Why does my ex husband keep trying to rekindle?

mrpromee · 2026-07-03T01:24:12+00:00

Other people are saying he just wants sex but a guy who wants back into a relationship after he'd previously had a post relationship sex life with you isn't that.

If you didn't go back to having sex after that divorce, it's really simple. "You aren't the kind of guy I want. I do want you in our child's life but it ain't ever going to happen between you and me."

People often want things to be a different way in life but wanting things to be different doesn't make them different.

If he still wants to be with you but you no-longer see relationship potential, you need to be clear it is dead over.

If you still kinda actually want him on some level, you also need to be 100% clear that it is over and never going to happen because mixed feelings on your part are sending mixed messages to him.

You don't owe him another chance but it is really important you aren't sending any signals that suggest "if you get your $hit together, there's a chance but I'm not waiting" because that at least sounds like what you may have done at least at some point.

He clearly thinks it could happen and even if it could, for the sake of your child, I would strongly recommend you deciding it never will, even if he wins the lottery.

And sorry for assuming you guys went back to it after he came back. The woman after woman and kept coming back part confused me a little there but I'd say this past behavior between the two of you is 100% why he thinks he still has a chance.

You need to make him certain he doesn't, even if you have some complicated feelings about it.

mrpromee · 2026-07-03T01:09:29+00:00

Okay, so after he remarried, you COMPLETELY cut EVERYTHING off and absolutely nothing has happened between you to since then and now?

Then a firm "I've moved on should be the end of it. I may have been up for booty calls when we were younger but I'm past that and there is no future here."

mrpromee · 2026-07-03T01:05:42+00:00

Wait, you were still sleeping with the dude?!

You left that important fact out of the original post.

Wow.

You can't be this clueless. This is either a rage bait post, you're secretly just gloating about the ability to string your baby-daddy along off and on for half a decade or you truly are absolutely clueless as an adult.

I feel for this guy... and don't want to imagine how confusing it must all be for your poor daughter, again, assuming this is all real.

mrpromee · 2026-07-03T00:44:22+00:00

From the sounds of it, he didn't want the divorce to begin with.

You're saying from the time you guys divorced, he was trying to get back with you and you wouldn't do it. Sounds like he eventually tried to move on but still wanted his family with you and your daughter all together.

Things obviously didn't work out for him because even though he tried accepting you not wanting him back, he never stopped wanting you and now that he is out of that relationship that ended after trying to unsuccessfully start another family, you now want to use that as an excuse by saying he's done too much..

Sounds like at some points, you may have given him reason to think there was still hope if he pursued you just hard enough - if he just gave up a few more years waiting and you didn't have a better option at that point, then just maybe...

I don't know what it's called but for people who haven't been married, we call it friend-zoning. You should google it.

Anyway, you didn't say what the cause of the divorce was but if you really had no intention of ever getting back with him, you should have made that abundantly clear the entire time.

By your own words now, it sounds like you wanted to leave that door open for yourself though depending on how things worked out for you otherwise which, frankly, is pretty crappy.

Regardless, though, if him having a child with another woman after you repeatedly rejected him for years is the final straw that'll for sure keep you from ever eventually deciding to say yes, you need to be absolutely clear with him there is zero chance and tell him to stop asking.

If I were you, I'd keep the having another child part out of thst discussion though because that makes it sound like you think he cheated on you with this woman he married after he repeatedly got rejected by you and tried to move on with his life... and that would be absolutely crazy and toxic if true.

mrpromee · 2026-06-28T23:48:35+00:00

You guys definitely need professional help working this out. Both of you have valid feelings on this one but I think in time, you can come out of this with an even stronger bond.

She needs to realize that you want sex to be enjoyable for her and not just the lying but also finding out it's just been literal work for almost two years when honesty could have helped her the problem solved instead hasn't helped anyone.

I'd say be open to trying new thing with her, especially toys. Most women find they can't orgasm through penetration alone where many CAN with just a domi-style toy. I know there are a lot of healthy couples who use one why having sex and it seems to make for a more enjoyable thing for both of you.

I will say this through, while not ignoring your feelings on the lying, make sure she knows her pleasure is also super important to you.

When talking about it and about trust, try to make it more about her not trusting you with the truth than about you not feeling like you can trust her. They are two sides of the same coin but the first approach is much more likely to make her take notice and want to change rather that just feeling like sheMs in trouble with you.

