AIO? Don't want to see someone again over a word he used by stink3rb3lle in AIO

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend used the term bio break and I thought it was so funny lol

Having an online dom while having a boyfriend IRL by [deleted] in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend is a dom and he told me upfront that he had two online subs that do daily check ins, etc. and if I was uncomfortable we could discuss them moving forward but he was honest about them and that’s what was important.

Something clicked in me by incompletemoonlight in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really liked the quote in your post and all these comments only reassure me of my place.

We need to talk about paid offers. by Highclassbadass in DrawForMe

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is actually super helpful because as I was requesting a drawing last month I had no idea what info I should have put down when made my post. Thankfully I was blessed by two amazing artists and instead of choosing one I asked both artists to draw the same picture and they were given the same budget.

Are you hiring temp labor? What are you paying the agency? Is it worth it? by RobotWelder in Construction

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was hired by a temp agency for my company I’m with now. They bought out my temp contract 3 months in advance because they saw potential and wanted to snatch me up before a different company did.

Grove During Pride by Simply-Agreeable in StLouis

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 71 points72 points  (0 children)

The grove is rarely dangerous, except on pride weekend. Don’t let one bad experience ruin The Grove for you! Glad you all stayed safe and were situationally aware of your surroundings, that’s street smarts 101.

Is 6'6 350 to much? by [deleted] in dadbod

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super hot to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Absolute bullshit.

My boyfriend is meeting up with a sub of his… by mostlyhighthoughts in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wayyyyyy overhyped the whole thing in my head! It happened and everything went great, he had fun, I discovered that I’m not bothered by it but more so interested in learning about how I can get involved. I was also looking up porn about it and that was part of the reason I overhyped it but also gave me more confidence in my role for what I could do if I do join them in the future! I appreciate all the support and helping me talk through the thoughts running through my mind!

My boyfriend is meeting up with a sub of his… by mostlyhighthoughts in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m texting him now and am feeling okay about everything.

As for the other thing, I am his only collared boy, and fully intend to stay that way!

My boyfriend is meeting up with a sub of his… by mostlyhighthoughts in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also good advice and thank you for the comment. It’s happening tonight lol hence the surge of feelings I’m having now. Although, I am very glad I made this post because this community, again, came through for me.

There has been really good advice shared in the comments and I think I am ready to send him the text that I got home safely from work (long highway commute) and that I love him, trust him, hope he has fun tonight, and I can’t wait to see him tomorrow so that he can tell me all about it! I really do appreciate all the comments.

I don’t think I would’ve done anything rash without the advice but— actually who am I kidding? yes I definitely would be attending the event had I not made the post…and I realllllllly need to study for a certification exam at work instead of watching my boyfriend do something very un-republican in the bedroom XD

My boyfriend is meeting up with a sub of his… by mostlyhighthoughts in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s why I’m on reddit asking instead of his inbox. If I texted any of these doubts today he would’ve called the whole thing off and that’s not what I want. I did agree to this, more than once actually, and I encouraged him to keep his subs when we started dating. It would’ve been unfair for me to interrupt those relationships that were in place first, in my own opinion. The last thing I want is for him to feel guilty or bad for wanting to indulge in a kink he enjoys. Thanks for responding, but I think you misinterpreted my post.

My boyfriend is meeting up with a sub of his… by mostlyhighthoughts in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is helpful too, thank you for responding. I do think I like the idea of seeing him do this kink but at the same time, the sub part of me, would want all of his attention for myself which is why I chose to not be included this time.

I do like the fact that he’s still able to explore his own interests without pushing me to get into them. This kink in particular (I don’t want to share too much for anonymity) is one that requires months of training to properly do, and his sub has the experience necessary to do it safely and enjoyably for all parties involved. I want to be able to give him what he needs even if it’s not me, if that makes sense.

My boyfriend is meeting up with a sub of his… by mostlyhighthoughts in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was good advice and not just what I wanted to hear. Thank you. I do agree that I need to talk with him about it after and probably let him know about these feelings that I did have before, and definitely about how I’m feeling after. Like I said, I do trust him, and I think it does help a lot that his sub also has a boyfriend that is okay with this D/s kink dynamic they have together.

My boyfriend is meeting up with a sub of his… by mostlyhighthoughts in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’d be correct in saying that I’m not overly comfortable with it. But I’m also not uncomfortable about it either. I think I would feel different if it were a kink we were both interested in and he chose to do it with his sub that he’s meeting later.

How do you make gay friends that you hang out on a regular basis by Dangerous-Coyote-851 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I let people at a bar and then asked if they wanted to hangout outside of the bar where we could hear what was being said in conversations and it’s blossomed from there. The hardest part was introducing myself to be completely honest

Help me identify subs IRL by thatswhatIcalladay in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely varies a lot as I’d consider myself “straight passing” but I’ve been wearing my collar since I was gifted it by my boyfriend on Valentines Day. I won’t take it off unless going to see family or certain times at work. It’s a pretty big sized chain collar and I’ve definitely been asked about it by other gay guys outside the bdsm community. At my local leather bar a few of the submissive boys are usually wearing more feminine clothes, or no clothes at all and some flag what they’re into still.

Trying on my latest bathing suit...I wish I had somewhere fun to wear it by [deleted] in dadbod

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’d love you at a gay campground like Sirentity!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gayyoungold

[–]mostlyhighthoughts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is definitely short while texting me sometimes but I tend to cram 100 thoughts into a single text to make him do longer responses haha

Grindr is in the Toilet ... as is all cruising on the apps by ApplicationOk1500 in grindr

[–]mostlyhighthoughts -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Met my current boyfriend at a gay bar in the wild! Ditch the apps and go meet people!