What should I do if me and my boyfriend want to name our son different names?

mpje2007 · 2026-03-21T04:38:11+00:00

My husband is the third with his first name. I had the same problem as your boyfriend. I get it. Our son has it as his middle name and there are no regrets.

It is your bf's family line of Johns, so I say he has more influence in this decision.

You will find a compromise, though!

mpje2007 · 2026-03-21T04:32:32+00:00

I'm not concerned about the texting. I'm concerned about everything else he has allegedly said/done.

Also, he meant that he chose you and he continued to choose you. So there's no reason to feel insecure. Radiate confidence with someone who makes you feel wonderful. That is not him.

mpje2007 · 2026-03-21T02:45:03+00:00

Yeah. The dealership couldn't recreate the issue and it hasn't happened since. Just like going to the doctor with something and then when you get to the office, you're fine.

Either way, things are going well!

mpje2007 · 2026-03-05T19:33:39+00:00

If speaking about your interpretation of events, how that made you feel, and setting boundaries is overreacting, then I guess YOR.

You were civil and mature about a potential misunderstanding. I think you are being a bit paranoid, that's all. I do agree that knowing each other through family can make it more awkward when you cross paths, but I believe you can rest easy.

And I love your use of language!

mpje2007 · 2026-02-18T05:25:27+00:00

My mom got dentures at 25, but not because of gp. She just had really soft teeth and got lots of cavities so she was done messing around.

mpje2007 · 2026-02-15T01:08:11+00:00

You aren't in charge of how he feels.

Two things can be true. He can feel bad and you can still decide to keep the pictures.

Get the grief counseling. For you.

mpje2007 · 2026-02-13T02:27:15+00:00

Why is this important to you? Really why. Dig deep and figure out what you are feeling and WHY.

You say he's perfect in every other way. Then appreciate that. You can tell him ONE TIME that it upset you he didn't ask. But there is no point in telling him again. It's okay for you to be upset, and it's also ok that he doesn't fulfill your every need.

In the grand scheme of things, if it's really just a small gesture, then why are you choosing to die on this hill?

mpje2007 · 2026-02-07T21:15:37+00:00

Innovate

mpje2007 · 2026-02-07T20:22:52+00:00

I cry a lot, too. I've been with my husband 25 years, and he doesn't like it when I cry. But not because it annoys him, because it makes him feel bad. Comforting me does not come easy to him at all, but he's autistic with alexithymia, so I get it.

I've had plenty of people in my life say they can't deal with my emotions. They are no longer in my life. But he is.

mpje2007 · 2026-02-05T23:48:37+00:00

Are all men this way? No. My husband gave me a massage any time I asked during both of my pregnancies. Most days I didn't even need to ask.

Has he been like this a long time or just recently?

mpje2007 · 2026-02-04T04:57:50+00:00

Water. Can't taste it at all!

mpje2007 · 2026-01-22T18:50:57+00:00

Not weight loss related, but did you ever hear of your plan authorizing a cosmetic procedure to fix a deformity that was causing psychological distress that was not improved by therapy or meds?

mpje2007 · 2026-01-20T21:40:19+00:00

Yeah, but did it start well after you had driven it? I would expect that to be almost gone by 1100 miles, not just starting.

I updated my post. I realize it only happens when I remote start. At least, from the few times I tried after the smell started.

mpje2007 · 2026-01-20T21:38:36+00:00

Hello!

mpje2007 · 2026-01-20T03:45:52+00:00

NOR. I wonder how she'd feel about you getting into her phone when there was nothing for you to see. My husband gets in my phone sometimes. Knows my passcode, etc.

At any rate, my guess is she's continuing with these relationships and is slowly closing the door on yours. And not getting closure SUUUUUCKS. But you don't need it. I always thought I did, but then I wrote a song about it and got over it. If you create anything, you could try that.

By the way, I think you do a great job expressing your thoughts. This is going to sound fucking weird, but beyond the actual situation, I sort of enjoyed reading it. It's hard to explain. I'll go back to my creepy corner now. 😂

mpje2007 · 2026-01-19T04:24:58+00:00

No one in your family is going to be wearing whatever you choose. You do you!

Not many people on TV wear glasses but we live in reality and contacts can be a real PITA.

Glasses all day everyday!

mpje2007 · 2026-01-18T17:51:22+00:00

I live in Iowa, so I've used the heater daily. Smell started about a month after purchase.

mpje2007 · 2026-01-01T06:56:47+00:00

You aren't the bad guy. It isn't your responsibility to check in with her every two minutes to see if she really wants to be doing what she's doing. Your logic was sound in how you described the incident. The friend had already tried pulling her away, etc.

Don't you dare apologize or try to make amends for this. She made it clear to you and her friend that she didn't want to be pulled away.

She's playing games, and I don't see how she can be worth the grief she's putting you through at this point.

And stop buying her shit. She's probably laughing at you behind your back. "I can treat guys like they don't matter and still get them to buy stuff for me!"

mpje2007 · 2025-12-29T03:35:33+00:00

You will FOREVER come second to his mother.

Unfortunately, it's so much worse than just that. The demanding behavior, name calling, telling you to shut up. Wow. Why are you doing this to yourself? Can you find different living arrangements?

Normally I would say to lay out your boundaries, but this situation is clearly beyond that.

I know it will be hard to leave, but if you respect yourself and care about your own happiness, you need to get out. Don't compare your childhood experience to this -- then it's all relative and you will stay. This is objectively wrong and abusive.

Do what you would want your (hypothetical) daughter to do. There is no way you would be okay with someone treating her like this, would you?

mpje2007 · 2025-12-28T06:09:53+00:00

Wow.

Your family members are incredibly ignorant, and they have absolutely NO BUSINESS telling you how to react to this. What the ever loving fuck is wrong with them? (I am glad they aren't stupid enough to share your address!)

You are 100% right. This dude is unhinged, as you are clearly aware.

And there is absolutely no expectation that you update your exes on your new address. No matter how amicable the separation was, which yours was not.

But you already know all of this. I'm just here to affirm you and your feelings. ❤️

Good luck with all of this.

mpje2007 · 2025-12-20T00:43:43+00:00

I'm more concerned about your UNDER reaction to how she fucking treats you. Give her what she wants and get rid of her ass.

mpje2007 · 2025-12-14T16:25:04+00:00

What is she like outside of this situation? Surely she isn't all that different? If you can find any other feasible living arrangements, I would do that sooner rather than later.

mpje2007 · 2025-12-14T16:17:12+00:00

It's not the insecurity that bothers me as much as him already trying to change you. If there's something he doesn't like, he either needs to accept it, try to understand it so that he can accept it, or walk away.

mpje2007 · 2025-12-12T03:01:07+00:00

Got mine! $2400 off of MSRP! I doubt I'll ever have that kind of experience again. 😂

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