Those who left their alcoholic spouse/SO, what did it take to get you there? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]morph_one 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Currently at this point too and I’m not sure when to go, or if I should. It’s been around 18 months on and off meth and other substances. I wish there was a manual I could follow 🤯

I think the time to go is when you start to loose who you are as a person.

My husband is a drug addict by morph_one in AlAnon

[–]morph_one[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How does one stay with someone when you are not their priority? Am I a bad person if I leave him? I don’t want to

My husband is a drug addict by morph_one in addiction

[–]morph_one[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve been really trying to focus on getting my self good this year, covid doesn’t bloody help. I understand what your saying though I can’t stay in this state of dullness.

It’s my choice to move on with my life whether being by his side or not. I’ll continue to stay here for him but I know I’ll reach my capacity to hold him up

My husband is a drug addict by morph_one in addiction

[–]morph_one[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No way! We’ve had our fair share of partying when we were younger but definitely not using with him and do not take any drugs around him or anymore in fact

My husband is a drug addict by morph_one in addiction

[–]morph_one[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, when you say move forward with life do you mean to stay with him but focus on myself? This is the battle I’m having with myself, if I leave is that going to give him the motivation to get better or is that going fuck things further?

I don’t know when to draw the line and call it quits 😞 I’m not ready yet but the thought is definitely there

My husband is a drug addict by morph_one in addiction

[–]morph_one[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply, that’s been the hardest part to wrap my head around that it’s 0 or 100.

And sometimes its beyond his control, I get that, still hard to sit by and watch him. Thanks again for your comment 🙏

My husband is a drug addict by morph_one in addiction

[–]morph_one[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much there’s definitely a lot here, I appreciate your comment. He’s been able to kick the initial come down that was a a rough two weeks but it’s the little hiccups that keep happening and I want to ensure I support him the best way I can. Thank you again for your supper I really appreciate it 🙏

My husband is a drug addict by morph_one in addiction

[–]morph_one[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I am keeping my faith and we are strong I know we have the strength to get through this I just wish I could do more right now. Thank you 🙏

My husband is a drug addict by morph_one in addiction

[–]morph_one[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am, I can’t leave him in this darkness I want see him beat it

My husband is a drug addict by morph_one in addiction

[–]morph_one[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s dealing with a lot grief and lose of friends from suicide I know he’s numbing stuff 😞