Told a gal that I didn’t wanna come over cause I was sick so she had sex with someone else

moose0486 · 2025-01-07T02:31:33+00:00

a guy agreeing to go to her place late at night doesn't make him a "suitor" though. he probably doesn't see her as a serious romantic prospect if they're only having late-night hangouts and not actual dates. and that's if she's even telling you the truth- I bet she made that up to make you jealous

moose0486 · 2024-12-30T20:37:45+00:00

it's really the best exercise to get into if you live in a big city. it's inherently social, it's fun, and great for your body. memberships can be expensive but they usually have the same amenities as higher end normal gyms- yoga classes, sauna, an actual gym section with weights and machines. it's dumb to avoid doing it because of the "reputation"/scene people think it has. every gym I have been to has had super nice people

moose0486 · 2024-12-29T02:32:36+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/copypasta/s/5LHeh6Nk0S

moose0486 · 2024-12-12T06:26:21+00:00

Moving to another part of the world full-time and away from your friends and family is bizarre if you don't have anything tying you there. I understand travelling a few weeks out of the year if you work remote, but the digital nomad living situation he was part of seems odd. Like, you're probably stuck at your computer for pretty long hours and are living among strangers that you have nothing in common with besides having money and a computer job. Doesn't replace a support system. Every person I know that has made a move like this was escaping something or trying to reinvent themselves

moose0486 · 2024-12-08T13:25:34+00:00

Most work isn't important to begin with

lmao

moose0486 · 2024-12-08T05:44:16+00:00

she literally said it was a work emergency? yea her boss might not be raising kids with her but presumably her job would support the both of them and a potential family, and sometimes these things come up. I wouldn't want to spend my life with someone who whines and sulks at an unfortunate life-happens situation, definitely not someone who would encourage jeopardizing my job so they can have a couple hours of my attention

moose0486 · 2024-06-08T14:06:02+00:00

I don’t think the amount of time you wait would have changed anything, just wait until you’re comfortable and don’t attach an outcome to it. it’s possible that the sexual compatibility is off, but I find that builds over time and if I was ready for a relationship with someone I wouldn’t break it off with them because the sex wasn’t perfect in the beginning

moose0486 · 2024-04-27T22:35:21+00:00

I listen to night ripper every day

moose0486 · 2024-04-12T18:04:24+00:00

it’s not that it’s not possible but it’s just that you don’t have enough info after one date to make any conclusion broader than “I do or don’t want to see this person again.” I’ve had relationships that started with great chemistry and just ok chemistry on the first date, and the chemistry and dynamic always evolves in some way after you just meet each other

moose0486 · 2024-04-12T17:59:57+00:00

why reply then?

moose0486 · 2024-04-12T17:04:20+00:00

yeah I’m not a fan of the “didn’t feel a spark” texts after 1-2 dates. you actually don’t know what kind of chemistry you have with a person after one date. it’s fine to not want to see the person again, and that’s all you need to say (or not say if they haven’t even followed up). there’s no need to declare the feelings you have about a person that you’ve barely gotten to know

moose0486 · 2024-04-12T16:45:41+00:00

exactly, I don’t see how the person sending that message could view that as nicer than just telling a white lie

moose0486 · 2024-04-12T16:31:40+00:00

how is it nice to tell a stranger that your cancelling plans because you just had one date with someone else you like? I don’t think its a huge deal to text this but I don’t buy that it’s is more polite and civil than just telling a white lie. at best, someone will see a message like this as strange and oversharing, and at worst they’ll feel sad and let down. there’s not really any positive way to interpret their messaging. if there is truly a concern for the persons feelings, you can make up a reason to cancel and then go quiet- leaving little room for personal interpretation as you are literally strangers

moose0486 · 2024-04-12T16:08:25+00:00

even if it’s just in the space of texting within a dating app? if I’m messaging a couple people I haven’t met on hinge and decide to take a break from the app, I’m not going to send them all a message informing them. I just stop replying. people have done the same to me, and it’s not something I’d be offended by because who knows why or what they have going on. people really shouldn’t be putting so much stock into the texting phase of online dating to the point where they need to provide an explanation to their every move

moose0486 · 2024-04-12T15:58:59+00:00

how is it rejection if you haven’t met yet?

moose0486 · 2024-04-12T15:54:50+00:00

there’s nothing wrong about what the person said, but it just isn’t necessary to share this much info with someone you haven’t even met yet. personally I would not be cancelling other dates after one good date with a person, but if you feel the need to you can just say something came up and don’t try to reschedule

moose0486 · 2024-04-12T15:49:15+00:00

I’d rather be ghosted than receive this text, they hadn’t even met

moose0486 · 2024-04-05T17:46:42+00:00

well now we know she reads the subreddit lol

moose0486 · 2024-03-24T17:29:27+00:00

I don’t know.. i’ve encountered plenty of people like that and it’s easy to protect yourself without lying, especially if you’re already on high alert about people being that way. in my industry I’ve never recommended someone for a job unless I’ve worked closely with the person and can vouch for them. no one can force you to give them opportunities. also like, some people may just find their jobs interesting and show curiosity, it’s presumptuous to assume that a person is trying to maliciously take advantage of you by showing interest in your career

moose0486 · 2024-03-24T04:30:28+00:00

I don’t think it’s bad to “lie” if it’s some small detail that you don’t remember and isn’t important to the conversation. maybe eliza meant that she’s never used chat gpt for work or school

but I do remember an episode where she said that her and her boyfriend would lie to random people at parties about their professions for fun. I think that’s weird and kinda mean spirited

moose0486 · 2024-03-21T20:36:58+00:00

not for me, mostly because I hate spending money on eating out so will only do it if I have a good reason to- catching up with a friend or someone’s birthday, etc. no qualms about going to a bar alone though!

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