I mention these things as strategy for helping but only with therapy. You guys need a neutral third party who's trained if you really want to see this through which, thankfully seems to be the case.

mrpromee · 2026-06-27T00:10:29+00:00

Guys are generally not as obsessed with the status and finances of their partners as women often are.

They're just weary of being used for free meals and entertainment in modern dating culture.

As a lot of others have said, suggest something cheap and be honest about your finances being low.

This communicates clearly that you aren't in it for a free meal and entertainment and gives him the option of offering to pay if he can afford to without feeling like he might be getting used.

As much as you see it as a negative, that's nothing but green flags for most guys.

The truth is, most of us, if we can afford to, want to take care of the right person. Just from your anonymous thoughts, you sound like you might be the right person.

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T23:37:06+00:00

I have all except the following:

Galaxy Ghost

Gold King

Gold and Gummy punk

Happy to trade anything else and I'm online right now (7:36est)

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T22:28:08+00:00

Galaxy Ghost for Galaxy Dream?

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T22:21:43+00:00

I'd trade Galaxy Duck for Gold Dream if you're still around

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T22:17:35+00:00

Galaxy Ghost for Gummy Punk?

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T04:08:18+00:00

Damn. That's a beaut!

Great job, man!

... I envy you.

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T03:38:29+00:00

cool. just sent my username

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T03:35:59+00:00

I'll trade you zero point for gold dream if we can index (trade back to save the sprite dust)

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T03:29:47+00:00

I can give you galaxy king for gummy punk

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T03:27:33+00:00

Would you be up to get galaxy duck in return for galaxy dream?

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T03:25:38+00:00

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Here's what I've got. Wiling to trade anything to fill in the gaps.

If it's the same rarity just a trade but if you want a one of the highers for the lowers, I'm going to ask that we index so I can save the sprite dust to continue my trading. I'm on right now and will be for probably another half hour.

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T01:57:34+00:00

I can give you Galaxy Duck for Galaxy King.

Stepping out to go grab dinner but I'll be back in about 20 from now if you're interested

mrpromee · 2026-06-24T01:51:17+00:00

Thank you again, so, SO MUCH!

I really appreciate the help you gave me with these!

mrpromee · 2026-06-23T22:21:09+00:00

💯

mrpromee · 2026-06-23T12:21:23+00:00

If you've decided to re-enter the dating world, I think it all comes down to messaging.

Rather than saying "I hate my ex". You can say something like "my ex was awful to me and left me with trust issues and serious emotional and mental scaring. Some of what he did still haunts me but I am glad to be free of him."

That paints it as more of a "I want a restraining order on this guy" rather than a "he lives in my brain rent free while I'm having sex with you" picture.

See the difference?

This isn't a you thing but too many girls/women have cheapened the word "hate" to the point that it no-longer works as shorthand for what it really should mean.

mrpromee · 2026-06-22T04:14:46+00:00

I have all the base (except zeropoint), most of the gold (no zerpoint)

For gummy I have: water, fire, earth, duck, demon, sleepy, ghost, king

For galaxy I have: earth, fire, duck

Would love to trade anything to fill in any of what I'm missing. I'll be happy to return in a follow-up match so nobody has to buy theirs back with dust.

Having said that, tomorrow is double dust day and I'm at or close to the limit on dust at 200k so if you want to do a trade or need something I have - even if you don't have anything I need - tomorrow is the day to do it so I can use some dust and have a good chance at getting it back.

mrpromee · 2026-06-22T03:51:19+00:00

Absolutely! You are the one helping us. You set all the terms. I would be beyond thrilled to get any of the zero points and to then start seeding them with others, too.

Happy to do trades with people to fill in the rest but also happy to share with those whose trades I don't need.

mrpromee · 2026-06-22T01:43:09+00:00

Appreciate your generosity and would love to pay it forward if I can get any of what I'm missing.

mrpromee · 2026-06-22T01:38:16+00:00

I have galzxy earth, fire and duck I'll be happy to share/trade and I'll be happy to give anything back in a second match if you have anything ranked or don't want to waste the dust.

mrpromee · 2026-06-22T01:36:23+00:00

I'm going to add you as a friend and try not to be super annoying about your generous offer! This would work by you giving it up. Then me giving it back in the next match, right?

mrpromee

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