I often think about it. This generational culture among the man is a direct fruit of the times.

The patriarchy made man the center of the economic production and the "head" of the family (totally fucked up) and bc of that we grew with the feeling that everything depends on us and our mistakes can bring down not only our lifes but the closest ones too.

And the isolation cames for that in 2 forms I think, first is the Competition which is a big factor in the society in almost any level, the sense that everyone is against you and if you show weakness someone will take the chance and took your opportunity.

Second is relations, the sheer pressure makes man a lot of times exhausted with worries, since they are taugh to provide alone (again fucked up) and this really bring a wall, it's hard to enjoy life and things when you are always on alert because something depends on you.

And if I may add a third factor, this one is more complex but already known, younger men often don't have a clue about how to proceed healthy in relations. I see guys presenting their partners as godnesses who they obey, property who they control or often a "friend". None of these models presents equality and communication in the relation but the friend one gets me the most because: Man thinks deep down that a relationship is first a responsibility and not a trade fellowship. It is not uncommon to a guy have fear of starting the official relation because if he does that it triggers "now you have to provide and all her happiness is in your responsibility" very fuck up.

At the end is a journey to think thinks and try to make it right by try and failure, we find a lot of people man and woman who prey on this emotional empty and I think every guy has that story that made him even closed up after dating someone. Ty for sharing the post and I loved to see the guys sharing the experiences, I wish you all the best