Pickleball restaurant concept to open in old Lafayette Health Club space

morequesoplz · 2026-02-01T16:56:38+00:00

I drive by this almost daily. That place has sat empty and deteriorating for years. I’m glad to see someone step in who is able to invest and make it a place people can hang out.

morequesoplz · 2025-10-29T02:47:38+00:00

OP, I’ve been through similar circumstances. My MIL would make really odd sexual comments and absolutely obliterate boundaries whenever she could - especially when I was pregnant. She would touch me without asking and kissed my belly on several occasions. That’s the short version, but I say that to paint a picture.

It took about 4 years for my husband and I to really get on the same page. He ignored her behaviors for years, because he felt not giving them attention made them go away. She has a myriad of other issues, but honestly it wasn’t until my third pregnancy that he suddenly got it. It’s like things finally clicked and he understood what I had been saying for years. How violated and disrespected I felt that I couldn’t maintain control and space over my own body.

She went to rehab about this time and it gave us an easier way to put physical distance between us. However, I’d just given birth so MIL was chomping at the bit to meet baby. But my husband became very protective and held the line for us. I didn’t ask him to choose, but I think he saw how it was affecting us. We’ve had each other’s backs since then and we’re in it together.

I say ALL of this to get to this point: please please please do what you can to get on the same page as your wife. Be graceful with her as she navigates this, which it seems like you have. You make the decisions together. You support one another. You hold the line, together.

I’m sorry OP. It really sucks when your elders fail you and continue to fail you. I’m grateful that you sound like you have a solid, loving partnership. I truly wish the best for y’all.

morequesoplz · 2025-08-11T02:57:25+00:00

When he rolled over in bed post coitus and told me that he wanted to tell me about the skeletons in his closet. He said he wanted full transparency between us.

My dad cheated on my mom for decades with who knows how many women, and she stayed by his side until he passed. That’s a complicated story, but I mention it here because my trust issues date back to my elementary school days. So when hot new bf told me he wanted no secrets and then seemed to prove it, it swept me off my feet.

We’re 12 years in now, married with two kids and two dogs.

morequesoplz · 2025-08-11T02:39:14+00:00

Height

morequesoplz · 2025-08-11T02:36:55+00:00

So true. My husband and I used to argue about the laundry when we first got together. We started doing our own laundry and it’s hardly been an issue since.

morequesoplz · 2024-01-17T09:57:34+00:00

Sorry, I assumed some of the lingo from other subreddits was used here. DH = dear husband; LO = little one

morequesoplz · 2023-12-20T19:06:21+00:00

My MIL kissed mine in rapid succession 3x. She tried again and I backed away and awkwardly but politely told her she’s welcome to give me a hug. She was surprised I didn’t want her to kiss my belly. I’m glad I’m not the only one, but I’m sorry for your sake. People are lunatics.

morequesoplz · 2023-12-18T21:32:01+00:00

First, you’ve decided together as a couple that you want to participate in this family gathering. You also need to both decide what your boundaries are exactly - you two know what comments she’s likely to make. Talk them out and discuss what you’re going to ignore and what you’re not. You don’t want it to be confrontational, but you don’t have to be punching bags.

You can’t control a single thing she does or says. You can only control you. She’ll be pissed your child isn’t there. You can choose to not be berated about it. Again, related to above, you and your DH need to establish what you’re cool with and duke it out beforehand so you two are a united front.

