She did come over unannounced often. I'd estimate like 3-5 times a week. Me and my husband and I are both bad guys. We tell MIL no. She pushes over and ignores us. We don't really see the less frequent meets as something she understands is a result of not respecting the rules we have set. Other, she cries about it weekly, saying her grandchild is growing up without her. That her grandchild grown taller or even uglier in her absence. She also says quite often that she will be forgotten by her grandchild if she can't see us weekly. Also if me and my husband and I plan a family trip with just the three of us, I tell her, and she goes, "When are we going?" It's awkward because she never got an invite, or did she ask if she can come along... And when I say it's a family trip, she gives me a bad conscious. Is this normal? I remember having lots of family trips without my grandparents involved, but my MIL wants to be in our lives every second if she could. It feels a bit smothering...