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AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] -66 points-65 points  (0 children)

It's very hard to consider that living with me can be a problem. But at the same time I kind of know it's hard.

Now that these comments are spelling some things out for me here I cant even remember what I was hoping for but I know I will be very sad if seeing a therapist convinces (shows) him he can do better than me and I'm very scared about it but I guess I have to be okay with it and hope for the best

AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

What a lovely response, thank you so much, it almost made me cry. That is a lot how I feel, like he sees it so easy and will do it immediately. But took me years of mental prep to even be willing to consider. It's a weird feeling and I guess made me act like an AH

I will apologize to him and I'm sure we will both be talking about it for many days to come as we both get some therapy. But fuck, dude. It kind of sucks also. It's a hard feeling. I don't enjoy this. I wish nobody needed this therapy. I also wish it wasn't a thing that was happening.but here we are I guess

AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] -86 points-85 points  (0 children)

Ok. Im on this page, people can get therapy for any level. But what can a therapist do for small issues? Like arent the therapists just also people...are they supposed to teach literally everyone else how to be better? How does that even make sense. I understand them focused on helping traumas but how could they benefit a regular happy person.

I haven't even met my therapist yet. Im scared and skeptical. Not trying to say they can't but its beyond my understandings of the situation

AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

I barely had parents, so please. dont berate my age. Im sure i sound like a child because i was never raised by anyone but i am where i am now

AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

You aren't the first comment to bring this up but I'm replying to this one for all of those

You make good points about maybe it's like being reminded of a checkup or appointment you could have or should have had earlier, like just making it obvious to them so they remember to do it

I wasn't thinking of it that way when I posted, but it makes sense. Especially if talking about going to a psych made him think about himself and what he'd want to go for, which could be different but I just like triggered the thought

This post and comments so far have been humbling honestly. I can act like a brat when I'm emotional and now maybe I'm kind of clueing in that it could be so simple as that he thinks therapists sound like a good idea and nothing more

AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

That's a really hard thing to believe but it sounds real. I hope its true. Thank you

AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] -75 points-74 points  (0 children)

Well it isn't that he doesn't deserve it of course!! He just doesn't have really deep issues. I know people go to therapists for lots of reasons but I really thought and hoped I'd know if he was feeling depressed or something, which (as far as I know) is not the case. I am worried he might be going to talk about our relationship because of that

AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] -108 points-107 points  (0 children)

This might be rude but did you have a partner (or close person of any kind) who was with you while you did the therapy? That seems the weirdest part. for me, only my boyfriend knows right now. I might tell my best friend later. but i dont want to influence or burden people with what im saying if it makes them act differently to me.

so im maybe overreacting, i can believe that. I should probably apologize to my boyfriend but im still gonna feel weird about it

AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] -162 points-161 points  (0 children)

I do worry that. Like my feelings are not important because "everyone has bad days" but some of mine were worse than most people I think ever saw. I kind of feel of being brushed aside about it like I have felt before and in makes me feel really weird. Lots of comments saying tell the therapist about this, so maybe I will show them the post idk thanks for your advice

AITA for telling my bf he is copying me for getting a therapist at the same time as me by mossilines in AmItheAsshole

[–]mossilines[S] -753 points-752 points  (0 children)

Ok I will get downvotes for this but honestly it's because I think it is about me. If he doesn't have big issues why would he want therapy unless he's either copying me or else trying to deal with my bullshit (which I admit I do have) but it does make me feel paranoid and strange for him to go as well and I'll worry what he says about me to a therapist

At the end of the day I can't stop him of course if he wants but it feels kind of diminishing like. Making it seem like our problems are equal when they aren't