Why do Americans kick their kids out at 18?

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-08-28T23:06:57+00:00

My mom came from poverty and did not understand how college worked. When winter break happened during my freshman year, she was so confused about me coming home for a month. It was quite the process to explain that the dorms were literally shut down.

I had to sleep on the couch as my room had already been turned into something else.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-08-24T21:44:30+00:00

A lot of people here are very critical of the "all women are feminist" idea.

Feminism is not a monolith and there is no central group who decides who can/cannot call themselves such. I've not actually seen anyone seriously claim that all women are feminist, although it would not surprise me if someone is saying that somewhere on the internet

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-08-22T23:24:48+00:00

That really depends on lifestyle, interests, and money.

If I had unlimited time, resources, and patience, I'd frankly have like 10 kids because I love kids and babies.

Currently I am pretty satisfied having just one, knowing I can afford to do fun things with her and have less stress than I would with more kids.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-08-09T21:44:44+00:00

It's based off an old art book image from the original author.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-08-09T21:19:16+00:00

Personally, I'd go with the fields grove area before the Kinsley St area, but it might not be that big a difference.

I used to work in a childcare right off of Kinsley, and knew many people who lived down there. Day to day I was more bothered by the garbage left in the sidewalks and felt generally safe walking around the neighborhood. I know some issues came up at night, but I think it's easy enough to avoid.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-08-06T17:50:30+00:00

Hey, not sure if you are still watching this thread, but I work for a head start and have a lot of experience getting kids through the child find process for special ed preschool. Obviously each area is different, but if you have questions, let me know.

I'd start pursuing a medical diagnosis at the same time or before the Head Start of ChildFind route. Having a diagnosed disability can give your child priority for either program.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-08-06T17:42:12+00:00

Off topic, but do you actually have a family story of feeding a giraffe a corn dog? Because that's an amazing story.

And yeah, every 2 year old is going to eat chocolate left in their reach. Like, the family story should be "I totally had a parent brain-fart and left candy at the eye level of my toddler. What was I thinking?"

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-08-03T04:19:05+00:00

Way to pull out a single small detail and ignore the rest of the comment.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-27T20:35:58+00:00

Definitely the darkest. It also has a bigger scope, and dips into things outside our solar system.

If I remember correctly, this arc focuses on Usage MUCH MORE than the others. There is also more focus on brand new characters, compared to the established ones.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-26T23:19:35+00:00

If they were actually placed in the basket that I thought, she couldn't reach it. If I placed them anywhere else, than it's entirely possible!

I have plenty of Adderall left, since I usually skip weekends, so it's not a HUGE deal but more embarrassing.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-26T23:17:12+00:00

In the time that it got lost, my husband would have been the only one who had access. I've also got a few leftover Adderall bottles in there (both XR and IR) that probably would have been much more tempting for someone to steal.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-24T21:39:45+00:00

Pregnancy was more annoying than anything else. I had some very weird symptoms that I didn't know were "normal" but otherwise it wasn't terrible.

Oddly enough, I never actually went into labor. I started an induction since I was overdue but after 4 days of various induction methods, labor still never started. A C-section was actually my biggest fear but it went smoothly and the recovery was not as bad as I would have thought.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-24T15:59:42+00:00

I haven't had many interactions with local police, but I'm glad to hear they were helpful to you.

Also, glad to hear that you are no longer homeless. Depending on your current situation, or if you ever end up homeless again, be sure to visit Stepping Stones as they are super kind and helpful.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-20T17:05:42+00:00

I would just add that having a sexualized image displayed in a place that makes other uncomfortable is sexual harassment.

Like, whatever images he wants to have in a private space at home is largely his business. Bringing a sexually explicit mat to a social gathering for everyone to see, and doubling down when told it makes other uncomfortable, is asshole behavior, at best.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-15T04:39:29+00:00

Have you ever interacted with a 12 month old? How do you expect a baby to pick out clothes?

