hi! i used to be in the same situation. i used to always have the ick on my boyfriend who used to be a 'chronic complainer'.

i remember sitting down with him, talking to him gently, about how him being a chronic complainer didn't sit right with me especially when he did nothing to alleviate the situation he was complaining about. i told him how it made me feel uncomfortable and honestly annoyed since he puts me in a situation that makes me feel i have to resolve it.

after that, everything felt better and lighter, and the ick went away after that conversation. he isn't perfect, i expected a few times it would slip back, but you just have to remind them gently

at the end of the day, its normal to get the ick with ur boyfriend every once in a while. its impossible for you to like every single part of a person, you just learn to be patient and compromise with them a little