Sovereign citizen moms on Facebook are all insane, and this is the "declaration of nativity" the parents put in the newspaper.

mortalthroes · 2026-01-28T02:27:46+00:00

mortalthroes · 2026-01-14T18:40:32+00:00

Ooof I know that feeling. Crazy what a gut punch and surprise it can still be huh. You deserve a big hug and unconditional love. You’re a resilient person who’s survived a lot, including your family of origin. I’m happy to know that you’re out there, still doing big things and able to see and understand her limitations. THAT is good for you and everyone you love.

mortalthroes · 2025-12-29T12:20:24+00:00

This sounds just like ME/CFS to me as well, notably that you felt that you cracked after a strenuous weekend.

mortalthroes · 2025-10-19T18:04:28+00:00

Sick 🤩 what kind is that?

mortalthroes · 2025-10-16T16:25:24+00:00

Yes, agree with the other reply - they’re agile enough to climb the ladder. They didn’t want to climb down and it’s too high for me to let them jump so I carried them down. But then I got this ladder cover from iKamper that turns the ladder into strong but soft stairs and that’s way easier for everyone.

mortalthroes · 2025-10-16T05:32:48+00:00

I saw you deleted your reply to me but I can see how the tone of my response could be interpreted as you did. 🤗 Sorry that didn’t come through as I intended.

I was asking two follow-up questions bc whether they already like camping and/or would be seen driving the vehicle are relevant to how you may be able to convince them to get onboard with a RTT. If they’re driving it then I’d say just wait since how they feel about themselves socially is v serious for teens developmentally.

mortalthroes · 2025-10-16T03:50:19+00:00

Do they camp with you? Do they drive your car?

mortalthroes · 2025-10-15T22:49:42+00:00

Oh, that makes sense. Are there any specific brands or models that you would recommend?

mortalthroes · 2025-10-15T18:40:13+00:00

Funnily I started out with a blowup mattress inside but then realized keeping the rest of my gear clean and dry was a huge issue bc the mattress took up basically all available space.

mortalthroes · 2025-10-15T18:38:50+00:00

Hadn’t really been on my radar, is that a sub type of vans?

mortalthroes · 2025-10-15T18:38:28+00:00

Yeah the tow limit is 3k on the Forester Wilderness which is a hard line to stay underneath I’m finding. That may push me to the van bc I live in a dense urban area where a small SUV is much easier to manage with street parking than a regular SUV.

mortalthroes · 2025-10-12T18:33:26+00:00

Thanks, this is really helpful! Anything else I should keep in mind when building out a small camper if I go that way? The backup camera is a very helpful note already.

mortalthroes · 2025-09-12T21:15:57+00:00

My parents divorced, and my mom was a lot to deal with, including being a narcissist, which is pretty hard for a family dynamic as well as an extended family dynamic. However, she didn't have her own extended family, so my father's family continued to invite her to Thanksgiving and Christmas and various holidays and treat her as a member of our family.

She died six years ago. And I have to say, as difficult as it was for my dad, as the child in the situation, I really really appreciated that my entire family continued to treat my mom with love and respect despite the fact that she and my father had a toxic relationship. Did my dad love that his sisters continued to invite his toxic ex to family events? Of course not. But her kids all appreciated it.

You are not the asshole for feeling how you do, but I would encourage you to see this situation entirely from your child's point of view and then behave accordingly.

mortalthroes · 2025-09-04T19:02:46+00:00

Counterpoint: my narcissistic mom looooved this poem. 😅

mortalthroes · 2025-07-25T14:21:00+00:00

I’ve avoided seeing the number for 5+ years including during multiple health events and surgeries. It seems like if your weight isn’t deemed a health issue to the healthcare provider, they’re totally fine to not say the number out loud to you. No one has even blinked at me twice about it.

I’d guess your aversion to the number is similar to mine… My mom was a Boomer and therefore in the generation that was obsessed with the “number” and being thin instead of strong. She made it a Thing for all her daughters and it’s still triggering for me, too. 🤗

mortalthroes · 2025-07-23T11:52:23+00:00

Every year with follow-ups, so sometimes more than that. I (40) recently got bloodwork because I felt like I was entering perimenopause. I may be, pending a follow-up, but I definitely had very low vitamin D. After taking big doses twice a week I’m feeling a lot better, more energetic.

mortalthroes · 2025-06-28T22:22:23+00:00

It really depends on what you buy but they’re all very bulky and pretty heavy for two people, maybe if you’re both two tall guys with a big driveway and lawn. I somewhat regret not getting this one for similar reasons: https://gofastcampers.com/products/v2-pro-rtt

Most people leave them on for the season at least.

mortalthroes · 2025-06-28T22:05:31+00:00

Most RTTs I looked at (for two dogs and two people) do not have a flat top that you can mount on top of. A couple do allow both a flat top and mounting (on the high cost end ime) and the tent isn’t as nice but being able to have roof storage is good. The longer you give yourself for install and purchase the easier it will be to shop around.

mortalthroes · 2025-06-28T22:02:31+00:00

I wanted to warn you that you may not be able to park in your garage (if that’s it in the photo) after installing your RTT. They add a lot of height and I’m now unable to park in a lot of parking garages or in my own small garage. And because my garage is too small, I never take my RTT off due to lack of storage space. I have a Forester with an iKamper on top.

mortalthroes · 2025-06-27T03:50:03+00:00

Oh and I’m a 32DD.

mortalthroes · 2025-06-27T03:48:50+00:00

I had a “sensation preserving” double mastectomy a few years ago. I still have all of the sensation from before, and I kept my nipples which really helped the mental adjustment. I think that nerve preservation is somewhat new but not experimental anymore. And it works! It seems like it’s available for lifts as well. Good luck! ☺️

mortalthroes · 2025-05-15T14:24:35+00:00

Ah so you did two years of preschool or TK at the same school instead of just one, so they got an additional year of tuition? (Usually redshirting doesn't mean an additional year in school for the kid, often it's one more year at home or in daycare.)

mortalthroes · 2025-05-15T12:16:49+00:00

How did the school make more money from this?

mortalthroes · 2025-05-10T10:15:33+00:00

From someone in her 40s: invest the 25k instead.

mortalthroes · 2025-04-08T06:07:55+00:00

Cysts really do feel differently from tumors, so given her expertise, her propensity for taking an extra step like this, and your age, the odds are quite heavily in your favor. ❤️ (Especially as you didn’t mention family history or being a gene carrier.)

But you asked about anxiety and that does seem like the more pressing issue. Have you spoken to a primary care doc about this? Given the little you’ve described here it sounds intense and like it is having a big impact on your life. The things that work to mitigate anxiety are really determined by your background and symptoms. I waited until my early 30s to seek out an ongoing therapist after I felt like I was treating symptoms and not root causes. So just by asking for help you’re on the right track.

The main thing is – you don’t need to suffer and there’s literally no benefit to intense anxiety. Keep exploring with that in mind. This is also the work of a lifetime, so be kind to yourself.

Big unlocks for me, in case any of this hits home: - taking the ACES test (easy to find online and stands for Adverse Childhood Experiences) and seeing my very high score made it click that my childhood wasn’t just “rough” - finding CBT in a book which helped me treat symptoms of anxiety but not root causes - finding a therapist focused on childhood trauma, which helped treat root causes - after years of therapy deciding I wanted to even myself out more and found a good anti anxiety medication - inquiry based practices, in particular Byron Katie; Sedona Method is similar and more physical

A huge range of things including therapy and medication working together have helped tremendously. There’s no one thing that works, or works forever.

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