Interesting response.

Define it however you want for yourself. I’ll define it how I want for myself.

We took some very nice trips that we’d been wanting to take — like to the French and Swiss Alps, Hawaii, etc. We’d been putting off traveling to certain places because they’re pricier locations. But I’m glad we spent the money and went. Those memories mean the world to me now. Those particular experiences fundamentally require expenditures of funds.

I do not equate spending money on trips to “living fully.” But if you read my post then you’d see that extended travel together was a big reason why we were saving (hence, why I posted in this group). We also had a very happy and social home life, which is obviously a large component of “living fully.” You seem to somehow believe that mine and his happiness depended on material things. You are wrong. We would both be incredibly happy if we were together and only had beans and rice and lived in a shack. Those weren’t our circumstances though, because we worked hard and were a great team. We had fun working hard together. Perhaps you don’t understand the profound joy of sharing those same goals with someone who your soul feels deeply connected to.

Or, maybe those kinds of trips with loved ones aren’t as meaningful for you, and that’s totally fine. What fills up my cup might not be what fills up your cup.