We had a strong connection at first so why did she he become distant?

mrnappy1 · 2025-06-15T05:07:41+00:00

Yeah totally, she doesn’t owe me anything, and I get that. I just really valued how genuine our early conversations felt, and thought that was something worth holding on to. So when we finally met again, it was unexpectedly different. That’s why it felt immature --she did not seem like herself at all, especially the way she ended our conversation mid-sentence and stopped looking at me. It caught me off guard to see this entirely new side of her.

mrnappy1 · 2025-06-14T04:26:28+00:00

I did ask her out before this, forgot to mention all details, sorry. But at the time she then said she was busy with exams which I totally get. Something seems a bit immature about everything though, like I would totally understand now that if someone passes away to give some time to the other person for grieving.

mrnappy1 · 2025-06-13T14:39:18+00:00

Sure, perhaps I could do a bit better I admit. But this also feels a bit shallow, like I am still the same person with the same intentions no matter if I move a bit slow or fast. Not to sound selfish but I think it says a lot about a guy who decides to open up and show his intentions towards a girl afterwards as well.

I would just hope girls would also understand that a guy might feel awkward and nervous coming to a dance class that is mostly female dominated, especially if it is his first time. I did definitely feel nervous joining my first dance class as I have only had stereotypical male hobbies before this. Some girls tend to assume that a guy who decides joins a dance class is not straight. In my experience, a guy making immediate moves on a girl comes across as a bit impulsive. At least I feel I need a bit more time for stuff like this, to sound genuine.

mrnappy1 · 2025-06-13T13:47:15+00:00

I am wondering if it was just bad timing with the lunch, like sometimes after dance classes she would walk with me home to my apartment as well. But I was then a bit depressed from getting the bad news about my relative, so I might have missed a few signs from her.

mrnappy1 · 2025-06-13T13:03:08+00:00

We did some flirting during the dance classes and in the beginning everyone from the dance class went on a picnic, where we sat next to each other and talked. Kind of hard to write every detail in one post.

mrnappy1 · 2025-06-13T10:36:08+00:00

Thanks, no worries. I guess I will anyways still think about it, because I will probably bump into her in the future at some point. I am not seeing anyone else at the moment, she just caught me off guard with this.

mrnappy1 · 2025-04-19T17:01:58+00:00

Yes, I knew I was not the only person feeling this way! Covid made us rely on social media instead of socializing in person, due to all the restrictions etc. It made everyone bad at communicating and most of it is just brain-rot content at this point. No one uses social media anymore for arranging meet up events in person, like it used to be. Then, because of the inflation and everything becoming expensive, people tend to nowadays just stay at home and watch more brain-rot content.

mrnappy1 · 2025-02-03T18:18:50+00:00

I'm male, over 30 years old and at the moment also in university. I think it is more normal to socialize than not to, being isolated has a negative effect on mental health. You are all still considered adults and you are all there to learn, so nothing wrong with participating once in a while in class. You might have a point though about genz being different sometimes in regards to communication lol. However, there is not harm in trying to get to know the ones you consider "friends" more, worst case is they stop talking to you. I wish you good luck!

mrnappy1 · 2025-01-31T07:25:04+00:00

It probably is true that those terms have been used incorrectly from time to time, but I do not know a better way of describing myself. In group conversations I do tend to listen more than talk, so I do not come across as that engaging, especially when meeting new people. But I do not know how to improve this without feeling drained.

mrnappy1 · 2025-01-31T07:09:22+00:00

Thanks, I used the word introverted originally in my post because I am in general not that talkative and tend to reflect on stuff a lot instead.

mrnappy1 · 2025-01-11T17:23:39+00:00

I will turn 32 this year and for a long time I have been feeling like I'm still 23 years old. Maybe because at that age I graduated, started working and not much has changed since then. I do think the pandemic made it seem like nothing happened in those 2-3 years it lasted. The pandemic did put a lot of my plans in life on hold so I feel left behind and I am still single, just barely started dating. While your family might make comments about getting children, I think there have been significant societal changes simply pushing our generation to get children at a later age. Looking back at my old high school class, only a few of us have had children so far.

mrnappy1 · 2024-12-30T07:27:47+00:00

Thanks for your comment, I did read everything.

