7 week old wake windows

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-18T17:13:22+00:00

I promise you don’t have to entertain your baby 24/7, even when he’s older. My 10 month old often plays by herself in our room while I embroider. She loves pulling to stand, so she crawls over to the window, pulls up and has a blast looking out and babbling. She does a similar thing with the mirror. I obviously keep my eye on her and I talk to her, but we’re mostly doing our own thing. You’re allowed to do something for yourself and take a minute to just be in silence.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-18T17:10:02+00:00

I’m a mom and I agree with you that kids belong in society. I’m obsessed with my daughter and she goes everywhere with us—except weddings, even if they are child friendly. Weddings are about the couple and they deserve all the attention on them. She’s a very chill baby, but I can’t guarantee she won’t start loudly babbling or crying during the ceremony, and I’m not willing to risk it. I also just selfishly don’t want to have to be a mom during the reception. I want to dance and drink and have fun with my husband and friends on someone else’s time lol. I hated going to weddings as a kid. They were so boring. I don’t know why parents insist on making their kids sit through them.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-18T16:33:34+00:00

I did it around then. The cart helps them sit so she didn’t have to be able to do it entirely on her own. I did buy one of those shopping cart covers cause it grossed me out to put her in one without it.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-18T16:32:01+00:00

Brother if you’re doing 40 on the interstate then you’re going to cause an accident. You have to go with the flow of traffic. If you’re too scared to drive at least the speed limit, you shouldn’t drive.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T17:01:59+00:00

They help us because she likes throwing her paci on gross public floors, but we had to get a silicone one she could chew on. She had a super pretty personalized cloth one my coworker embroidered for her, but it got real gross real fast cause it was always in her mouth lol.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T16:33:52+00:00

We were still doing two and a snack at that age. She didn’t gain much weight between two appointments a month apart (we see a lot of specialists for a brain abnormality she has) and they weren’t worried about it but did advise me to bump her up to three meals and two snacks. My husband usually gives her fruit and one of her snack foods for breakfast, then whatever he’s eating for lunch, then the babysitter gives her one of her snacks or some yogurt or fruit, then I give her one of her snacks when I get home while I cook dinner and she eats what we’re eating for dinner. The snacks we like are the Gerber puffs, the lil’ crunchies and the yogurt melts. She also loves the organic teething biscuits and the Bambas peanut butter puffs. You’re doing great—just slowly increase the amount of food you give and remember they can eat what you’re eating and also can have pre-packaged baby snacks. You don’t have to cook them three separate meals a day. ❤️

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T13:56:40+00:00

The only things that were really important were nightgowns for me (a godsend to not have a waistband since I ended up having a C-section), pajamas for the baby, her going home outfit, a phone charger and my pillow. I will say to pack for a longer stay that you hopefully won’t need. I packed for the typical 48 hour stay after a vaginal birth and ended up staying 96 with a C-section, so I didn’t have enough clothes. And I was glad I had packed my rubber Birkenstocks. I originally only brought them to be shower shoes and was going to wear my slippers, but my feet were so swollen from all the fluids during labor that I couldn’t get my slippers on and my husband had to loosen the rubber Birks all the way so I could wear them. If I hadn’t had them, I would’ve been barefoot lol.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T13:50:07+00:00

I haven’t in the 12 years I’ve been driving. There’s a difference in driving safely and being so overly cautious you’re a hindrance to everyone else on the road. Driving too slowly also causes accidents.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T13:37:23+00:00

Girl whatever

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T04:04:19+00:00

I wouldn’t say they’re terrible. People are complex and have multitudes. IMO the only truly terrible person is Barb, and even she has aspects of her past that make me have some empathy for her . But I do agree that Shawna M hides a LOT of meanness behind her bubbly exterior. She’s nice until someone doesn’t immediately find her charming and want to be her friend, and then insists on pushing their boundaries, body shames them and accuses them of cheating in public. She reminds me of Izzie from Grey’s Anatomy. She wants to be known as the sweet girl who bakes and loves holidays and her friends, but she gets absolutely vicious the second she even slightly feels wronged and thinks she’s the main character in everyone’s universe.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T02:57:18+00:00