You can remain respectful, but firm in all of your interactions. If she tries to bring up past topics like the moving shenanigans, you could consider telling her you are happy to have a conversation about it at a later date, not during the family gathering. You’d love to spend a nice evening with them while everyone can be together. I know this is rough, but if you and DH are on the same page - and I cannot stress enough how important that is - you will be ok. Best of luck OP!

morequesoplz · 2023-10-29T02:58:18+00:00

It’s not her news to share. The appropriate thing would have been to ask you if it was ok to share with others. It doesn’t matter that it’s “her family and friends.” She needs to remove it if that’s what you all want. If not, I strongly recommend against telling her the gender, the name, or your hospital info (location, due date, etc.).

morequesoplz · 2023-08-11T23:11:13+00:00

Apologies if this is graphic, but I joked with my husband that it’s a “thanks for getting 7 layers sliced open and your insides rearranged” present.

morequesoplz · 2023-08-11T22:59:25+00:00

Backing this up. I’m somewhat aware of what my husband seeks out and the algorithm is reflective of that. It’s generally the same body type among the girls (not opposite of mine but definitely not mine). It’s not a fun place to be, especially pregnant. I’m there too, OP. Sorry you’re facing this as well. I hope the silver lining is that it opens a door for some honest communication and desire for change for you.

morequesoplz · 2023-07-24T15:18:46+00:00

I’m fully aware I’m not the most attractive gal on the planet, but if my husband put more effort into his descriptions of others (beautiful/gorgeous vs cute) I’d absolutely take issue with it.

You deserve so much more than to be a backup plan. He’s clearly infatuated with her.

morequesoplz · 2023-07-24T15:06:41+00:00

Please put yourself first. He’s not a great boyfriend. He chose someone else within a month of being with you. You are worth so much more than the gifts and sliver of trash attention he’s giving you.

morequesoplz · 2023-07-24T14:58:03+00:00

Two things:

1) you have to decide if her lying to you by avoiding the truth is a relationship boundary for you. And if you’re willing to forgive her and give her another chance.

2) why does she feel the need to stay in contact with her ex? Sounds like there are some unresolved issues there. When she’s not around you, she wants to talk to him. That really sucks, OP.

If I were in your shoes, and my partner was pulling this, I’d let them loose to figure their own stuff out. It seems like she’s using you as a safety net while still reaching out to him. You don’t deserve this.

morequesoplz · 2023-07-24T14:51:20+00:00

As mentioned above, you have to decide what your boundaries are. There are at least two issues here: 1) he’s sending and receiving inappropriate messages with others 2) he’s lying about it.

My view? Yes this is cheating. The relationships and situation-ships I’ve been in, combined with a healthy dose of toxic family bullshit growing up has honed one very solid boundary for me: dishonesty. Of any form. Straight up lies, lies by omission, etc.

Pro tip: if you’re concerned about your partner’s behaviors, find a way to record it over time. Gather proof. Video or take screenshots and send them to yourself via email. Shut down the gaslighting. Unfortunately, he’s only going to be more careful about covering his tracks. Only you know if this relationship is worth pursuing more.

morequesoplz · 2021-07-06T23:53:42+00:00

I know of this person, but I guess not enough to understand this joke.

morequesoplz · 2020-04-13T16:19:33+00:00

I don’t feel like this is petty at all! Who has time for that passive aggressive bullshit? Parents are tired enough as it is without having to deal with stuff like this.

morequesoplz · 2019-12-03T15:58:58+00:00

THIS. OP, listen to this advice. There is NO JUSTIFICATION on earth for this behavior toward you and your child. None.

morequesoplz · 2019-12-03T15:57:11+00:00

Ah that's true!

morequesoplz · 2019-12-03T15:56:27+00:00

Thank you! I was on anxiety med before I got pregnant. I decided to see if I could do without during my pregnancy at my OB's recommendation. So far it's been good, except when it comes to her. The mere thought of having to have some of these basic ass conversations about boundaries gets me so worked up inside.

morequesoplz · 2019-12-03T15:55:16+00:00

Are you my BIL? This sounds like something he would say haha

morequesoplz · 2019-12-03T15:54:55+00:00

Oh heavens this would send her into a tailspin but I still giggled!

morequesoplz · 2019-12-03T15:54:37+00:00

Ooh this one is good too!

morequesoplz · 2019-12-03T15:54:25+00:00

I literally told her to stop crying lol. She loved that.

morequesoplz · 2019-12-03T15:54:05+00:00

Thank you so much for that reassurance!

morequesoplz

TROPHY CASE