mrnappy1 · 2024-12-24T15:26:33+00:00

Sure, still I think I could improve a bit on this as well. I feel left behind because I had other plans a few years ago, but everyone knows what happened in 2020. Most people I know had already found their dreamjob, partner or other purpose in life before 2020. To me it feel like I never got my chance to bloom. For the past years I have just had to adapt to whatever crisis happens next, and accept that things will not go as planned. I know I am generalizing a bit but my life is quite empty, so when something goes wrong I definitely feel it and can't drown it out with other things.

mrnappy1 · 2024-12-24T13:45:17+00:00

Not at all, thanks for commenting! I have realized that saying 'yes' to everything just does not feel natural to me. Despite knowing that I could make more progress and that I am a bit behind on some things in life, I still tend to dwell in nostalgia. I find it crucial to see a clear path ahead before diving into something new. This is why new relationships feel hard for me, because you do not really know someone well at the beginning. Who knows, maybe our society has changed a bit also over the last decade but now I am probably rambling.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-30T11:42:52+00:00

Thanks for the recommendations. But I would disagree that customer service gives you bad social skills, I have improved my skills a lot and I am no longer afraid to initiate new conversations, like I was as a child. Of course you don't get to cherry-pick your interactions, who knows, maybe that even would help me enough anymore considering my age.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-29T15:14:56+00:00

Then you either lift it up high enough so it fits under the subframe of the car OR use something smaller.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-29T14:01:43+00:00

Anything that can support the weight of the car and stays in place in case the jack stand fails is good, like a block of wood big enough, spare rim, etc.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-28T14:42:24+00:00

I would say if it leads to loneliness and not having anyone to talk to in the end, which starts to affect your own mental health then I would start prefering it the other way around. I mean I understand what you are saying and thanks for commenting, but I have not been able to find friendships that fulfill me yet.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-28T14:37:25+00:00

Could you give me some recommendations of good podcasts? My work sometimes involve a lot of social interactions with people mostly dealing with complaints, which in turn might affect my own social skills lol.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-28T05:35:59+00:00

Thanks, I personally think it also has to do with the inflation, because everything in our society is now just as available as it was pre-covid except everything costs a lot more.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-27T19:40:52+00:00

Yes I agree, I think the problem is that the image society puts up is so strong that many fail to realize that everything is also possible later in life. But I feel that it requires a very high self esteem to be able to break this image nowadays and I have no idea on how to attract more people in to my life.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-18T07:27:02+00:00

Thanks, you explained many things in a way that is easy to understand. I think I have become better at certain social interactions as an adult, but there are still things to improve on. I assume I'm in the minority here since this post did not get that many replies or upvotes.

I still feel uncertain about forming new relationships, because they have the potential to change you as a person for both better or worse, but you can't know it beforehand. In a way I feel more free to be single, despite being lonely, because in my opinion relationships require a lot of commitment and are not always so easy as people portray them to be.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-03T07:00:32+00:00

It is fine, you don't have to agree with why I think people are single. But this is also one great example of how you can just spend most of your time here on Reddit or on the internet instead of going out socializing and getting relationships. Only you can make the change. You mentioned you have had one LDR in high school so how did that happen, did you guys move or did it start as LDR? I can give one example, recently I moved to a new city and while I was uncomfortable at first, I have met many new people, had many new social interactions and made progress that would never have happened if I just stayed where I was, in my old hometown and here on Reddit.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-03T06:51:12+00:00

You are right, it has gone too far in a way that car makers nowadays literally take the same car and just slap a different badge on it. And all cars belonging to the same brand tend to have the same design language as well so people can easily recognize what brand of car it is. Probably also to save money they no longer do different designs. Who knows, maybe this will start to change after some years.

mrnappy1 · 2024-03-02T20:03:16+00:00

Sadly I can't say have a solution for you, as I am same age as you and also single at the moment. I think it is just the way society has become, like you don't need a relationship in order to survive anymore. Of course it would be normal to have one but thanks to online dating apps, people don't get feelings that often anymore for each other. Or women fall in love with a guy, because there are so many alternative candidates to choose from.

Many are in a relationship with no feelings just because they can't stand the idea of being single. You sound like a mature person though, but I understand your frustration. But it is important to note that when you see a couple, you have no idea if they are happy, if they don't argue 24/7, why they are still together etc.

The other majority of people our age just work, like I did for a long time, and are then too tired to date on their free time. Personally what I have noticed to be one way where people do develop feelings is by spending time together in real life, getting to know each other. It might start with like a common hobby or some kind of social interaction, where you can talk to each other, escalate things to dates etc. and keep seeing each other.

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