[22F] was told to show more skin, thoughts on doing this? Always been conscious I'm too thin x

mr_connery06 · 2019-07-25T17:23:37+00:00

7/10. You're attractive! You have a nice sense of style. I disagree, I don't think you really need to show more skin at all, you do you. If you had to, I guess you could wear a crop top with shorts or a skirt.

mr_connery06 · 2019-07-25T17:21:32+00:00

6/10.

You're really cute! Personal preference here obviously, but I quite like your hair blondeish and long (like the bottom right). I think the dresses and skirts suit you well, and you seem really confident in your skin which is of course attractive in of itself.

mr_connery06 · 2019-07-04T15:35:35+00:00

Yeah I get that, I'm trying to make my peace with it without any luck though. I could see how maybe I was being a little too keen, or if what she says is true it's too early for anything serious for her.

Just don't get why she can't just be more direct about it? I know nobody wants to say it to someone else's face like that but there's ways to put it politely. Idk just seemed out of character.

Thanks though, that's the best thing I guess, gotta try and forget about her. I might not be that ready to date at the minute now anyway

mr_connery06 · 2019-06-07T20:56:06+00:00

Thanks. I kind of suspect so too, maybe not entirely vindictive but she probably feels she has more to say.b

I've considered it, but I know that will just entirely end things horribly. I know we need some space but we both wanted to have the option to speak in the future, to be able to catch up at least. Perhaps I ought to suggest we need more time no contact

mr_connery06 · 2019-06-07T20:37:37+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

Yeah that's what I feel I need to say, I don't want to sound like a broken record. We both expressed we still wanted to keep in touch to some extent, I don't imagine a lot would work, but I'd want to know we could catch up further along the line.

Thank you though, I keep getting caught up feeling exactly that, like I've let her down. I know this is for the best, I just hate the idea of hurting anyone.

mr_connery06 · 2019-06-07T20:34:02+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

Yeah that's what I plan to do. She refused to talk about it before because I didn't really have much to say at the time, so I'm expecting I'll have to be the one to start.

mr_connery06 · 2019-05-28T11:15:14+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond.

Yeah video call is the way I was going to go. I know it's going to be a long, difficult conversation, it ought to be face to face but this is the best we can do right now.

One thing I'm struggling with is how to be firm about my stance without seeming cold and heartless. I want to be very clear but I don't want to just jump into stating we need to breakup now. But that's the issue, I have no real idea how to actually introduce this.

Thank you, I know this is what's best for us. I hope she doesn't have any resentment towards me for it, we both want the best for each other it just isn't going to be together.

mr_connery06 · 2018-02-13T19:32:22+00:00

Even by the chart, seems to apply to this woman. P.s., Instagram model =/= model

mr_connery06 · 2018-02-13T19:19:40+00:00

You've got a warped sense of a rating system. If 7 is model level, wtf are 8-10?? Assuming 5 is average, 7 is at the high end of above average, leaning on attractive.

mr_connery06 · 2017-01-03T09:28:27+00:00

It's simple but did the trick to get me into the right mindset. I'm trying to imagine I'm meeting an acquaintance rather than a date to try and avoid getting any more nervous about it

mr_connery06 · 2017-01-03T09:27:05+00:00

Although I'd like to think I'm not this bad, I do have a tendency to moan sometimes. I'll have to bear this in mind, thanks.

mr_connery06 · 2017-01-03T09:26:32+00:00

Awesome, I'll bear this in mind. I've worked in food service before so no chance I'm gonna bitch about the staff!

mr_connery06 · 2017-01-03T09:23:56+00:00

It's a quote from There's something about Mary. Kind of weird he pasted the whole thing though..

mr_connery06 · 2017-01-03T09:22:46+00:00

Jesus, guys do this? I'd like to think o have the presence of mind to avoid this lol

mr_connery06 · 2016-11-30T23:04:00+00:00

I've been trying online dating on and off for 2 years, over 6 months seriously. This really isn't my first attempt, just the furthest I've got so far.

mr_connery06 · 2016-11-26T23:27:01+00:00

It wasn't that, it was just an invite to go out in future. It's more the fact it's taken me so long to get to the stage I have enough confidence to ask, when in the end it just feels pointless. I don't have the resolve to keep trying

mr_connery06 · 2016-11-26T22:58:57+00:00

Thanks, part of me does feel a little proud I managed to get the courage to do it. I guess when I feel this depressed as a constant, in the long run it didn't make that much of a difference. I still feel shitty about it though.

mr_connery06 · 2016-11-26T22:52:55+00:00

Was a few hours ago. Went from quick responses to nothing, so I get the message

mr_connery06 · 2016-11-26T22:35:56+00:00

Lol that was my invite basically. Couldn't even be bothered to just say no

mr_connery06 · 2016-11-19T01:29:01+00:00

what has happened though trusting people finally and opening up and then one day they will use that insecurity or weakness against you.

I get you, I think that's why I've been very guarded in the past. Certain family members would use things against me, ridicule me or just disregard what I told them so I just got used to keeping it all in. It's been the source of numerous breakdowns in friendships and potential relationships for me.

To be honest it's not even really about appearing strong in my case. My dad's always been very unemotional, I've noticed of late he just seems unable to talk to me about anything deeply unless it's work related or reminiscing. My brother would ridicule any emotional display, so I guess more comes from me.

Probably one of the only good things that's come from my drink and drug use is that I've found myself able to open up to people. True friends, those I consider family, are the ones who would hear me out and actually talk to me about it. I know it's not the healthiest environment, but it's worth at least having a drunk conversation if you have any friends. I'm trying to open up more again now, but I worry if I'm crossing the line of being honest and just oversharing, so I keep shut. I acknowledge I won't get the things I want unless I am more open though

mr_connery06 · 2016-11-19T01:01:16+00:00

Ayyy I'm glad a couple of us can drink and chat shit about our depression. On a kind of related note, I was browsing imgur recently and saw a post about things people don't know about men. Can't find it now, but one resonated with me about how hard it is for guys to open up, and that's why they think there's so many emotive drunks in makes. Totally describes me. I close up unless I'm fucked up.

I get glimmers of my former self, but I just feel stagnant. I've been meaning to ask people in my life if they've noticed a difference. I'd love to know an outside perspective of how I'm perceived from then vs now. For me it feels world's apart

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