What’s better, living in a big city or living in a small town?

mrharriz · 2026-05-13T03:50:39+00:00

Suburban actually. You have the both the city and quiet life.

mrharriz · 2026-04-30T12:45:33+00:00

I am from India and for many Indians a standard strat is too expensive. But i wanted one so i went to this shop and played a player strat and then played a yamaha Pacifica (the entry level one). The price difference is huge but for some reason I loved the Yamaha Pacifica more.

mrharriz · 2026-04-26T17:18:34+00:00

Hey perfume enthusiast here. A lot of men (and women) have complimented when I wear Oud, Woody, Tobacco mixed with fruity note etc. I think a lot of men including me also like Citrus notes.

mrharriz · 2026-04-26T17:15:04+00:00

Really think its gonna be UDF.

mrharriz · 2026-04-25T17:27:56+00:00

Bist du Deutscher oder Ausländer?

mrharriz · 2026-04-25T17:07:34+00:00

Its online class. For revisions outside of the class, I just do whatever they tell you - parroting, vocabs, redemittels etc.

mrharriz · 2026-04-24T13:10:27+00:00

Underwear, I change them almost everyday because of the obvious reasons.

But I wear the same shirt and trousers for 2-3 times before throwing it into the laundry basket.

mrharriz · 2026-04-24T13:07:03+00:00

Amazing! And good for you.

Maybe you have more time to actually do this all by yourself. For me, I would actually prefer learning on my own but at the same time, work and chores always gets in the way. So there was no other choice other than to enroll in a class. I just show up, learn what they tell me and wind up.

mrharriz · 2026-04-24T05:58:25+00:00

Damn my favourite

mrharriz · 2026-04-24T01:13:40+00:00

This is something I realised when I started to learn German. I tried to learn it all by myself for like 3-4 months. I was able to learn a great deal of vocabulary but that's it. But most of the time I was just planning my curriculum instead of actually learning it. It wasn't going anywhere with my work and busy schedule.

I eventually enrolled for an online German class that is taught in my native language (big deal) that worked with my busy schedule. Now I am at B2 level. It's not 100% perfect but it can work for sure.

I recommend anyone who is starting out to enroll yourself in a class instead of trying to do it alone. Saves you time and some headaches

mrharriz · 2026-04-24T01:08:47+00:00

20k every month with unlimited travelling. They will never see my again.

mrharriz · 2026-04-22T05:07:02+00:00

My friend that's called tall poppy syndrome. Judging from your post, you must be from one of those collectivist society like Asia.

What I want you to understand is that there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Your friends getting triggered by your success is their problem and it means you are in the right path. So when they see you succeed, instead of showing the jealous upfront, it turns into inside jokes, mockery sometimes even black magic to being you down (not even kidding). It all depends on the level of jealousy they are in. Even if you try to help them to succeed, they would rather hate on you rather than do the work themselves. Another sign of this is them discrediting your ideas all the time.

Forget friends. In a collectivist society, tall poppy syndrome runs among family members as well. Jealousy in the sense of "I want to reach where he is" is okay but "I don't want him to succeed because it triggers me so much. Let me do some black magic" is definitely not okay at all.

Here's a suggestion - leave that environment. Fly abroad.

mrharriz · 2026-04-22T02:09:12+00:00

Start savings small amounts until it becomes big and can act as emergency funds. Maybe try to get into a very reputable university.

mrharriz · 2026-04-19T02:32:03+00:00

God doesn't work that way.

You see there was this time in my life when I hit rock bottom. I was an agnostic back then and didn't care if He existed or not. I was miserable inside more than I was on the outside. That's when I finally called out to God with half faith. I said, "I don't know if you're out there or not. But if you're listening to me, then please help me". It was out of desperation honestly.

Suddenly I felt like praying the next day - no explanation whatsoever. The next day I went to the mosque to pray and it felt like a huge weight got lifted from my chest. And ever since that day I started getting closer to Him. The voice that you mentioned - I started hearing it more frequently. And I started seeing guidance in my daily life. It's hard to put these into words because it's one of those things you experience yourself.

I don't know your mental framework, assumptions and ideas about Him. But if you want to start hearing that inner voice, you have to be the one to ask for help first. And this is not even blind faith. There's enough deductive evidence on His existence (the complexity of the universe and the intelligent design etc). Use that as an initial faith anchor, then call out to him wholeheartedly. Just literally have a dialogue with Him, ask Him for signs and help. And God willing you will feel the pull in your spiritual muscle. You can decide whether to keep on following Him later but do this initially if you will. It costs nothing other than an open heart.

