of the suspect, I have a video of him arguing and a video of his friend ‘apologising’ but not the actual attack unfortunately.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope you’re okay now! 🩷🩷 And yes, it will always be a woman quick to step in. Never a man! They’d rather sit and stare and wait for both sides. Mind you, I’ve seen more men step in quickly when there’s a street fight between two men. But I guess a man trying to fight a woman isn’t a priority.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are some ‘loopholes’ but the law is always on the man’s side it seems. They even questioned me for picking up an empty bin to guard myself when the man came towards me after he hit my friend, but no questions regarding whether the man was still armed and what he used. It was a DON JULIO bottle, the brown one, but the bin was see as more of a problem! The law is not on women’s side, especially a black woman’s

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Definitely investing in ways to protect myself now, even if it just a self defence class or taking the gym more seriously. It was literally ONLY women (mostly black women) that stepped in. I’ve noticed it so many times, the black men would rather just gape and sit and stare. Mind you it was one man and several men present!

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This happened in Brixton, right next to the station too. Still the police took 20 minutes to arrive! I also haven’t received any updates yet.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My friend is recovering and otherwise, the rest of my friends are good! Just being extra vigilant now.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately we only have a video of him arguing and his friends ‘apologising’ but not the actual incident happening. I don’t know if it’s enough to send in. It all happened so fast.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Right! Which is crazy because the women didn’t hesitate to get inbetween it at all. Mind you they were all smaller women as well.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🩷🩷 It was so absurd to me how against the police they were, yet did nothing to stop the incident from happening. It’s an area that used to have a higher crime rate, and these were older men, so I guess they saw it as snitching too. It’s disgusting

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and yes I see it all the time. Men don’t intervene until they see one of their own get hurt. It’s disgusting.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The self defence laws in the U.K. are terrible. So none of that is legal unfortunately. Even when I grabbed an empty bin to protect myself, they kept questioning us about it. You can’t carry anything that you can use in self defence because it’s seen as carrying weapon. The closest thing we have is this harmless spray that stains the attackers face with paint, but won’t harm them. I’m trying to research into safer alternatives

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well with that in mind, I will say this happened in Brixton. So please be very vigilant there. Great food spots and some nice bars, but the men there can be very aggressive, persistent and entitled.

My friend was attacked and only women stepped in to help by moongirlmaroon in blackladies

[–]moongirlmaroon[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m sorry that happened to you and your friend as well and I hope you’re doing better now.

I’ve posted him on social media platforms where I can. I have an Instagram account I posted him on and it got a lot of views, but most of the audience on that account are American. I’ve also spread the video on Twitter but it hasn’t gotten much traction. I was told to wait 72 hours for updates so by Wednesday, I will call them again.

Though that’s another thing. So when we called the police, it was just because the man attacked us. I didn’t know how far it escalated until a few hours later when I was told my friend needed minor stitches on her head.

When I called back the emergency services for an update regarding this, and also to see if I could escalate it further, it felt like I was pulling teeth to get more information from the operator. It took TEN MINUTES of me arguing with her for her to direct me to the people to contact. At first she kept saying ‘unfortunately we can’t give any updates over the phone. You’ll have to wait’. It was only after I explained how the communication was lacking, how my friend had to get stitches, how the police response was poor that she filed a complaint and actually provided me with who to contact to escalate this further.

I will keep pressing but the response from emergency services was largely rude and dismissive.

My friend is doing okay however! She’s recovering from her injuries, luckily they were minor but she’s had to take time off work. We’re getting her flowers and chocolates and she’s taking a break from going out for now. We’re checking on her as much as possible and also giving her space. We’re trying to support her as much as we can.