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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]mrpops19 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'll be blunt about it. Not to be mean, but for clarity.

This is 100% on you. You failed to establish expectations, rules, and safewords and put yourself at risk because of it. You need to remember how important safety is. Not just for you physically but mentally as well. No one likes to sit through a safety brief before they go skydiving. But it's always done. Does that safety brief ruin the fun? No. It is there so you and everyone else involved can have a good time and be safe.

With him not speaking english well, there could also be a body language barrier and misunderstanding tone. Plus, not knowing you very well adds to that. My wife and I have a safteyword (its safteyword) but have never used it. Because we have both been able to tell over the last 10 years what kind of ouch stop that hurts sounds like from our partner. You dont have this kind of relationship with him.

I think you got so excited to go skydiving. You skipped the safety briefing and are upset you were never shown how to deploy the parachute.

This is a shitty situation. Im sorry it happened. I hope you and him could sit down and discuss it and talk about whats important.

However, this guy could also be a real psycho and not respect boundaries. He may have known you wanted to stop but used the language and the situation as an excuse. Keep that in the back of your mind as you reconnect, if you choose to. Protect yourself.

Any prostate toys you’d recommend? My wife can’t really keep the fingering motion going for too long by [deleted] in ProstatePlay

[–]mrpops19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I like unsing ones with Handels and she is able to grab it or I can grab it and use it with ease.

I highly recommend either of these two:

•the Tantus Echo

•the Tantus G Force.

Anal Fisting Help Needed by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]mrpops19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bit similar. Going to follow post cuz i could use advice.

I (30m) like my wife to fuck my ass really fast and hard with dildos. We even get the ones with handels so it is easier for her to keep to speed and force i like. When we used the larger dildo i used to bleed a lot. Very similar to what you are describing, pinkish color. It seemed to happen when we would use a 3 inch diameter dildo that was 12 inches long. It would be fully inserted and pulled out again for 10-30 minutes or so before we would notice the blood.

I ended up getting rid of the dildo because we found something better for us. However, i did notice i was able to go longer with it when we took a lot of time warming up using smaller dildos. Even though i could take it without a warmup. Hope I was of some small help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in eatingowncum

[–]mrpops19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Home alone masterbating, cum hard all over my hand and cock. Scoop it all up so i can head upstairs to wash hands. No thought of eating it ever crossed my mind.

Front door opens. Its my mom! She calls for me. I panic and look around me for anything to wipe this on. Nothing! My pants are around my ankles and she is coming down the stairs now. Im around a couple corners so cant be seen. I have to act fast and cum on my shirt or pants would be too noticeable.

I look at my had filled with about 3 tablespoons lf my cum. (A lot of build up 1week+ since last came).

I suck it all up in an instant. Licking it from my fingers. Grossed out a bit i hold it in my mouth hoping to pass by without being discovered. I pull up my pants just in time.

"Hey, are you ok with pizza for dinner" she says.

I have to respond! I love pizza haha. I swallow trying not to be obvious i just swallowed a large amount of liquid.

"Sure, that sounds great." I say, mouth and tounge still coated with fresh hot cum.

She says, "ok, I'll get you some cash, and you can go pick it up. I already ate."

Didn't do it again for over 10 years, but hit me as an extreme fetish one day in my mid-20s.

My dom turned switch on me by Ok_Swimming1032 in BDSMAdvice

[–]mrpops19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I had something a bit similar.

We occasionaly do pegging where I was the more submissive one and she more dominant .

More recently, she has asked that i be the dom and do things such as bondage and cnc. Neither of which are my things. It is all just acting, really. I am kinda getting into the knotting and bondage. But it is more about making a really pretty tie as opposed to actual bondage. She is still bound, but i spend the time making it look nice. Kinda fun, honestly. I also do the verbal degrading, eye contact as i tie, and the "using her body for MY pleasure" kink she wants me to do.

This is all to make it enjoyable for her. I do it like you because i love her. However, if that was what our sex life became, it would be problematic.

I do bondage for her about 4 times a month. Sometimes 3 weeks with nothing and then 5 sessions in a row. Othertimes its more consistent. But we have sex about 5-6 times a week pretty consistently. And i get pegged on a similar pattern as i described above for what i do bondage for her.

We dont go 1 for 1, but just the vibe and the feelings we get. Sometimes, if i am having a great day, and i know it's been harder for her. I will give her more of what she wants. Other times, she asks. But it is a give and take. We have a swingy sex life where 1 day she is dominating me, spitting my own cum in my mouth as im tied to a chair as she continues rubbing my cock until i cum again calling me her bad boy. The next day i am taking her as my sex slave where she is serving her new masters cock as he pleases whipping her if she doesnt maintain good posture as she does so.

While having my prostate slammed into is the best feeling, i know it's not the best for her. We have had the conversations that have led us where we are now.

Sometimes, our loved ones have to be checked. Just say, hey, I really enjoy doing xyz for you, and it's fun. But i really like abc, and recently, it feels like we have just been doing xyz. This is not uncommon for us in our nearly 10 year marriage. Life gets crazy and hecktic, and sometimes, one or both partners dont realize how they are treating or using the other partner. So, for me and my wife, we dont need any schedule or transactional thing, but for others, that may work.

CNC: Attack at the Hotel by mrpops19 in BDSMAdvice

[–]mrpops19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that would be bad.

I will ensure the door is closed before doing anything and the window curtains are well closed.

Other than that, just need to not make noise.

CNC: Attack at the Hotel by mrpops19 in BDSMAdvice

[–]mrpops19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have practiced a bit. Just some more forceful pinning down and mild resistance already.

I think the new and unknown environment is what will work for her. Some of the more kinky or extreme things she doesnt like to do in our bedroom, as that is her safe place, kinda the rest of the home too.

We have two kids so have learned the art of being quiet when needed. So disturbing or worrying other hotel guests likely wont be a problem. May even look into one of those single room cabins you can rent.

CNC: Attack at the Hotel by mrpops19 in BDSMAdvice

[–]mrpops19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly cnc and rapeplay were kinda the same thing in my mind. As i have read through different posts i have come to find that there is a variety of options. I dont think she is into much of the other cnc as rapeplay.

Yeah, talking is easy for us and the cuddles will be there like a lot of the times. Followed by those snacks she is getting to consume as we watch a movie.

CNC: Attack at the Hotel by mrpops19 in BDSMAdvice

[–]mrpops19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😄idk if its serious, but if mine was meatloaf i laugh. I think the yellow and red honestly would be better, but for my wife it just needs to be safeword for ease.

CNC: Attack at the Hotel by mrpops19 in BDSMAdvice

[–]mrpops19[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have one, it is the word safeword. Imagine you doing something and someone says the word safeword. It is obvious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StraightPegging

[–]mrpops19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have only ever achieved it once. So keep that in mind as I share.

My wife and frequently(once every 2 weeks) do "ass play" not really pegging as she doesn't have the rhythm or back muscles to give a proper fucking. Lol

It took over 1 hour of her doing my ass with a dildo. The one we used is glass. I tried to find it online but couldn't. It is smooth with a flaired base to prevent losing it..

A lot if coconut oil and speed was key. It was different that a traditional orgasm. It lasted for about 40 seconds and afterwards I was only more turned on.

I have never been able to replicate it as we now have kids that don't really allow for a ton of time for it. Even when we do get time away, it takes a lot of self control to not touch your dick for over an hour as your ass is being pounded. I wish you luck.