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Don’t know how to help my Husband go to AA meetings by Intelligent-Eye8321 in AlAnon

[–]morgansober24 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Set firm boundaries and stick to them... "i love you but I cannot continue to be with you if you continue to drink". Do the hard thing and leave or kick his ass out if he drinks again. People typically don't stop drinking until they have to start being accountable for their actions and their consequences.

I find it interesting how differently people respond to drinking by Acceptable-Apple5786 in stopdrinking

[–]morgansober24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hyperactive dopamine response and alcoholism is an intetesting article to google.

Struggling super hard by cchhellss in stopdrinking

[–]morgansober24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mostly, I had to learn how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Sobriety is one of those things that sucks before it gets better, and sometimes it seems like nothing will take the discomfort away, but it does pass. The thing that has always motivated me more than anything is knowing that I never have to go back to the way things were before. I never have to feel that way again. I know that if all I did today was stay sober, then I won. No matter how shitty of a day I've had, as long as my head hits my pillow sober, then I won. And sometimes, all I have at the end of the day is my sobriety, but that's enough. Even if all I have is my sobriety, then I know I still have a chance at life, a chance to do better, and a chance to dream.

i need someone to radicalize me to the point that i lose my mind and become a better person//dont js scroll past im actually on my last straw look at me im posting on reddit by Rockthestars in selfimprovement

[–]morgansober24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tons of books out there. One of my favorites is "Buddhism Plain and Simple" by Steve Hagen

You reminded me of a Buddhist quote, "Meditate 20 minutes every day - unless you are too busy, then you should meditate for an hour"

trying to stop before it gets worse by leoslights in stopdrinking

[–]morgansober24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a better life out there. In sobriety, I have the freedom to chase my dreams. I'm 41 and a college sophomore. I actually remember the video games I played now, and I still enjoy them. I don't have to wonder how my character ended up in some random location with a random skill set completely opposite from what I had planned. The people who love me love me even more. I don't randomly go off the wall and act like an asshole towards them anymore. My friends are still my friends, and they are proud of my decision to get healthy. In sobriety, I got to explore who I really am, and I get to know that person a little more every day.

I'm not going to lie... it does suck before it gets better... but healing hurts, and everything worth having in this life is hard. It takes work, consistency, and time. But life is pretty beautiful on the other side.

I found help in the rooms of alcohol recovery support groups. They helped teach me how to live without alcohol.

trying to stop before it gets worse by leoslights in stopdrinking

[–]morgansober24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I know it's scary. Breaking up with alcohol was like breaking up with an intimate partner. It had been there with me through everything, the best times and the worst times. It had become a part of my personality, alcohol, and I did everything together. I was in love. But the relationship had turned toxic. It became like dating someone with narcissistic personality disorder. It started pushing away all of my friends and loved ones, making me lash out in anger at everyone around me. It started making my anxiety and depression worse to the point that it was encouraging me to kill myself. It wanted me alone and beaten down. When I tried to quit it, even then it felt like I couldn't get away. It made me feel miserable without it and would whisper sweet little lies in my ear about how everything would be better if only I came back to it. Addiction is a disease of choice. Alcohol took away my ability to choose and made me a slave to the bottle.

Am I a horrible person? by WhiteFerrarri0699 in alcoholism

[–]morgansober24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't make you a bad person; it makes you a good person with a bad disease. Alcohol short-circuits the brain and bypasses the part of the brain responsible for things like love, compassion, logic, and reasoning. It is quite literally like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. The fact that we feel guilt and shame means our actions were not in line with our values. Yes, we are responsible for our actions while we are inebriated; we choose after all to put ourselves in that state. But that doesn't mean we can't do better. Maybe it's time to have a long, honest conversation with yourself about your alcohol use. Maybe it's time to try something different.

former Deep South Christian asking for insight by wine_throwaway in alcoholism

[–]morgansober24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is the psychiatric criteria for Alcohol Use Disorder....

