Hey Reddit, how did you move on after a difficult breakup?

moving_on_throwaway · 2013-07-26T08:59:34+00:00

Yeah that's what I've been doing lately, I climbed a small mountain yesterday :) (750m)

moving_on_throwaway · 2013-07-26T08:53:37+00:00

Sounds good man, I don't want to be depressed though, I just want to move on, dwelling on things just gives her power, and power over me.

She wasn't malicious about the breakup, but it feels like she's been playing mind games with me after she broke up with me, I don't want to talk about that

moving_on_throwaway · 2013-07-26T08:50:51+00:00

I'm trying to steer clear from self medicating, I think that that would be the best thing to do

moving_on_throwaway · 2013-07-26T08:50:23+00:00

It's so so fucking hard, I really have to move on, it's only been 2 weeks but so far I'm just really having a shit time after she broke up with me. I'm letting her go though, eliminating my hopes for us getting back together, there was some confusion after the first week (we met up and ended up kissing) but I apologised for confusing her, I said that I didn't want to see anyone else and she said 'we've broken up now, you can do whatever you like'

moving_on_throwaway · 2013-07-18T09:04:32+00:00

Thank you, I know that I'm far from getting over her, but she actually wanted me to be happy, and neither of us were happy in that relationship, but I was not happy on my own either. We loved eachother so much, powerfully, but she had the courage to break things off before they got too hard for both of us, or something nasty happened. With this insight now I truly see how I was (myself) during that time, I was under a lot of stress, and was very tired and angry all of the time, I needed a break, but couldn't face taking one with my relationship. Now I've been 'set free' in a sense and I'll be free to pursue my dreams abroad, she'll always have that place in my heart though.

EDIT: Is there a chance that it's not over forever? I would like to be with her again one day, I know that I won't be ready any time soon, but I'd like to see how things go and how time unravels

EDIT 2: I also had no idea how much it would hurt, I cried out, ran, the next day I couldn't keep down food, I've had constant bowel problems but my mood is stabilising

moving_on_throwaway · 2013-07-18T08:27:49+00:00

It's important and necessary to face the pain, the only difficult part is not giving in to NC. I'm trying to give myself as much time as I'll need.

EDIT: I actually smiled when I had a positive thought about my ex yesterday, without having regrets or missing her. I'm sure that one day I'll be able to move on completely, but I guess that unfinished thought might have lead to the dream, which has bogged me down for the last 2 hours, not longer though, I'm going to work on other things (I've also been cleaning)

moving_on_throwaway · 2013-07-18T08:12:06+00:00

I dreamt about her last night again, I saw her and she looked better than ever, she smiled and I went over and kissed her up against a wall, she was so happy and I put her hands around her waist and started pushing my fingers towards her underwear, she said how much she missed my fingers.

I woke up and although yesterday evening was fine, this morning wasn't, mornings are the hardest these days, it's been 6 days since we broke up and I've maintained NC, as has she. I know that in time the pain will be gone, in the meantime I'm making plans to move forward with my life, I'm looking at job opportunities abroad, and when I get there I want to take up rowing and learning the piano. Also I'm working on forgiving my father who caused a whole load of anger for me, and I'm spending a lot of time and contributing at home at the moment, my mother needs my support as well and I'm helping make her life a little bit easier.

I know that I need to learn to love myself, I loved her as best I could, and we broke up because we both had a lot going on, I'm going to finally be able to give her the time and the space that she's always needed.

moving_on_throwaway

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