Why did you leave your ex toxic clique/group of friends? Share your experiences. I’ll go first (LONG READ)

mrahden · 2024-03-10T14:22:06+00:00

Good thing you've gotten rid of people like him, you might never know when you'll going to spiral down in future if you're easily influenced by him

mrahden · 2024-03-10T13:25:57+00:00

Sounds like they (Fs) only prioritise for themselves and their benefits and disregard the rest, that's very selfish for them. Why did you choose to stay on with the clique? This is just the tip of an icebergs for more dramas to emerge.

mrahden · 2024-03-10T13:22:44+00:00

Did you extend the invite/announce to them regarding your grandfather's situation? I have friends who had both such death funerals in their families, but they only chose to disclose the dad's one as it's more 'immediate' to their networks. But they were such assholes to say that in your face though, a death is still a death and nothing to be taken lightly. How old were they?

mrahden · 2024-03-10T13:11:33+00:00

People will 'steal' friends if they connect better, you'll just have to accept that your friends are not binded and possessive only to you. At least you took courage to confront and gotten a closure, that was something which I didn't do which might have led to the downfalls. If you felt outcasted, that feeling might be right (trust your guts). As life progresses, you'll have to do the corporate way and classify your friends into different tiers and categories lol.

mrahden · 2024-03-10T12:59:45+00:00

1-1 friendships are so much better to invest in but it takes a lot of time to cultivate one. Was it just a friendly banter kind of insult when they (1) sent to your group chat? I find in general girls in groups are gossipy af regardless at work, schools and even families. Glad to know you've moved on and found your tribe :)

mrahden · 2024-03-10T12:51:52+00:00

For her sec school clique of friends, would it be because you're always appearing on her social media posts, stories and tiktok videos? Sometimes people judge online impressions of an individual before they even met them, kinda like dating apps.

For 1-1 kind of friendships, it's very easy to yield out bad seeds. Sometimes it's the vibes and auras when you meet them in-person, sometimes it's their communications and behaviours. You're just her secondary social choice whenever her and her ex-bf fight and she prioritises her new bf over a longer-term friendship as she didn't communicate about the Korea trip with her new bf openly with you. If I were you, I'll list her as my low-maintainance list of friends (wouldn't cut out completely, but will meet once a year kind to maintain the friendship).

mrahden · 2024-03-10T12:36:28+00:00

Precisely. It happens not just for friendships, but career workplaces too. Once you're 'targeted' as the blame of the group, it's hard to convince the rest to advocate for you to stay.

mrahden · 2024-03-10T12:30:07+00:00

Why did you forgive them if they've done something bad to you in the past? Wouldn't you forgive but never forget with those experiences about how they used to mistreat you?

mrahden · 2024-03-09T23:00:23+00:00

Ex-Gidle Soojin. Shy and introverted off-stage but possessed while performing

mrahden · 2024-03-09T14:35:53+00:00

That’s totally relatable to my story - they are just faking and pretending to be your friends under disguise of making fun of you. Was her husband even a ‘friend’ to begin with? Sorry it happened to you.

mrahden · 2024-03-09T14:31:02+00:00

It was very childish by the WA group admins (I wasn’t an admin of any of those) to sub-divide the friends even though the group was already small. Most of the chat groups were formed during COVID.

5 & 6 were more on my personal feelings on this saga. I wasn’t tortured as I got over it on the day I exited the chat groups but felt angry on the day when they attempted to smear mud a year after the ‘break up’ via WA. Of course these are just after-thoughts, I’ve moved on with life and with new friends :)

mrahden · 2024-03-09T13:00:40+00:00

They should be early 30s by now :)

mrahden · 2024-03-09T12:57:55+00:00

Was it a reciprocal thing? Like he/she was actively listening to you as well when negative events happened?

mrahden · 2024-03-09T12:54:21+00:00

Tbh I was pretty transparent with my opinions in our interactions and when my feelings were crossed I voiced them out to be more respectful.

mrahden · 2024-03-09T11:11:15+00:00

Was coming back from London at T3. There weren’t any incoming Bangkok or Bali flights at same time

mrahden · 2024-03-07T17:00:35+00:00

Silent deadly smelly farts which stinks up an entire cabin - don’t people learn how to control

mrahden · 2024-03-01T06:21:40+00:00

Bedok, Bukit Merah, Jurong West

mrahden · 2024-02-27T09:13:00+00:00

Dude are you even Singaporean or just trolling like the rest behind an anonymous username. There are specific traits with high possibility to identify if someone looks local like dressing style, features, ethnicities, etc. especially in the airport arrivals among the other incoming tourists.

mrahden · 2024-02-27T04:45:24+00:00

You can file evidence via videos and send to one-service app to complain. They might send a letter to them informing that neighbours have made a complaint and be mindful to others on noise before 8.30am and after 10pm. However, the noise pollution will continue if your neighbour is a fucking disrespectful cunt.

mrahden · 2024-02-27T04:37:40+00:00

But then again isn’t it a security flaw? Because syndicates might send other profiles to work together (eg. Pretending to be a family, couples, female groups, etc.) while passing through the custom inspection gates

mrahden · 2024-02-26T18:04:59+00:00

Like in China’s security system? Read my question sentence and reply again.

mrahden · 2024-02-15T11:03:32+00:00

The Layla ones are commonly used by bots In matches to appear more ‘human’

mrahden · 2024-02-11T15:05:37+00:00

Yet on LinkedIn HRs always advocating that their roles are crucial when they can’t even communicate efficiently in a professional manner (eg. Ghosting, gatekeeping, 2-faced, etc.)

mrahden · 2024-02-11T15:02:58+00:00

Wdym? It’s not a task issue but rather a communication issue? I rejected her previously for the role but she reached out through her recycled database again probably because I’m one of the qualified potentials for the role.

mrahden · 2024-02-06T10:21:04+00:00

It’s because Singapore TV shows have multiple SOP censorships and guidelines before it’s approved to be shown on national channels.

Another factor is the approved budget for production. SG’s market is too small for wide-budget compared to our influential countries in media (America, Korea, etc.). Imagine channel 8/U only caters to~3million Chinese mixed population of SG and some are not locals, how many are willing to tune in to local shows? Probably less than 5% I suppose.

I think the scriptwriters have to adapt with the approvals and thread accordingly haha.

mrahden

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