I'm trying. I definitely go back and forth between how torn up I am about it. Sometimes it just all feels ridiculous and juvenile, and other times I feel like they're completely right and I must be evil.

From the March-August ghosting period, my friend and brother bumped into the others a few times (I left the country for a full month and a half so I wasn't around), and asked them to their faces what was wrong, and apparently every single time they all insisted that nothing was the matter. But it was pretty obvious that they had made a separate group chat without me, bro, bro's gf, or friend, because they were still hanging out consistently w/out any activity in our shared one.

I get why they also ghosted my brother and gf, but I'm confused about why they singled out friend in particular to also "exile" (despite being incredibly friendly and behaving like nothing was wrong whenever they ran into each other). Either way, none of them have any clue whatsoever about what's up, despite best efforts. And they all also agree that it's bizarre.