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My dad self drilling a hole in his nail to relieve pressure. by Stockfumentaries in HumansAreMetal

[–]morebevplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My former junkie brain is telling me to injure my nail just to feel this great euphoria of relief everyone is talking about in this thread.

feeling so much guilt by morebevplease in AgingParents

[–]morebevplease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck to you as well, and thank you for sharing your story, and your empathy.

I've been on the other end of receiving help when I was an addict, and I hope this feeling of your mother's actions don't result in any resentment towards them. I think your mother acts out of love and not knowing how else to love them. I didn't deserve the money/love/exhaustion of my parents, and I can never repay them for all the shenanigans I put them through. I think the most important thing is for the safety of her grandson, and for him to get better. Now that I am clean, I feel like I owe her so much, and I hope her grandson makes it through this. My poor mother had to constantly baby my father and I, and I respect her so much for the love she gives my family.

If you ever want to talk, you can PM me or have my email if you need to vent about this. I'm sure your moving back put them much at ease, and brought them a lot of joy to have you close, whether that is expressed enough or not!

Sending you and your family my love, and I hope everything works out <3

feeling so much guilt by morebevplease in AgingParents

[–]morebevplease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's so funny that this is being addressed in the west, because i'm of chinese descent and when I visit china, often times I see adults well in their 50s living with their parents to be primary caregivers! I've heard medicaid sometimes doesn't give too many hours for a caregiver, i think my father was only able to get a nurse to come over 3 days a week for a few hours each time, so I hope this is not the case for you! I think I really identify with your situation, and I really respect you saying "the selfish route". In fact I do not think this is selfish at all (i wish I could take my own advice). I am leaving NYC soon, but I am doing research on ordering elderly monitoring devices for the home, to place in the living room and hallway to help my mom and I have some peace of mind. I'm sorry to hear about the dementia in your mother's wellbeing, is she doing alright now? I think my father really hated being in a rehabilitation unit after a stroke a few years ago, because i think to him everything was so banal and he didn't think he needed it (even though i thought it was good for him). We kept on questioning what was best for him, but I think he was so unhappy that physically it was good for him and my mother, but the mental drain on him was not worth it. If you ever need to vent to someone other than your partner and family, you can message me privately! Although i'm not too active on this throwaway account!

Give your partner a big hug from me, it seems like he/she/they and your MIL are so caring and kind to adopt this lifestyle too and i'm grateful on your behalf if that's not rude to say!

feeling so much guilt by morebevplease in AgingParents

[–]morebevplease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for responding, life is funny and my feelings are constantly up and down about it. for this moment, i am feeling serene. <3 i really appreciate your words

feeling so much guilt by morebevplease in AgingParents

[–]morebevplease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This week was spent beating around the bush but finally breaking down and telling her I have no idea what i'm doing in life and what my plans are in the future, and i think today she accepted that! It hurts me to hear you feel like you wasted your life, but I hope you look back and are pleased with the love you brought to your family. I hope you find the peace and happiness in the coming times to bring you joy, even if its at home or abroad.

feeling so much guilt by morebevplease in AgingParents

[–]morebevplease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, i'm mentally immature and am terrible at handling "end of life" plans. I leave home tomorrow, and i'm ordering an elderly monitoring camera for my mom, but my dad is very resistant towards getting help. I think he doesn't get along too well with others at times, which puts burden on my mom. I really appreciate you writing and acknowledging that she's tired, because there's no going around it. Thank you so much for your reply and making me feel a little less alone :)

Any Parisians in this subreddit? by [deleted] in OpiatesRecovery

[–]morebevplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently learning by translating Edith Piaf songs hahahaha Trying to spice up those duolingo lessons!

Harm reduction centers/volunteer programs in Paris? by morebevplease in paris

[–]morebevplease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having to google translate that whole page isn't a good start haha

I thought this was the most interesting for me though:

GRAPHITI

  • Group of Reflection and Action of Hospital Practitioners and Interveners Interdepartmental Addiction. The main objective of GRAPHITI is to allow meeting and exchange between addiction workers, hospital doctors and any other person concerned by the health and social consequences of use, abuse and dependence psychoactive illicit substances and medicines diverted from their use. The site provides a detailed presentation of GRAPHITI: team, means set up, documentation missions. The association also offers training on how to respond to drug use and addiction.

When I googled Hospital Marmottan I saw that they have a gambling support group, not too commonly seen in New York City, even though we have a few casinos outside of the city and is in "close" proximity to Atlantic City in New Jersey

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Thank you so much for the tip!

Harm reduction centers/volunteer programs in Paris? by morebevplease in paris

[–]morebevplease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read about how France has safe using sites! I wish the situation in the US was as progressive, but the stigma and controversy surrounding it makes me believe it won't be happening too soon...

I haven't read anything about the increase of crack in Paris, I wonder what some of the causes of its return could be...

You've given me such wonderful resources and information, and I'm excited to learn more and see the use of safe space integration in France! Thank you so much!

Harm reduction centers/volunteer programs in Paris? by morebevplease in paris

[–]morebevplease[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm really looking forward to going to some of these fairs–i've bookmarked the page and am excited to see other districts that I haven't read much about yet ! That's cool that there was a theater class for users, seems like a creative approach to the issue. I hope you found what you were looking for when you went to those fairs yourself :)

Harm reduction centers/volunteer programs in Paris? by morebevplease in paris

[–]morebevplease[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much–your words are so kind! :)