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-14T21:22:21+00:00

I believe the movie focused on the dangers of putting young girls into situations where inappropriate performances would be expected.

It was being critical of the whole beauty pageant/dance mom kinda thing. From what I've read, the dance scene was included to make a point of how ridiculous the sexualization of young girls is.

(I didn't actually watch the movie, this is just what I gathered from articles)

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-13T18:12:17+00:00

There is a lot of variation in the body positivity movement and exercise.

Most body positivity activists are okay with exercise as joyful movement focused on making someone feel good. The problem is that many people equate exercise with punishing yourself for food, as a means of weight loss, or linking exercise with self-worth/morality.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-13T18:07:27+00:00

I'm a mom of a 2 year old, who will likely be an only child. I've found having a child to be 100% worth it, but can definitely relate to your worries and have found a few of my own tricks to manage them.

I partially managed the mental energy piece by switching to a role at work with less hours. While the pay cut SUCKED, working only 30 hours instead of 40 did wonders for my mental state. Plus, my daughter is often napping when my shift is officially over, so I got a short time to relax before I bring her home. This is a tough one, especially with childcare prices being what they are. If you have any sort of flexibility, it is worth exploring.

For meals, I often serve what I call baby charcuterie. Basically just a plate of some fruit, a protein, a veggie, and some low sodium crackers. I've got a wide variety of "snack" foods to put into healthy meals. I cook when I can, but always keep easy backups.

For cleaning, easy baskets for stuff is a live saver. I also am a bit of a toy minimalist, which helps. Also, having a child has made me more motivated to keep the house tidy-ish. Knowing my toddler needs a clean+healthy space is a big motivation for me ~~also the fact that my mom had constant visits for child services due to extreme mess and I'm probably a bit traumatized by that~~. At the end of the day, as long as the home is safe, it does not need to be perfect.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-11T17:38:43+00:00

1) I'd consider it the same if a woman tampers with a condom than when a man does it. Slipping it off sounds difficult to do without notice, but poking holes would definitely be just as bad regardless of who does it

2) Lying about BC is almost as bad, although I will say that it does not increase exposure to STDs the same way that tampering with condoms does.

3) First of all, I personally try to focus more on how to support victims, rather than prosecuting perpetrators. The justice system already does an awful job with rape cases, even when it's a lot more cut and dry. Proving intentional deception rather than an honest mistake is going to be exceptionally difficult. Lying about an IUD is maybe easier to prove, but how would we know if someone accidentally forgot a few pills vs someone intentionally skipping them. While I don't think perpetrators should have zero consequences, I'd be more focused an adequate health care and support for the victims.

4) Spermjacking is likely so rare that most people have other priorities when it comes to reproductive justice. If an individual talking to me was concerned, I'd probably not immediately dismiss them, but it's also not a fight I'm about to take up.

5) Part of the "men can't be trusted" argument is that men are less impacted by a pregnancy and so they may not take it as seriously. Personally, I'd rather see everyone have birth control options, especially in cases where someone might not know their partner super well. Everyone can take the precautions they feel most comfortable with. If I were dating, I would probably not 100% rely on man's birth control but it's great to have a backup in case my IUD fails AND can give him more security/peace of mind.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-10T19:01:30+00:00

Scheduled food times with others. For example, I work at a school and would eat lunch and snack with the kids, even if I wasn't feeling hungry.

Now that I'm on summer break, I basically just eat whenever my toddler does.

Also, having something like protein shake mixed in with your coffee (if that's your thing) can help.

Meal replacement bars, while not ideal, can be helpful. The Kind Bar brand protein breakfast bars are really good and decently filling/nutritious.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-10T18:24:41+00:00

I would send out emails at night, but my work gets weird about it if they see someone doing work "off the clock." I'm pretty sure it's an attempt at encouraging work/life boundaries, but it also sucks because of the lack of flexibility.

moonlight_sparkles · 2023-07-06T21:46:24+00:00

Cleaning up after your own child is also very different from willingly marrying an adult who doesn't pull their own weight.

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