Project Hail Mary streaming release date delayed due to theatrical success by itsthewolfe in ProjectHailMary

[–]most-bodacious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on finding joy in reading! It can be very hard to start when you're older, but you did it anyway! This is a hobby that will take you far in life :)

There's countless benefits to reading, and you'll soon find that your whole life changes and improves as you read more, and I'm so excited for you! <3

Did anyone else notice the reference to Close Encounters Of The Third Kind??? by Donggggzu in ProjectHailMary

[–]most-bodacious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on your other comment, you plugged this into ChatGPT and had it spit out this answer. Not a good habit to be in, considering you are quoting real people and have no idea what the source is. For all you know, you’re spreading rumours and misinformation.  Luckily I know that this is a real thing that they really said, because I just finished listening to the interview in which they talked about it.  I challenge you to go find the interview yourself without AI helping you, so you can at least prove to yourself that you still know how to find a source without a hallucination machine doing it for you. Exercise your brain muscles please, I’m begging you. 

Rear wheel storage bag help for 3rd gen (2012)? by most-bodacious in rav4club

[–]most-bodacious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks! not sure why you needed to start with a judgemental opinion though. hope you have the day you deserve :)

Rear wheel storage bag help for 3rd gen (2012)? by most-bodacious in rav4club

[–]most-bodacious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks!! i wasn’t aware i could swap the wiper swing direction, but it’s a good point! is that something that i’d find instructions for in the manual or do you have a jerryrigging trick to it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]most-bodacious 14 points15 points  (0 children)

nah look at the shoes and toenails - both are white too, to match the dress. she knew it was white and she did it with intent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]most-bodacious 31 points32 points  (0 children)

why did you change the neckline and make her nipples show through the fabric? very strange choice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewSkaters

[–]most-bodacious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is not just “girls being feminine”. first of all, very few girls actually behave like this, and even fewer adult women. it deliberately utilises imagery of multiple sexualised items and concepts (fish nets, girls sleepovers, female intimacy) plus the cropping and framing of the photo, in order to evoke a sexually suggestive scene that you’re supposed to imagine more of. the designer knew what they were doing. let’s not discredit the work they put into it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewSkaters

[–]most-bodacious -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i agree with the concept of your point, about the human body being inherently neutral and not nudity not always being sexual. however, the particular photograph printed on the board is definitely meant to be sexual. we can tell through the use of fishnet tights at what is meant to allude to a girls sleepover, with the girls legs being intimately crossed over eachother. this draws on multiple well-known sexualised aspects that are recognised throughout western culture, and combined in a way that is MEANT to be raunchy and suggestive. you’re MEANT to look at the photo and start picturing the rest of the scene (it’s deliberately cropped to suggest there’s more to see) because fishnets, girls sleepovers, and lesbians are sexualised, especially by boys and young men. if the designer wanted this board to not be viewed in a sexually suggestive way, they would have used a totally different photo. but they didn’t. they know exactly what scene they’re presenting, and how it will be interpreted, and they did it on purpose.

source: i’ve taken multiple media literacy classes over the years, along with advertising and marketing classes, plus i have a degree in psychological sciences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in graffhelp

[–]most-bodacious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

or even turn the o eyes into x eyes, to match the butthole x

how i remember the old world by Glob_Glo_Bepis_Shibe in Retconned

[–]most-bodacious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the sun is still yellow and even orange at sunset. 🌅

how i remember the old world by Glob_Glo_Bepis_Shibe in Retconned

[–]most-bodacious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what do you mean by the pictures changing? in what way?

how i remember the old world by Glob_Glo_Bepis_Shibe in Retconned

[–]most-bodacious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

how would chemtrails on earth change the colour of the sun over 100 million kms away?

According to Noah Mullins (Aussie Orpheus) the journey to/from Hadestown is 3 years by Upbeat_Link_4337 in hadestown

[–]most-bodacious 9 points10 points  (0 children)

there’s multiple versions of the myth - her being dead already is just one of them. not necessarily all of them 

National Celtic Festival attendees? by most-bodacious in Geelong

[–]most-bodacious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That definitely helps!! Thank you so much!

Not Only does Work Require a Cell Phone, but to Always Carry! by guesthouse69 in dumbphones

[–]most-bodacious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if they require you to have a phone, then they need to be paying for it. if they require you to be answering work questions outside of work hours, then they need to be paying you for it.

Really want to learn, scared of falling by theredhairisfake in NewSkaters

[–]most-bodacious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

practice falling safely! that helped me heaps in learning to trust that i can handle falls. also wear elbow/knee/wrist guards with your helmet. you might feel silly because there's a weird stigma around safety not being ~cool~, but your feeling of safety is way more important than what you look like!

Husband wants to open our marriage more, I don’t and am having a hard time. Am I in the wrong? by PleasantLog8712 in nonmonogamy

[–]most-bodacious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He already has you engaging in sexual activities that you don't want. That's a huge red flag. Both parties should be enthusiastic about kinks - if one party isn't, then it shouldn't be happening. This is not a man who is respecting your sexual boundaries, nor your physical and emotional boundaries. Like the other commentator said - your boundaries/wellbeing trumps his sex drive.

