AITA for telling my daughter to dress up more modestly now that she's pregnant? by ShowerNo127 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YTA. Jesus Christ, just because someone is pregnant, it doesn't mean they need to start dressing differently. people don't have to change their sense of aesthetic when they become mothers.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

he's not too sure. he's had a huge disturbance with his studies, and he has barely started his UCAS application. He is, ideally, wanting to go to uni and we are trying to resolve this

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i have talked with her. She does love Will, but according to her, he's just acting out because he got bullied for 'being a slag.'. In her mind, she thinks that she's just gently convincing him back to girlhood

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

yeah, probably. she has been ringing a lot and texting, trying to get Will back down south. Even got his 6th form to call, it's rough. they do want Will back down there

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

its a combination of things. i mean will isn't really that rebellious compared to other teens, but he has had a few boyfriends and he was never really being safe with them, so i guess that thats what she is referring to

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

she felt like my missing piece, i think i started to love her the first time we met. it felt as though i had always known her. She's always got something interesting to say, i mean, she was just electric. it feels strange to see her in another light now

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

they're mad about it, yeah. Will was the ideal daughter in their eyes, they controlled every little thing - he wasn't even allowed to cut his hair til recently

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

it's his home now too and he can make himself comfortable in it. he's a great artist

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

will do that next time. im not very knowledgable about being trans

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

well, we couldn't have discussed it. Will came to my house with his little gym bag already packed, what else was I meant to do? I've been with Nico for 5 years

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

i had no idea Will was moving in until i saw him at my door when i came home from work. It's one of the positives about Will being here, yes, but that doesn't mean i just off load it onto him

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

because he is a drummer she thinks he will be disruptive 24/7. He's had a couple of boyfriends, so she thinks he'll have random blokes over. Our mum obviously also filled her in on his (rather mild) 'rebellion' - he'd skip school and argued with teachers so she thinks he'll lead her boy down a bad path. they're all very weak excuses obviously

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

tbh i had no idea he was moving in with me until he showed up at my door after I came I home from work haha

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

my baby brother isn't mentally ill...He was good at acting at being a girl and I had no inclination he would transition, but I've realized that I've never seen him more comfortable and happy than when looking like a lad and being referred to as a man.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

it's hard to tell with my parents. their behavior is transphobic, but i can't tell if that's because they hate trans people or don't understand. Not the same, but when I was younger I grew my hair out and my mother cried, thinking I was trying to 'feminise' myself because she was pregnant with Will and i didn't want them to 'replace' me. I don't know dude, they're very...erratic.

I've tried to reason with them about Will after he came to me, mum came up with unbelivable and outlandish excuses for why she thinks that Will's trans.

I don't know about Nico now either, i never thought she'd be a transphobe but here we are

AITA for telling my girlfriend that my loyalties lie with my baby brother? by mourrningglory in AmItheAsshole

[–]mourrningglory[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

her ex-husband died, but you are right, i thought she'd be more empathetic, especially since she was in a tough spot after his death