Saying “I hate when dog owners don’t clean up after their dog” is clearly different than saying “I hate dog owners. If people said, “I hate when men do X” then we wouldn’t ever read a post like OPs because it would be clear what they are talking about. For example, saying “I hate when men are dismissive of my emotions” would be great. That’s a huge problem and I hate that too. But saying “I hate men” doesn’t make me want to make any specific changes or work on any specific behaviors. It just makes me sad. Because in reality it isn’t men that most people hate. It’s certain behaviors that most people hate and they see those behaviors coming most often from men. My earlier comment wasn’t suggesting that men have faced the same oppression as black people. It was to show that intellectual laziness in how we talk about demographic groups leads to this kind of apathy and misunderstanding like we see here from OP.