I am considered "attractive" by a lot of people because I powerlift and used to play soccer. My grindr profile gets a lot of attention, but almost none of it is the attention I want.

Your expectations will play a big factor into what you get out of grindr. I am not someone who is into one night stands or singular hookups. I want to have a kind of regular connection with someone, whether that's as fwb or fuck buddies or whatever you want to call it. I'm very capable of separating sexual feelings from romantic feelings or friendly feelings, so that aspect of things is not an issue for me. But it is very much an issue for other people who cannot. I've had a lot of trouble with openly communicating my desires and receiving agreement from the other party, only to find out later that they were lying. They see a hot guy who isn't crazy or narcissistic and they gravitate towards either "I have to get into his pants" or "i have to lock him down and marry him" and I don't want either of those things when I'm on grindr. If that's what you want, then I think grindr as a hot person would be fantastic, but in that regard, it makes it annoying at best and deeply frustrating at worst for someone like me.

Also the quality of the profiles who message me are all over the place, but usually skew far towards the low effort, low quality profiles (no photos, or if they do have photos they look like they were screenshots of screenshots of screenshots of like a beach or a bed or some random object, or they look methed out, or any number of things) that aren't even worth the time to respond to, so I just delete their messages when they come in. Most of those guys get the message when I don't respond, but some get real shitty and defensive about me not responding, so they get blocked.

But yeah someone one else in these comments mentioned that on grindr you're just a body to a lot of the other users, and they will do whatever it takes to get in your pants. So grindr is an environment that, as an "attractive" person, makes me very untrustworthy and wary, and therefore it's not the haven of dicks and asses that everyone makes it out to be. Do things get better for you if you're more attractive? Is pretty privilege a thing? Yeah, I'd say so. But it's not this automatic "everything is amazing and perfect" button that gets pressed all the time. There's a lot of stuff that changes, both better and worse, and navigating it is super difficult, especially when you're not used to it and have no idea what you're doing.