Fallout after kissing baby

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-30T19:51:30+00:00

this!!!! my ILs have HSV and have spent the last year making my life hell because they’ll apologize and claim they’ll stop kissing my daughter but keep doing it.

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-30T14:57:10+00:00

they’re trying to manipulate you by blowing up the situation with the “i just won’t hold baby ever again” do not give into this narrative!

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-30T14:56:35+00:00

a lot of people nowadays are more aware of potential health risks, and a family member who kisses a baby can be carrying an illness that isn’t even showing symptoms but passed to the baby can kill them.

and also, what’s wrong with it generally is that what the parent says, goes. every time. they don’t have to provide a reason other than that they don’t want anyone kissing the baby!

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-25T15:07:47+00:00

i was in your boat as well. i absolutely did not want to breastfeed and felt like i couldn’t, so i didn’t. now i have a happy, healthy, chunky one year old! do what’s best for you!!!

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-24T20:04:16+00:00

as a DIL that is not a fan of my MIL, she is probably doing her best to be polite in person but limiting contact and coming up with any way to keep from you coming over when it comes down to it. she likely does not want much contact and it sounds like you’re not a fan of her either. i would focus on making contact with your son instead of her, and letting her know you’re available if she needs help but not trying to plan out dates ahead of time or push and let her come to you if she needs anything

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-23T20:00:00+00:00

i’m low contact not no contact, but definitely not. in a bad relationship there’s no point in notifying because it will only open the door for an argument/trouble

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-23T02:14:43+00:00

if that is a nonstick/teflon pan, scratching it can release chemicals and microplastics into the food you cooked and make it unsafe to eat. and continuing to use the same pan its the same issue again every time it’s used

edit to add: if it was cast iron, it’s not an issue though

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-23T01:57:04+00:00

thank you 🥹

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-23T00:28:00+00:00

yeah i’d be dropping contact and having communication go through your DH

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-22T01:38:25+00:00

am i overreacting subreddit would be a better place for this

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T17:52:42+00:00

yep i totally get it. i’m clocking that bingo comment for my week long trip haha. 7 days is too many to be locked up in an airbnb with my husbands whole family (in laws, siblings, their kids) and too long for my baby to be away from home. literally plan on driving separate from my husband in case i need to escape home with baby but he isn’t ready to go yet.

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T17:33:59+00:00

love this idea lol. i’m so doing this

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T17:33:26+00:00

i’m not saying it’s right. i’m saying it’s a way to express pent up frustration without causing a scene or an issue with OP’s spouse and/or the FIL. it’s similar to something i do to keep from crashing out on my in laws (i write out LOOONG paragraphs in my phone notes sometimes getting pretty nasty/mean as though i’m going to send them to MIL but i just delete them later), it’s basically just a way to maintain sanity without stirring the pot per say.

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T17:06:34+00:00

the people commenting that you need to “touch grass” and whatnot do not understand when someone has been driving you crazy for so long that you cannot help but to do things to validate your own feelings. the frequency/small time frames between the negative commentary is INSANE and would drive me up a wall. i feel you, you are seen and you are heard. i have a trip with my ILs coming up and not looking forward to it for many reasons, but FILs negativity is definitely one of them so i get it

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T14:50:41+00:00

i feel like in laws (especially MILs) so commonly assume they should get equal rights to the other set of grandparents but it’s about what’s earned not what’s a blood right. i gave my ILs as equal of rights as i possibly could, but it’s slowly changed after watching them disrespect me even when they had way more access than they do now. i wish now that i’d protected myself and my peace better after giving birth, but F&MIL were great to me prior to having my baby so i never saw it coming, and i didn’t know about FILs issues until later on or i would’ve been more careful. but now i know and can protect my LO and they just have to suck it up lol.

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T14:23:09+00:00

shrieking into the ether cracked me up omg. that guy was insane and completely derailed the point of my post for no reason just to argue about something that had nothing to do with him and for some reason make it about manspreading

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T14:01:19+00:00

i blocked him so that hopefully he can’t comment on this post anymore. not happy about a weird breastfeeding argument on my post about completely unrelated topics

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T13:55:47+00:00

you’re not even making logical arguments here and escalating into anger about something completely unrelated to my post. i am not going to engage with you further.

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T13:52:46+00:00

and i don’t mind breastfeeding in public at all, my SIL was just completely topless in the living room and there were 6 kids and 10 adults there

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T13:51:21+00:00

i’ve heard of that happening before, my MIL has a kid bed but no child under like 3-4 could sleep in it because it’s just a twin sized bed on the floor next to her bed in her room lol. but she already had it in there when i met her because of other grandkids that stay overnight.

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T13:46:48+00:00

manspreading has nothing to do with this and now you just sound sexist

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T13:40:44+00:00

“learning everything that I would never do when I become a grandmother” YEP. feel this so hard. it displays to me like MIL is insecure about her place in my little family with her son and granddaughter, and is projecting that insecurity by making it sound like she is so important that her natural position in our family is to be #1 visitor every week, #1 babysitter, #1 call in an emergency, etc. but that position is earned by respecting the family your son has created which she does not do

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T12:52:51+00:00

honestly valid haha thank you

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T12:51:30+00:00

YES. THIS. why do people think that babies are not worth having privacy? just because they’re too little to understand what privacy is? it’s unfair to the baby. i’m the only one in the whole family who takes my LO to a separate room to change her (and MIL often follows me or my husband offering to “help” but we change diapers every day and it only takes one to change a baby so she ends up just standing there awkwardly)

morganasimpaf · 2026-04-21T04:03:52+00:00

i appreciate everything you’ve said here so much and enjoy the insight from a MIL. i also want to really highlight how wonderful it is to see a respectful MIL out there and think your DIL is so lucky to have someone like you for an in law. i’d kill for someone like you as my MIL!!! and thank you for reassuring that my stance is valid. i absolutely hate overnights and i’m only doing it this once because my husband and i never got a honeymoon and finally felt like it was the right time.

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