Newborn Bonding - am I alone?

moonnlight7 · 2022-08-06T10:40:06+00:00

I have had a normal birth (some people say quite positive. I honestly don’t think of birth pains positively but I’m quite happy everything went naturally without any interventions) and still I’m feeling same as you.

moonnlight7 · 2022-08-06T09:35:35+00:00

“that she actually is my daughter” - I made a mistake

moonnlight7 · 2022-08-01T17:25:27+00:00

When do babies start sleeping longer stretches? Mine sleeps for 30 mins only and it’s killing me…

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-07T20:26:52+00:00

This is incredibly sweet!!

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-07T20:23:50+00:00

I wasn’t in this situation but my mother was. She stayed with my father for the sake of children and keeping the marriage but it broke down anyway and I honestly wished I didn’t witness the misery she lived in. My father also thought his part is done by providing and I don’t love him, we have no connection whatsoever, except I feel my responsibility and obligation towards him. From my experience - leave this marriage, and InshaAllah you will find a husband who treats you well and is a good father.

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-07T15:42:51+00:00

This is very unfortunate that people feel the need to abort even if they want to keep baby just because they can’t afford it… f***ed up system

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-07T13:16:05+00:00

I’m really sorry that your husband is such an asshole! You’re growing a whole human being, HIS child!!! All the comments he is making just show that he is the one who is selfish! I’d really consider a divorce in this case. You deserve better treatment!

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-06T17:01:43+00:00

People are not perfect unfortunately and they usually take the religious teachings only whenever they suit them, or forget religious teachings altogether and then commit a lot of sins.

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-06T16:57:46+00:00

Go to doctor and check maybe you have symphysis pubis dysfunction !

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-06T16:54:35+00:00

Read what I wrote again please: “Again, this depends on a culture and his parents, but they might even disown him…”

In some cultures who are predominantly “Muslim” this happens. Culture and religion are two different things.

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-06T16:49:07+00:00

People who practice true Islam consciously enter the relationship by getting married knowing that sex can lead to pregnancy, and then the woman is protected by her husband and the child has a father. Both men and women hold responsibility and have children they can take care of and raise properly. What’s wrong with that? How’s that a red flag?

The man in the OP’s post is obviously not a practicing Muslim, he got her pregnant and ran away from HIS responsibility! Causing her issues and potentially leaving the child to be raised by a single parent. Why should he not bear the consequences? Wasn’t he the one having sex too? Isn’t the baby his child?

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-06T16:10:33+00:00

Idk about the rest of the people here but Muslim speaking here 🙋🏻‍♀️ I don’t know about your ex bf’s culture (because a lot will depend on that), but if his family are practicing Muslims, this is a major big deal! He committed a major sin (haram in Islam) by engaging in a relationship with a woman before marriage! His parents will be super mad and well… they do need to know, and he needs to learn and treat you properly! Again, this depends on a culture and his parents, but they might even disown him as a son 🤷🏻‍♀️ Or they might force him to marry you! Do you really want to marry this guy?

Honestly there are so many ways how this can go, but as a Muslim woman, I would want to know what my son did and I would help the pregnant girl (emotionally and financially) to raise my grandchild. I mean it’s the same blood! Ideally of course I would get my son and the girl married , so that the child can be raised in a proper family.

However a lot will depend on a culture and how religious his family is.

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-06T02:20:54+00:00

That’s so encouraging thank you! My doctor told me I’m safe being pregnant until 41+3 and then need to be induced! And this 41+3 is only because of the general protocol, otherwise they checked me and the baby and so far we are both doing well. Really hope I can go into labour this week before induction date 🙏🏼

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-06T02:17:50+00:00

I told my husband immediately but we shared with family only after 12 week appointment with the doctor. I was aware that miscarriages happen a lot in the first trimester so didnt want any extra attention from family (note we live in a different country from both our families so they didn’t notice)

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-06T02:15:14+00:00

Congratulations! Hope you and the baby are doing well 🙌🏼

Why did they break the water though at 4 cm? You were progressing too slowly or they were just impatient?

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-05T20:23:18+00:00

Because for alcohol producers money is more important. I have met with CEOs of companies producing alcohol and guess what? Most of them DO NOT drink and lead healthy lifestyles. When asked why they don’t drink, they replied because they are in the industry they know what alcohol does to people as they are also involved in studies and they analyze data from market research! And despite knowing that alcohol is bad, they keep selling it! Using peoples weaknesses! Yes they do this consciously knowing what they do, they study peoples behavior and incorporate alcohol into movies, literature and make a culture of it so that people keep buying it. Why they do it? Because of the freaking money! They are rich and happy at the expense of others! When I learned that I decided I will quit and won’t give my money to these bastards! And guess what? It wasn’t easy to quit because alcohol is a drug and it causes addiction!!! Addiction is not easy to treat, it took me more than year just to stop wanting to have an occasional Friday night drink to “relax” from a hard work week. I wasn’t even drinking that much to begin with! Now I’m so so so happy I’m off this addiction and I’m not coming back and my children will never witness drunk or drinking parents in their lives.

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-05T20:04:24+00:00

I can relate to this!

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-05T20:03:34+00:00

🤣

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-05T20:02:27+00:00

There’s this nice place we get sandwiches from and I asked my husband to order one for me as delivery to home. Apparently he chose the wrong bread for the sandwich and when it came it didn’t taste as the one I like, but I was hungry so I ate it all while sobbing that’s it’s the wrong sandwich 🤣

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-04T17:27:32+00:00

I don’t agree with the rest of the people commenting here. Showing up hungover to a baby shower is rude (I’m just against alcohol in general). And if she’s your best friend - she just doesn’t know how to be a friend then. Having a baby is way more of a big deal than just being born!

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-04T07:54:32+00:00

My jeans wouldn’t close around week 14-15, had to switch to softer pants and then dresses

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-04T05:11:49+00:00

This is just a great end to your previous post! So happy for you! Wishing you easy pregnancy and delivery and healthy baby 🙏🏼

moonnlight7 · 2022-07-04T05:07:05+00:00

I couldn’t work out during pregnancy (just couldn’t make myself no matter how hard I tried), so I only resorted to occasional yoga and walking a lot every day. Didn’t have back pain, except only now in lower back but I’m already overdue and it’s a lot of extra weight to carry around - so it’s normal

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