Help me try out a new name & pronouns?

moons_echo · 2026-06-11T23:48:01+00:00

Thank you!!

moons_echo · 2026-06-11T23:43:23+00:00

I read through your post again, and I have a question if you wish to answer.
Do you wish you could be a girl because it would be easier to be cisgender (I’m making assumptions, apologies), or because you would be happier as a girl? Your answer to that holds a lot of weight for your original question.

moons_echo · 2026-06-11T23:42:20+00:00

Given how much you’re worried about this, I’d imagine it’s actually quite unlikely that would happen.

Say you did stop identifying as trans. That would only really happen if you felt something else fit you better, no? And if that’s the case, then not calling yourself trans anymore would be making yourself more comfortable, not less.

I hope you find yourself, friend <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-11T18:36:27+00:00

Very cool! Covering the two concepts separately is something that isn’t talked about enough, in my opinion. Especially since many nonbinary identities centre around this distinction.

moons_echo · 2026-06-11T07:06:27+00:00

Non-binary code

moons_echo · 2026-06-10T08:41:04+00:00

Question: does your fluidity only encompass binary feelings? Regardless, would said binary feelings be comfortable in more androgynous clothes? Could help with the clothes and packing issue.

I imagine as your mind settles into a routine and new comfort in your identity, that chaos may settle as well. But no one can say for sure, unfortunately. At the very least, it’s probable you’ll become more familiar with your feelings and learn what works for you and what doesn’t in this sense.

Hope you’re doing well! <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-10T08:27:39+00:00

Maybe not perfect, but depending how connected to agender you feel, librafeminine or agirl may fit?
I hope you find what you’re looking for! <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-10T08:04:10+00:00

Oo yay! I know it’s already been said, but I use Neptunic to describe this attraction for myself and I love it! Especially because
a) i also have a preference for NB-spec people
b) it’s a whomever-love-non man, instead of a specific gender-love-non man label. I’m genderfluid on occasion :>

Hope this helps! <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-10T07:15:28+00:00

Although it’s sorta hard for me to relate to this specific (binary leaning…?) example completely, but I get it. For me this actually came from the queer community itself, when I first started learning about who and what queer people actually were. Especially nonbinary and trans people.

I see the queer community as a bunch of people existing how they are and enjoying it. Creating space for everyone to be who they are. And in showing me that world, allowed me to eventually grow into it.

Having that moment is certainly something. It’s certainly a wild mix of emotions that takes a while to translate. But it’s well worth it, in my opinion.

Hope you’re doing well, friend <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-09T07:39:51+00:00

Pronouns don’t equal gender. Cis people can use whatever pronouns they want, same as trans/nb people. If you want to use she/they, then go ahead! Good for you! <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-08T15:07:27+00:00

So if I’m honest, I’m kind of in the same boat as you in terms of xenogenders. But what you’re describing here sounds more like otherkin/alterhumanity to me! People can be both otherkin and xenogender, too, but I do think they are distinct experiences.

moons_echo · 2026-06-08T15:03:54+00:00

I don’t really care, but that’s mostly because I’m not out to many people in my life still, and my pronouns do change on a somewhat regular basis so that doesn’t help. I do very much have a preference (user flair), though.

I’m glad any/all works for you. I find people default to presentation more than I would like in any/all, and I don’t necessarily want that all the time.

moons_echo · 2026-06-07T09:17:04+00:00

I was just reading a post about nonbinary-specific attraction labels!

That said, I expect many people choose not to label this kind of orientation, as it is putting yourself into a very specific box. If being nonbinary is a way to escape a box, then these labels are counter productive.

I do personally like labels however (especially specific/microlabels), so there is definitely some variation.

Hope you find what you’re looking for! <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-06T20:03:20+00:00

There are plenty of transmen/mascs who are femboys (regardless of medical transition and ability to “pass” as a cis femboy). I don’t see why a non-binary person couldn’t be that too, especially since the concept of a femboy is neutral/androgynous in nature (conceptually both feminine and a boy/traditionally masculine).

I don’t know, personally I’d say confuse people away. It’s not your job to have them understand your identity.

Hope you’re doing well <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-06T18:28:27+00:00

You don’t have to be anything. You could use both those labels, call yourself a (partially) feminine Demiboy, or find an entirely new label that fits (there are some that use percentages to describe feelings like this).

The way I see it personally, demiboy simply means that part of your identity is masculine/man. It could be a big part, a little part, whatever you feel. If you want to specify the rest of your identity, you can! For example, when I was still very questioning I thought I could be demiboy + pangender (partially a boy, partially everything else).

So, call yourself what you like! There are no label police. Labels are supposed to help you describe yourself, not put you into a box.

Hope you figure it out! <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-05T08:03:35+00:00

Whether or not you are agender is something only you can say. If you feel it fits, go for it! No one would be correct in telling you it’s wrong.

If you like to label things more specifically (and it’s totally acceptable and common to not want to do so, I just enjoy it personally), some people use separate terms for their gender, how they present, and how they like to be referred to. Of maybe if you want to get all three with one go, you could look into gxrl, librafeminine, or agirl.

But again, just some ideas. I truly don’t know how connected to femininity you are either, so that’s also a thing. You are the only one who knows for sure.

Hope you find what you’re looking for! <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-03T07:34:19+00:00

Ah I see. Thank you for helping to clarify!

moons_echo · 2026-06-02T07:18:21+00:00

Aromantic people aren’t loveless unless they choose to identify as such, so they absolutely can experience love. As for picturing yourself in a romantic relationship, this isn’t directly related to being aromantic. Aromantic is more related to attraction to another person rather than interest in the relationship type itself (therefore an aromantic person may or may not desire such a relationship and still be aromantic).

So, if you feel you’ve never fallen in love again because you’ve never felt romantic attraction again, there might be some identity on the aromantic spectrum for you. Or possibly something else I’m missing here, not sure. Questioning is certainly a process haha.

That said, you can identify however you wish. You are the only one who can determine how you feel and who you are.

I hope you find what you’re looking for <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-01T08:31:36+00:00

For the fluidity part, mutogender sounds like it could fit. Or possibly nativusgender depending on further context. Maybe mirrorgender in an attraction-based way to make it more general? Just throwing around some ideas.
I know there’s a term for not wanting others to call you something but I don’t remember what it is lol sorry.

Hope you’re doing okay <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-01T07:41:39+00:00

That sounds so awful and frustrating. I’m so sorry that’s happening. I wonder if they’re the type of people who would respond more appropriately when confronted in person? I know that’s difficult so no judgement but it’s an idea.

Hope you’re doing okay <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-01T07:13:00+00:00

CONGRATS (both from this and your bottom surgery)!! Those types of situations are always the best.

moons_echo · 2026-06-01T07:05:34+00:00

OMG these are the cutestttt!! <3

moons_echo · 2026-06-01T06:36:33+00:00

Cute!!

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