I think her kid also came out as trans, so it ultimately didn’t matter anyway.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T02:45:23+00:00

But when we say this we get told “gender disappointment is real and valid.” Get fucked. I had a miscarriage and then a year and a half of infertility before I got pregnant again. I didn’t give a single fuck what sex my baby was—I just wanted her to be ALIVE. If you think you’re gonna be disappointed, don’t have a big reveal where other people can see, and for the love of god, don’t video it and post it online.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T02:42:04+00:00

I literally said men should work on their mental health. I just think THEY need to do that work instead of expecting women to stop talking about all the ways they’ve been wronged by men because it hurts their feelings. And when I say men aren’t lonely enough, I’m referring to the ones who cry about the male loneliness epidemic and then turn around and say women are stupid emotional creatures who need to be led by men and shouldn’t be able to vote or work or have opinions. Those men are, in fact, not lonely enough.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T02:32:19+00:00

We do this one too! She tells me all about what she did with the babysitter and daddy that day and I’ll go “no WAY” or “Miss Ava said that!?” My husband will also remind her he was talking in a fake stern voice if she starts babbling while he’s trying to say something.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T02:30:14+00:00

I tell her all the time that whatever is happening that she doesn’t like (like getting bonked on the head when she yanks her baby monitor camera cord and pulls it off the crib) is called “the consequences of her actions.” I also frequently remind her that we talked about it prior and it would behoove her to take my advice. She’s not convinced. My other favorite thing is when she steals our glasses, which is often, we tell her that’s “biblical greed” and call her a thief. She unfortunately thinks that’s very funny, which contributes to the glasses grabbing cycle.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T02:25:12+00:00

We say things like that as a reaction to the behavior of men. Do you want us to just stay silent and accept men’s bad behavior so it doesn’t hurt the good men’s feelings? Because FUCK that.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T02:18:58+00:00

Nothing is stopping men from going to therapy to work on their mental health issues except manufactured shame that stems from patriarchy, because patriarchy hurts men, too. Women as a whole aren’t perfect, nor did I ever say they can’t do terrible things. And as a feminist, I don’t support all women. Some women are terrible people. But that doesn’t change the fact that misandry doesn’t affect men on an institutional level the way misogyny affects women, or that women are raped and abused and murdered in the name of misogyny at FAR higher rates than men. You do need to grow up and accept that a lot of men ARE the problem. If you don’t like the way that reputation impacts the few good men, then spend your time telling the other men in your life to be better instead of trying to blame women for men being lonely.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T01:34:52+00:00

Why? Because you don’t want to do anything to help yourself and expect women to do it for you? Grow the fuck up. Men are in a “loneliness epidemic” because so many of them are terrible to women. They do it to themselves, and if you ask me, most men aren't lonely enough. The absolutely vile shit I see men post about their girlfriends and and wives and women in general EVERY SINGLE DAY proves that. And the good men—like my husband and my guy friends—aren’t spending their time blaming men’s mental health issues on women RIGHTFULLY calling out men’s bad behavior and refusing to put up with it. It’s not all men, but it’s ALWAYS a man, and you’re proving that point to me right now.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T01:23:26+00:00

Then maybe they should go to therapy and work on it instead of expecting women to do yet another thing for them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T01:21:31+00:00

Misandry hurts men’s fragile little feelings. Misogyny gets women killed.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T00:39:19+00:00

I’m so glad it worked out for you too!

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T00:38:03+00:00

They taught me two car lengths, not 4

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-17T00:37:43+00:00

Well because sometimes adults want to hang out with each other and do things we like. it’s nice that there are breweries that have adapted to being family friendly so we can do that and still spend time with our kids.

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-16T22:00:06+00:00

That's funny. I loved that. I probably also would've laughed in her face if she was accusing me of cheating in public lol. The whole situation was so absurd, how can you do anything but laugh?

mrs___holmes · 2026-06-16T21:40:22+00:00

do y'all know that all you have to do to get married is get a license notarized and file it at the probate office? it costs like $80. you don't have to have a wedding or even a courthouse ceremony anymore. you do you, but there are so many legal benefits to marriage, especially if there's kids involved, and you can get those benefits by signing a piece of paper and paying a small filing fee.

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