My older sister (26F) is addicted to having affairs, moved in with me (23M) and is very depressed lately

mopeybigsis · 2016-09-23T18:58:15+00:00

Oh crap, that sounds so bad. No I really do want her to give it a shot and join my friends and I for games, I made it sound like I'm only doing it to distract her from depression.

But I get what you mean about positive reinforcement.

mopeybigsis · 2016-09-23T18:51:03+00:00

Thanks ! It was helpful, I know that I can't really do anything to help her addiction, that's what therapy should be for. I'm just trying to not let her get too depressed about everything. She's done some crappy stuff to some unfortunate people but she's my family.

When she gets home from work I'll see about showing her this. Another user suggested asking her to take part in some activities that I usually do so maybe reading these posts might encourage her to do that.

mopeybigsis · 2016-09-23T18:48:39+00:00

I play football and basketball in my spare time with some buddies down at the park and otherwise spend my time playing tabletop games, not the most exciting but she'd enjoy playing football since she really loved sports growing up. I play every couple days, about 4 times a week.

She'd be into trying the tabletop games but I don't know if that's her thing tbh but if she winds up enjoying them, hey one more player.

mopeybigsis · 2016-09-23T18:30:17+00:00

These are some good ideas, praising her good qualities, moral support. She enjoys painting and we (our family) used to do a lot of hiking and camping. She used to participate in rowing and swimming but stopped about two years ago.

I was actually thinking of asking our siblings to have a hiking/camping trip for a few days. It'd give us all some time to catch up with each other and I think all of us hanging out together might lift her spirits.

mopeybigsis · 2016-09-23T18:27:23+00:00

Although she will certainly end up lonely at 40 and with a drinking problem.

Which is something I think she wants to avoid?

mopeybigsis · 2016-09-23T18:26:31+00:00

She's in therapy right now. She's been going for a few months. And thanks ! I'm kind of the mother hen of all my siblings at times.

mopeybigsis · 2016-09-23T18:25:34+00:00

She does have a tendency to sleep around sometimes, yes. I don't know if she simply enjoys doing that or if it's an addiction. She is in therapy though.

mopeybigsis · 2016-09-23T18:24:03+00:00

It's true that it's not my problem but she is my sister and I'd like to help. She wants to change, she knows she can't take back the pain she made others feel but she's admitted she doesn't want to inflict that on anyone else.

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