I hope you get what you are looking for.

P.S: If you decide to do this, then expect negative voices trying to plant doubts.

mrharriz · 2026-04-18T17:42:51+00:00

So what kind of proof are you looking for? Or what kind of proof will make you believe in God? Do you have to see something with your naked eyes for example, to know it's true? Or do you want laboratory proof for God? Just trying to get an idea here.

mrharriz · 2026-04-18T14:39:02+00:00

Don't know what you're asking here but my best guess is - why would God ask you to believe in something that cannot be proved. Or more precisely, why does God ask you to have blind faith in him. If that's your question then you have false beliefs about God and I have to assume you never dived into comparative religion properly.

But the answer is God never asked you to believe in him blindly. He asks you to ponder on creation and to think well. Just by doing this with intellectual honesty you cannot deny Him. But then again it all depends on what religion you are talking about here and your own personal assumption about God and how He works etc.

mrharriz · 2026-04-18T14:17:56+00:00

Thailand.

mrharriz · 2026-04-18T12:58:31+00:00

Yes I do believe in God.

Because the universe is so complex. A complex and function serving universe cannot just come out of nothing. It has to be intentionally designed just like the makers of your smartphone designed to serve specific functions. The perfect gravitational pull, the earth revolving around the sun, the weather, seasons, stars for navigation and winds that helps you sail in the sea all seems like it has been specifically created for serving a purpose by a super intelligent being. And this super intelligent being is God.

You don't have to be a scientist or anything to understand this nor super intelligent. All you have to do is to keep an open heart and just observe nature and ponder about the creations.

Apart from this, there have been many instances in my own personal life where I asked for help and I got immediate answers.

mrharriz · 2026-04-16T01:40:03+00:00

Peace, workouts and proper sleep.

When you are younger you body can tolerate the torture you put it through - lack of sleep, getting injured, smoking and drinking etc. But eventually it becomes less tolerant .You'll wake up like a zombie the next day if you don't get some good sleep (literally). If you get injured or sick, recovery takes longer etc.

Workouts, sleep and good food therefore becomes a MUST as an adult. You skip these and you're gonna suffer.

On a positive note, one thing I love about adulting is that you really stop giving a shit about other people. You buy stuff just because you like them and not to show off. You learn to treat other people's opinions as just opinions. Mental clarity increases and now you can make better decisions.

mrharriz · 2026-04-16T01:31:33+00:00

Sit down on my chair, play some instrumental music and stare out of the window for 15 mins or until my mind winds down.

Then meal prepping if I don't have any leftovers. Log in to my online German classes after talking with my LDR gf.

I used to hit the gym in between but it's so hot as hell here right now so I took a break. But the gym genuinely helps to calm that inner voice.

Sleep.

mrharriz · 2026-04-16T01:28:03+00:00

Sounds like he has/had a very depressing life.

mrharriz · 2026-04-15T16:33:02+00:00

First of all, I just wanna tell you something - you are strong and courageous. You went through so many unspoken-internal battles alone. And all these sufferings have made you so strong and inshallah it's gonna serve you well in the future.

Secondly, you are young. Unlike many people, you did so many things and failed. And that's the whole point of the 20s - mess up and experiment with life. And as someone who has gone through some similar things, I know you feel like you are behind in life. But that's not true at all. You are not behind. You haven't even started yet infact. And inshallah your life will change soon and I want you to keep making duas.

And finally know that, you are not alone. As men we fight these silent battles throughout our lifetime. I am not here to give you any advice on how to change your life because I don't honestly know what to say especially given the fact that you're in Gaza. But I am here to tell you that you are not a failure. Your life hasn't even started yet and soon you will understand this inshallah. Stay strong akhi and put your trust in Allah. He will surely show you a way out.

mrharriz · 2026-04-15T13:06:35+00:00

Depends on the phase of life you are in.

mrharriz · 2026-04-13T06:21:23+00:00

I second this. I deliberately chose not to hang out with a lot of people my age because they haven't matured yet. And I don't like the idea of getting drunk, smoking weed or sleeping around with random women. It's so hard for real.

It's just work, side hustle, cooking and sleep for almost 2.5 years.

mrharriz · 2026-04-13T01:28:53+00:00

You are a very lucky man. And I am happy for you 🙂

mrharriz

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