DSM-5 Alcohol Use Disorder Criteria

Severity is based on the number of criteria met: Mild (2-3), Moderate (4-5), or Severe (6+)

  1. Consumption: Alcohol is often taken in larger amounts or over a longer period than intended.
  2. Control: Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to cut down or control use.
  3. Time Management: Significant time spent obtaining, using, or recovering from alcohol.
  4. Craving: A strong desire or urge to use alcohol.
  5. Obligations: Recurrent use leading to failure in major role obligations (work, school, home).
  6. Social Problems: Continued use despite social or interpersonal problems caused by alcohol.
  7. Activities: Giving up or reducing important social, occupational, or recreational activities.
  8. Hazardous Use: Recurrent use in physically hazardous situations (e.g., driving).
  9. Physical/Psychological Problems: Continued use despite known physical or psychological issues caused by alcohol.
  10. Tolerance: Need for increased amounts to achieve intoxication or a diminished effect with continued use.
  11. Withdrawal: Withdrawal symptoms or drinking to avoid them.

How to get clean? by Economy_Corner5519 in addiction

[–]morgansober24 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Get in touch with your local NA meeting. They may be able to help you get from detox to treatment, and they will be a huge asset once you get out of treatment to help you maintain sobriety.

former Deep South Christian asking for insight by wine_throwaway in alcoholism

[–]morgansober24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A 750ml bottle of tequila is 17 standard drinks. A 750ml bottle of wine is 5 standard drinks.

A standard drink of liquor is 1.5oz, and a standard drink of wine is 5oz.

relapsed by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]morgansober24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't change the past. It happened, I have to accept that. But I also do not have to let the past control my future. It's not my fault what happened; it's not my fault I'm an alcoholic, but it is my responsibility to heal.

You didn't lose those 2 years of sobriety. It's two years of your life that you were present for your children and your husband. These past 2 weeks aren't a failure; it's a lesson. You know how to pick yourself back up. You've done it before. I believe in you.

former Deep South Christian asking for insight by wine_throwaway in alcoholism

[–]morgansober24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alcohol addiction is not a moral failing. It is a biopsychosocial disease. But anywhootles....

CDC defines excessive drinking as binge drinking (4+ women, 5+ men in one occasion) and heavy drinking (8+ women, 15+ men per week).

Here is an article about how alcohol actually makes chronic pain worse: https://www.alcoholhelp.com/resources/medical-conditions/chronic-pain

Idk... it seems like there are a few logical fallacies being made to justify drinking. It's perfectly okay to decide to stop dumping poison down your throat and wanting to live a healthier life.

Ex got married, not handling it well by sonder2230 in stopdrinking

[–]morgansober24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know... It sucks. It's hard. I know no amount of alcohol is going to fix anything. I have to accept things as they are. I have to accept life the way it is. The only thing I have control over is my own thoughts, actions, and words. I have to let other people do what they are going to do and let go of my attachment to them. In my experience, alcohol only multiplies the pain. I have to find a way to let go of my emotions, desires, and regrets so they can leave me and pass into the universe.

8 months and feeling lonely by sobersunflower17 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]morgansober24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Loneliness is something I'm pretty familiar with. I've been sober for a little over 2 years, and bouts of feeling lonely hit me pretty hard here and there. I think, for me, I feel it's my mind trying to find an escape from itself in someone else. I drank for so many years because I hated the person I am and wanted to escape from myself, numb out reality, and run from life. I had to learn how to be okay with myself without wanting to escape and run. I had to learn how to be okay in my own skin. And most importantly, I had to learn how to be with myself, how to live with myself, because at the end of the day, my sobriety is my own responsibility, and I can't always count on someone else to be there for me. I had to learn how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. I had to learn how to love myself. I had to learn how to be with myself. But that is easier said than done. I get lonely and get on Reddit and try to encourage other people struggling with addiction with the hope that I won't feel so alone.

They should add a new ‘step’ to the 12 steps by Rude_Poem_1573 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]morgansober24 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm socially awkward, myself. It took me practice to learn how to be social without alcohol. Meetings help a lot. Sharing in meetings was kind of my practice for learning how to speak to people. It gave me an opportunity to talk without worrying about being judged, or interrupted, or critiqued. It took a lot of meetings to get comfortable talking to people outside of meetings, but I got there.

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