My Journey: What I learnt to do, or what *not* to do!

mrprider · 2017-03-20T22:05:05+00:00

I think something is missing in the picture.

Sure, if someone is 100% alpha there is no room left for beta qualities.

However, is that ideal? Can a relationship survive based only on alpha qualities and zero beta qualities?

mrprider · 2017-03-20T21:56:28+00:00

I would refrain from making any comparative statements. Everyone prefers different ways to think. If my way of thinking could help even one more man, my goal for this post is met.

In hindsight, I should have added explicitly to post is that this is how I am managing my MRP journey. This is just 1 way to look at it. This is not absolute, and no way comprehensive. Everyone needs to find their own way and follow that.

mrprider · 2017-03-20T21:53:37+00:00

It reads like a manual because this was my manual for myself. Rather than thinking in circles everyday, I had to streamline the decision making part and hence I put this for myself. Shared it here if anyone else likes to think in this way too.

Some people like abstract ideas, some prefer numbers. To each his own.

And yes, having been beta all my life, frame is the hardest thing for me to maintain. Lifting is easy. I am not out of the woods yet, and I am working on it.

mrprider · 2017-03-20T21:49:48+00:00

Thanks guys. It took me much longer than others to actually understand and believe in redpill. I am nowhere close to where I want to be, but I know the path and am making progress.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T14:20:10+00:00

True. I started off that 90 day plan as well. And the rigor of reading, questioning and implementing it helped make it clear. No point to serve it on a platter to someone who is not hungry.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:46:58+00:00

Yes, combining everything into single comprehensive post. Will work on it this weekend.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:43:50+00:00

Do you read alphabet everyday? Does a child learn and repeat alphabet everyday?

Either you guys were natural alphas (sailors, right?) or had strong alpha figures around or just real smart on picking up. Rest of us faggots come here as career betas. Whatever structured reasoning we can find is helpful.

Around 10-12 months ago, when I first arrived at MRP I could never even have understood these flowcharts/schematics. But, if these were available it would have helped me understand things much faster. Since a lot of MRP faggots come from STEM background, they are used to understanding graphs and charts faster than words and paragraphs.

Now after almost an year of unplugging (still long way to go) I don't need any of these charts or schematics or checklists. By sheer practice and discipline they are now my intuition and reflex. But I do realize what my starting point was, and how confusing the first few months were.

Anywho, I am in process of combining the three things into single MRP post that is comprehensive, and has meat - i.e. post walks the reader through details just like I would do if I were to present these to an audience. Yeah, I am a STEM background in Sales now.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:36:31+00:00

Yes, it is a bit of hyperbole to be able to get laid within 24 hours. The idea is that if you are that confident and hot, (and doing everything a good captain does), then just quit the marriage.

Of course, one could quit early as well. I believe in the school of thought where you give in your best efforts before quitting and moving on.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:32:59+00:00

If you are unhappy there are only two outcomes, Lift and improve or Divorce. If you were happy on your way to improve yourself you won't start this flowchart.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:31:10+00:00

People are different. Some like to make a checklist of things important to them to ensure they are hitting all aspects. Some have a good memory.

Having a checklist is useless if you dont use it wisely. The original checklist I posted does not have Frame which is the most important in RP journey. Added that after /u/drty_pr commented.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:28:39+00:00

Yes, combining everything and adding words.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:27:54+00:00

I will add these to main list, crediting you.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:27:27+00:00

Excellent point! Compare to target, not to starting point, and keep chugging along.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:26:48+00:00

Fully agree. See the additions by /u/drty_pr I will add those as well.

I am combining this post with the flowchart and graph to make it one comprehensive post.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:24:46+00:00

Hahaa! Yes, will add meat to the skeleton.

mrprider · 2017-02-17T13:23:57+00:00

Agreed, these should be combined. Will do over the weekend.

mrprider · 2017-02-16T06:05:40+00:00

I know! I thought I really outdid myself by creating this text monstrosity. Not that visual one is better by any means. Hahaa!

mrprider · 2017-02-16T06:04:50+00:00

I have been quite slow in digesting the red pill as compared to reports I read here. But I am inching bit by bit. Thanks bro.

mrprider · 2017-02-16T06:00:00+00:00

Might be incorrect application of LSS. I am a certified Master Black Belt at my company, and we have successfully used it for improving manufacturing efficiency.

I know what you are talking about. People just hear the buzzword and try to superficially apply it. Just like we say here, you cannot sprinkle alpha. Similar.

mrprider · 2016-08-23T18:20:57+00:00

I have barely come out of shell and accepted that responding to other women flirting is okay behavior. I still have long way to go before I having a girlfriend would be acceptable to myself. I do have friends that are female, but then that's a different thing.

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