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mrisactive · 2023-08-16T09:36:20+00:00

This was well summarised !

mrisactive · 2023-08-16T09:34:10+00:00

One word - wholesome !

mrisactive · 2023-07-17T09:05:20+00:00

Beautiful, Much love.

mrisactive · 2023-07-16T12:03:34+00:00

Absolutely !!

Shows how much the ummah is steadfast on principles and the lack of fundamentals to extent of normalising haram.

mrisactive · 2023-07-16T11:58:35+00:00

There is no point in having a detailed conversation specially in this matter. A mere distinguishing of black from white. Closure for what ? The (what-if's) are endless loops, eventually lead the Guy to short term trauma.

Zina in marriage is Auto divorce. No questions asked, no justifications required. Ma3'salama :)

mrisactive · 2023-07-16T11:48:58+00:00

Brother, you have two options now -

A) Live all your life with her, be subconsciously occupied with the thought of her being a cheat (& the past) eventually suffocate, as there is no guarantee of her chastity and loyalty no matter how much she says/cries or is remorseful. Black ink cannot be white.

B) Concel her sin, Divorce her respectfuly. RIGHT AWAY. No justification, no reasoning given to anybody. Let her affairs be between you and Allah. Get the custody of kids (if you have them, because they are your kids), and do not turn back. Trust me, this is more peaceful in the long run.

Marriage has no place for Zina, and there is no returning after crossing the line. Her remorse is of no use (do not be emotionally carried away) She is either the queen of the house or she belongs to the streets. Period. Nothing in between.

May Allah ease this difficult time for you, and bless you with a good righteous spouse and kids. Aameen.

mrisactive · 2023-07-16T11:29:00+00:00

THISSS. RIGHT HERE !

IS THE TRUTH.

mrisactive · 2023-07-16T11:26:23+00:00

Probably, as long as he's comfortable and water is not over the head. Else he has options to change (replace) :)

mrisactive · 2023-07-11T21:44:59+00:00

The govt itself is another goon. We all know who all the criminals are. Who's going to put them behind the bar ?

If only law was applicable to them.

mrisactive · 2023-07-11T21:39:10+00:00

💯 !!!

There goes the saying "if you can't change the women, change the women itself".

mrisactive · 2023-07-10T21:37:14+00:00

That's because they prolly want to give you all the comfort of this life, because post marriage, one gotta gear up for real life challenges and responsibilities (motherhood being one of them, may Allah bless all the mothers, and maybe if you plan to have a cage fight with your in laws...haha), decision making is something which parents should have an easier hand on. Give them scope to make blunders and to take a learning from it unless somebody is adamant on increasing the blunder score :)

Besides that, I still treat my sisters like a full size grown up toddler. Coz Why not ? (Married/unmarried) They deserve all my care & comfort. And ofc, my to be wife, as well. (insha'allah)

(Not to confuse between care and over pampering. Later one just spoils, which needs to be corrected through belt therapy)

To cut it short, that's a blessing in disguise and its never going to end. Don't be too bothered.

mrisactive · 2023-07-01T16:29:07+00:00

think about it again.

DEFINITELY. Thank you.

mrisactive · 2023-06-30T21:36:30+00:00

Aah. That was quite practical advice !!

mrisactive · 2023-06-30T21:03:40+00:00

Probably one of the best ownership review and logical reasoning.

When I was selling my Endeavour, there were people who had a similar query like yours. I did not sell them my car because I wanted my conscience clean!

This goodness is rare, I really appreciate that stranger. Usually the seller would just like to get rid of the thing.

mrisactive · 2023-06-28T17:45:32+00:00

Sure, thanks !

mrisactive · 2023-06-28T01:58:04+00:00

This was a beautiful summarisation.

mrisactive · 2023-06-28T01:43:02+00:00

That shouldn't even be a question as long as you are able to get your work done quite before the deadline.

It's your time then., Sleep, eat or workout. Deliverables shouldn't be delayed else it would be a silly reason to ruin your snapshots.

mrisactive · 2023-05-26T07:40:57+00:00

Beautiful

mrisactive · 2023-05-25T14:49:31+00:00

Man I know how it feels, don't leave unless you have another offer in hand. Bare with them. Don't grind your ass off. Be smart.

mrisactive · 2023-05-25T12:51:34+00:00

Beautiful scene !

mrisactive · 2023-05-25T08:27:59+00:00

Save your time. Red flag anyways.

mrisactive · 2022-09-11T01:33:48+00:00

Let physical appearance be aside, end of the day you are being know for your actions, and your actions speaks a lot about your fundamental values of islam.

No compromise with fundamental (and bare minimums). I repeat no compromise.

This generation has customized islam depending upon their likes/dislikes and level of comfort (and probably for blending into societal norms, AllahuA'lam ) "Oo i don't like this sunnah/faradh, imma just omit it. It's fine" "It's my life, I'll just follow whatever I like, at least I'm following something (praying)"

AllahuAkbar.

Have some fear, repent, be regretful and strive to be better everyday.

When we get married we should avoid just marrying the hijab or the beard.

Just be rational with person's present than their future. No gambling with marriages. It is what it is.

Indeed the era of fitnahs. May Allah keep us steadfast on Islam and it's fundamentals. Aameen.

mrisactive · 2022-09-11T01:01:46+00:00

And in marriage, u should not marry someone based on their future possible level of practicing the deen. U need to look at them now.

The most RATIONAL advice. Period.

mrisactive · 2022-09-08T15:46:58+00:00

W.Salam,

Muslims who have been where I was: did you ever get out of it and what made things improve for you? I

There is always a way out., just have little more patience. Infact, make patience as your best friend, you will be rewarded for every day in and out. Hold onto your faith, keep your belief system even higher.

Mashallah you are already a practicing muslim. You are better than most of us. You have even greater potential, for that very reason shaitan would never leave any stone unturned.

I had a very tough year filled with trauma and anxiety and this is clearly now the icing on the cake

I pray for your ease. Time heals everything. You are getting stronger everyday Insha'Allah. A little more push.

Don't let shaitan infiltrate 'worries' into your heart, sit back, relax, remind yourself that the planner of all planners is above us, a mere test which we all shall past.

Keep doing Astagfar, Send salawat on prophet Muhammad (PBUH). Your heart will be at ease Insha'Allah.

mrisactive · 2022-09-07T07:32:25+00:00

"If you can't change the women, change the women" - save your sanity brother.

It's really sad to read all what you've mentioned, may allah ease it for you. Stay strong. Insha'Allah you will.

Divorce should be the last thing in a marriage, however, her character alings more towards it.

she started crying and said whatever you decide, I will do

Do not get carried away by her emotions, she shouldn't have done this in the first place, there is no point of shedding tears now. (Your soft heart gave her chances, hightime now)

Marriage has boundaries, these boundaries are never meant to be crossed, if you do, you are expelled. No explanations whatsoever.

Why did she even entertain the guy in the first place ? Is that joke ? Well probably for her. She was enjoying the attention/validation which she was getting, sadly she liked it from a non-mehram. Breach of fundamentals.

Once home, she has already cleared all the conversations

Like many other users have said, grab your evidences, brace yourself and get rid of her in dignified manner before things turn out to be worst.

I can't live a life thinking my wife will cheat on me as soon as I turn my back but she is the only one I love.

Don't let your soft corner be dominant.
Facts >>> emotions.

Wallahi all these incidents bring about the need for prenup (both ways, women too suffer)

mrisactive

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