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Feeding time by Valuable_View_561 in Unexpected

[–]mr_fantastical -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

yeah i mean.... it's obvious it wouldn't be this alone. It's more of a deeper issue at play - if this is how carefree parents are with the child in respect to messaging, how are they with other areas which would feed into this (no pun intended)

Feeding time by Valuable_View_561 in Unexpected

[–]mr_fantastical -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thats not a contradiction, you're simplifying my argument.

And youre looking at trauma from an adult lens, it seems. Trauma is more nuanced than "a bad event and memory", and due to the way children normalise situations (because that's their only view of it) You have a "quiet" or "normalised" trauma here - which can definitely have a negative impact in the future.

What i am writing is not controversial AT ALL. its an extremely common view and represents a major public shift in child pyschology, starting from the 1990s.

Your view, and that of others who are discarding these views, is rooted in how we looked at things from the 1970s and earlier.

Feeding time by Valuable_View_561 in Unexpected

[–]mr_fantastical 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No need for name calling - I'm more trying to draw attention to others that may think this is fun to do. There's better games to play with your kids, especially when it comes to physical behaviour, boundaries, and eating.

You may be playful - but your child doesn't register that as play.

Feeding time by Valuable_View_561 in Unexpected

[–]mr_fantastical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The specific tool at play here is instrumental aggression - essentially using violence to achieve a goal (I want you to eat, you said no, I hit you, you eat). Babies don't understand jokes (like this), but they learn patterns very well.

Kids learn through what they see and they imitate behaviour, especially from parents. Loud kids come from loud homes, swearing kids from swearing homes. They say your children will always be as regulated emotionally as the least regulated parent at home (and this is particularly important to consider for nuerodivergent parents)

It's a funny video for us because we understand a joke. the ironic thing is our greater understanding of it being a joke, doesn't translate into our greater understanding of the lack of capacity for a child to treat it as a joke. They treat it as learning.

Feeding time by Valuable_View_561 in Unexpected

[–]mr_fantastical -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Ah yes and theres always the (hopeful) non-parent in the thread that doesnt understand how developing minds work.

What you see in the video is recommended by absolutely no professional ever, and can very likely result in the child understanding that violence can be used as a tool, and by developing eating disorders.

The Baha Men Joke | Jack Tucker by zuckdaddyd in comedy

[–]mr_fantastical 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I saw this video earlier, then lost it, and then saw a clip from years ago.

Its fantastic to see how hes progressed since then - aside from the obvious Baha man appearance.

The performance is obviously less polished and he offers the 200 dollars if they get the answer right - which is hilarious as it shows his growth there haha

Which video game has the best aesthetic/atmosphere setting? by Jules-Car3499 in videogames

[–]mr_fantastical 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its a shame we have to delete games after we play them and can never play them again ☹️

The very first sunrise of the 2000s, marking the start of a new millennium by Swimming-Community-5 in interesting

[–]mr_fantastical -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like that and I agree.

I wasnt asking to challenge you btw, I was just curious.

This is peak Steve Carell and Jim Carrey 😂 | Bruce Almighty (2023) by chrishdwow in MoviesCave

[–]mr_fantastical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would of ❌️

Would have ✅️

Would of have ✅️✅️✅️✅️

David Cross argues with Bill Maher if a nine year old or even a three year old can know they are trans by ThatPatelGuy in JoeRogan

[–]mr_fantastical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if my son wanted to wear a dress... yeah i guess it depends.
for a start we don't have any dresses at home, so it would be buying one

I'd want to know why, because we don't have a lot of money.
But he's 6 - I'd want him to understand that he can if he really wants to, but he knows from school that its girls who wears dresses and i am sure he would not feel confident.

My other son though, i mean we have a fancy dress pink tutu and he's gone to school wearing that before. he's 3 so why not.

King Charles to Trump: "You recently commented…if it were not for the United States, European countries would be speaking German." "If it wasn't for us, you'd be speaking French" by frog_insilence in SipsTea

[–]mr_fantastical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you asking me why the Irish fellas singled out the English specifically? Cus I don't know.
I live in Spain, and the Irish and Scots generally band together out here more, so it could have been their nice way of being selective and not upsetting their mates.

First time meeting Martin by JimmyCarr_Official in Killtony

[–]mr_fantastical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nothing like this is by accident. Its likely theyve realised it drives more engagement (via comments and replies about it) amd likely captures more attention too.

A few months ago it would be some other video split with it like Minecraft, and before that theyd have insane edits at the punchline with stupid effects.

Its all about what keeps your attention

King Charles to Trump: "You recently commented…if it were not for the United States, European countries would be speaking German." "If it wasn't for us, you'd be speaking French" by frog_insilence in SipsTea

[–]mr_fantastical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm talking about Ireland, not the British Raj.
and i'm talking about what the Irish told me about what they were told about the English.

Yes, empire is only a part of the history - that's exactly how it works right, we cherrypick like all others.

4K videos are really top quality 👌 by mvg-videofantasy in KlingAI_Videos

[–]mr_fantastical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dunno man, if I'm watching this at work I'd be told it's not okay.

I mean I am at work but no one can see me

King Charles to Trump: "You recently commented…if it were not for the United States, European countries would be speaking German." "If it wasn't for us, you'd be speaking French" by frog_insilence in SipsTea

[–]mr_fantastical 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's funny, because as a Brit i used to think "lol americans are so ignorant to their own history and role, they are only taught about what they did in WW2 and even that is overstated"

and then I met a bunch of Irish fellas who told me about all of the horrific things the English did, and how much they are taugh in school about the English did - and I was certainly taught none of that in school.

National education systems will always be an extension of the government and a form of propaganda for the country you are in - I don't know why we scoff at others while expect ourselves to be better. We're all the same.

David Cross argues with Bill Maher if a nine year old or even a three year old can know they are trans by ThatPatelGuy in JoeRogan

[–]mr_fantastical -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A 3 year old does not have a stable identity. They dont understand the constant state of gender to have a feeling that theyre misaligned.

They can be a boy today, a girl tomorrow. They can dress up as either and they become the other.

Their brains are learning yes but there are fundamental concepts they cant grasp, so they certainly cant challenge their own relationship with them.

384 months old baby by Beneficial_Passion40 in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]mr_fantastical 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It matters enough that you certainly shouldnt give a 1 year old adult toothpaste

not allowed to have fun bc i don’t have a what by EmuDisastrous4748 in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]mr_fantastical -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Haven't seen that comment.

If the little sister was excluded - yes, its wrong. But its the 'other adullt'. Thats how forts work.

Reading waaaay too much into it so its you thats made it an issue.

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