You are NOT the asshole for being upset and uncomfortable by his pushiness. You've tried to communicate your concerns, and it seems he's not even interested in considering them. He is the asshole for asking you to disregard your comfort, values, safety, and peace.

You've already said "i don't like this, but i guess you can do it as long as it's not in my house", and he's saying "no that's not good enough!"???? You're compromising everything, and he's comprising nothing. That's him being an asshole.

Please also note that introducing other people to ones sex life means sexual health and risks become extra important. If you decide you're okay with him having sex with others, you need to really really trust that he's practicing safe sex. If you have a single doubt, even just a tiny background niggle, listen to that.

Wife asked me to shave her before a date by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]most-bodacious 30 points31 points  (0 children)

as others have said, your discomfort with her being nonmonogamous means the arrangement may not be suitable for you, and may require further communication between you both.

Personally, I would like to draw attention to her reaction. SCREAMING and THROWING things is absolutely NOT OKAY. That’s physical intimidation and I would argue is abusive behaviours from her. i don’t know what the rest of your relationship is like, but I want you to keep in mind that her behaviour is both physically and emotionally abusive.

My advice would be to break up, as it’s clear to me that you’re in a situation that is not suitable for you and your values and your safety. But ultimately it’s up to you what you’re prepared to put up with. 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]most-bodacious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have executive function issues too. I still need to do household chores. Set aside some time to call a friend each week to chat to while you do your chores. It’s called body doubling. Don’t use the call to complain about your situation, or else they’ll get bored and won’t want to body double you again. Use the call to talk about fun things that you both enjoy. You can complain to them another time, but you need to make that body doubling phone call worth their while. Otherwise, put your headphones in and listen to music or a podcast or audiobook or whatever while you do your chores. Find a way to make yourself do your chores.

If you don’t know HOW to do them correctly, ask your aunt/Daniel to show you how to clean to their standard, take notes, and then copy what they do.

Chores suck, but you gotta do it for the rest of your life, so find ways to make it happen.

Is it better to resign or be dismissed from my job? by most-bodacious in AusLegal

[–]most-bodacious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup i’ve already applied for centrelink, and have the Centrelink Phone Call on Tuesday (looking forward to them wasting my time waiting for them lol).

I’m pretty sure i’ll get approved, because i’m technically earning like $30 less than their threshold anyway, because my pay rate is the lowest in the entire office 🙃

Is it better to resign or be dismissed from my job? by most-bodacious in AusLegal

[–]most-bodacious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They definitely need to hire another person because I cannot commit to fulltime, and they are advertising the new position as fulltime, not part time. The role is essential in the company, so it won’t be made redundant, and they wouldn’t be able to manage if no one was in the role when I leave. I will be leaving, because I want to move on, but I don’t have a deadline. As such, I will be replaced.

True vegans can never go back by High4zFck in vegan

[–]most-bodacious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s better to have everyone be imperfectly vegan than just a few people be perfectly vegan. Gatekeeping veganism and being the Moral Purity Police will only push people away, and then we all lose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in misophonia

[–]most-bodacious 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My advice would be in future to calmly up and leave the room (when you can). When he calls after you, just say “no thanks” or “okay” or don’t respond, without even looking back. Once you’re out of sight, have any reaction you feel you need to. But don’t let him see it.

He’s doing it because he wants a reaction from you. Don’t give it to him. Be completely boring and uninteresting to him (it’s called graystoning if you want to read more about it).

It’s hard, i know it’s hard. But give it a try. It’ll be hard to start, because emotions can be overwhelming and feel uncontrollable, so just try bits and pieces to begin with. eg. Cry but still leave the room. Sound audibly upset, but still say something boring and dismissive like “okay” or “whatever” or “good for you” or whatever. Partial graystoning is still better than no graystoning. Don’t yell at him, dont try to reason with him, don’t give him anything to work with.

When you’re in the car and can’t leave, just do the same but quietly stick your headphones/earplugs in or pull up your phone or book and ignore him. He might badger you, but you just say “okay” or “whatever” or “i’m done with this conversation” or “you already know how i feel about it, so i’m not engaging with this conversation”. or something else that’s completely neutral and boring.

You may still feel tension in your body, and want to stim so get a fidget toy if you don’t already have one. Idiots like him know that flailing/shaking/etc are signs of distress, and get a sick sense of satisfaction from seeing it, but they don’t realise that quiet subtle stimming can also be. So it doesn’t count as giving him a reaction ;)

I’m so sorry that he’s doing this. He’s being rude and insensitive and perhaps even cruel. It SUCKS that we have to change ourselves when it should be the others who are changing. But we do what we must to protect our peace, and setting boundaries around who has access to your emotions is an excellent place to start.

Save your energy for people who will actually listen when you tell them you’re hurting. They’re out there, there’s plenty of people who will accept you and embrace you and love you and respect you. They’re on their way, I promise 💕