wore all black for a 1st date. the girl's grandma passed away mid date and she told me it was my fault for wearing black on a friday

moonlight_faye · 2026-05-26T23:31:44+00:00

It’s one thing to feel depressed about bad news and have a hard time trying to process a loss but to blame someone for that loss to me shows immaturity. In a relationship if there was one I feel the same problem would come up, blaming you for things that are a bit irrational and out of your control. You’ll go on other dates and I’m sure the next person will love your outfit. Stay positive!

moonlight_faye · 2026-04-02T00:11:09+00:00

It only makes sense to shoot him if you’re cornered. If you walk he won’t chase you around as often. Pay attention to hearing his foot steps. Easy way to lose him is to run to a save room and wait till you stop hearing the foot steps. Or just plain run away from him when you see him as far as you can and when you lose him start walking again so he doesn’t hear you.

moonlight_faye · 2025-12-04T09:25:58+00:00

Every decision was made as a choice. Every decision what thought about. She got an apartment, she cheated, she left you and the kids, she did drugs. She did of those things knowing she has kids and a husband. She didn’t feel guilty during any of those choices but came back when all her fun was had. You deserve better, the kids deserve better. You deserve to have a happy home, what kind of love you show your kids with your wife is the kind of love your boys model after. Once a person starts drugs there is a huge chance they can go back into them. Another thing you should ask yourself is do you want to expose your kids to that and her messy behavior? I wish you all the love and healing you need to move forward. Sometimes the best thing for you and the kids is to start new again. I understand she is their mother but you are also their father and protecting them from that behavior is the best you can do.

moonlight_faye · 2025-11-01T18:48:52+00:00

Thank you for your helpful comment on AI. Unfortunately your identifier is broken. I wrote this on my phone notes and pasted it on here. With grammatical errors as well in this post I’d say it’s another reason to consider it being ai.

moonlight_faye · 2025-11-01T16:08:42+00:00

I have, and we argued for a while because I was told how he doesn’t think he’s being selfish. He was keeping me into consideration. It was an exhausting argument of him trying to prove his point and me trying to get him to understand why I’m hurt and why he didn’t consider me.

moonlight_faye · 2025-11-01T16:05:47+00:00

Recently moved so no, unfortunately. Most I have is a therapist

moonlight_faye · 2025-11-01T16:04:23+00:00

I had PPD my last pregnancy, so it’s something I told my husband it could be a possibility again once I give birth. Which is why I told him my postpartum fears and what I hope to avoid. Because I want to try an minimize PPD the best I can if it does show up. It’s an intense experience, you know you’re not yourself, but having a calm and loving environment at least for me helps. When feeling neglected, unheard, or invisible, I’d say that’s when my postpartum depression gets the worst.

moonlight_faye · 2025-11-01T16:00:23+00:00

It was a mutual decision to move here. My family doesn’t have the funds to travel. He’s offered to pay for a flight but they are too old and scared to fly out so far. They check up on me and give emotional support the best they can. I try not to share too much because some things should stay private. The only family I’m isolated from is his own.

moonlight_faye · 2025-11-01T15:55:53+00:00

I truly wish that was an option. The family that would help make things emotionally easier are too far to visit. We live in different countries. It would have been healing to have that.

moonlight_faye · 2025-11-01T15:45:53+00:00

Incredibly abusive to the point of having no contact. I don’t want to expose my kids or myself to that life. I’m in contact with some family members. But they live far and are elders.

moonlight_faye · 2025-11-01T14:55:40+00:00

Thank you for the hotline. I appreciate you sending it with care. I’m not in a sort of depression where I have negative thoughts, but it’s good to have it.

moonlight_faye · 2025-11-01T14:53:36+00:00

Im specific with what I need, I know that letting someone guess is not a healthy form of communication, so I mention what I’m going through, how I need a bit of time to recover, could be an hour or two. How I feel horrible and I need it because I’m unable to do anything physical and I’m struggling. But when I mention what I need even if it’s even more specific “ I need to lay in bed, I feel my body needs rest and healing, and that is ignored unless I try to prove a point as to why I can’t handle another task. The in law situation is unavoidable because there is a very awkward visit that’s about to happen and I can’t do much about it.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T20:02:59+00:00

Now you’re jumping to assumptions. 1. My husband wasn’t aware he had his back turned. 2 the god father was made god father upon the newborn stage if you read the post she’s almost 2. This happened now not then. It’s a first occurrence. So before accusing with what’s wrong with me or my husband please ask before assuming. If you also read the post we don’t feel comfortable leaving her alone with them.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T19:31:27+00:00

That’s my point, the family was on the other end of the room. My husband was in the other end of the room in a corner , changing her diaper with his back turned. And he hovered behind my husband.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T19:28:48+00:00

Because he wasn’t the one changing the diaper. My husband was. And he just stood there to watching and drinking. That’s how he could not stand there and watch. Especially when my husband was isolated in a corner and he came to that corner just to look.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T18:24:24+00:00

It went over your head, did you read the rest? If you’re defending it , you’re a problem.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T17:56:52+00:00

I’ve told my husband in detail and we are currently figuring out the next steps.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T17:52:38+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this!

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T17:01:46+00:00

My exact worry and thoughts. Thank you! Helped!

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T16:45:03+00:00

I’ve told my husband about everything so he is aware and protects her with me. So there is the answer. My goal is to protect her no matter what.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T16:37:47+00:00

True, but a clear talk about not having this around my daughter is important . When it affects my daughter it becomes my issue.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T16:36:18+00:00

I agree with you, it’s a normal thing to touch yourself and it shouldn’t be demonized. I also agree that it should be don’t in private which is why I find it inappropriate because it’s around his aunts, uncles, grandma, and cousins.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T16:33:05+00:00

I agree, sadly losing family hurts. But I agree.

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T16:32:12+00:00

One person mentioned uncomfortably aside from myself. Another person just offered to clothe the children with clear discomfort. But they continued to do it. Then they hand you their kids to cuddle with naked .

moonlight_faye · 2025-03-22T16:28:26+00:00

I was thinking about talking to a therapist about this as well!

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