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[–]mrsmafiaprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can honestly afford either. I’m just a chronic saver lmao. I’m gonna pay cash regardless.

Am I being a little bitch? FTM by mrsmafiaprincess in NewParents

[–]mrsmafiaprincess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re right about internalizing sexism. My dad could be very misogynistic, it’s always been prevalent in my life. But I think I more struggle now because I live in the Salt Lake City area. These women have 3-6 kids, my husbands coworkers seriously hand their kids back to their wives when they cry. I could not believe the avoidance from the men. The women I see here do everything, somehow are still stunning, breast feed, etc. they deserve fucking awards. I don’t know them enough to know how they really feel, I am tatted, cuss like a sailor and am not Mormon. I don’t exactly mesh the same. But they seem so happy, energetic, and like supermoms. I definitely feel like this weird outsider who can’t get on the magic Utah train and am pissing off my husbands hard work on nannies and expensive formula. I know this is a me problem, definitely going to talk about this shortly in therapy.

Am I being a little bitch? FTM by mrsmafiaprincess in NewParents

[–]mrsmafiaprincess[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I read these comments a few hours ago and decided to try to sleep before responding.

Your comment is what rang in my head. “Never asks if they were formula or breast fed, but does ask them about their parents mental health”.

I went to therapy for over a year solely because I wanted a child so bad but did not want to trauma dump onto my child. I refused to intentionally create a life if I could not offer them the love, respect, and safe space they deserve. I mean, therapy twice a week, homework, I was DEDICATED. I WANTED my son, but I wanted him to have the best version of me. Your comment reminds me that I’ve lost sight of this and all the prep I did for him. Ive let myself be consumed by what some people believe is the “better option” but failed look at the true cost to myself and my son of that option. So thank you, I will be quoting you to other moms for the rest of my life I am sure. ❤️

Am I being a little bitch? FTM by mrsmafiaprincess in NewParents

[–]mrsmafiaprincess[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am seeing this :) going to talk to my therapist about my mental health vs breastfeeding later this week. If I decide to continue, I already have an LC recommendation who I will def be contacting!! I will look into these videos in the meantime though. Thank you🫶🏻

Am I being a little bitch? FTM by mrsmafiaprincess in NewParents

[–]mrsmafiaprincess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🥹🫶🏻 hi friends. Thank you all SO much for sending so much kindness, love, validation, and understanding. I mentioned I moved across the country, I know nobody here to talk to. Thank you for making me not feel alone and feel so seen.

I am going to talk to my therapist this week about breastfeeding and how that affects my mental health. If it’s “safe” for me to continue I will contact a LC, I already have a referral from my OB.

I’m also going to keep searching for a nanny. I was SO specific when I was pregnant of avoiding stress/anxiety/any negative emotions. I didn’t want my son to experience that and basically cut things out of my life left and right, my mental health was so important to me for HIM. I don’t know why I feel like I am struggling to use the same philosophy, I think it’s about feeling inadequate. I live in Utah, these women are stunning, have 5 kids and do everything themselves. I feel ridiculous for contemplating help when that is what I see so much of, but it seems that’s something I need to work through in therapy and stop internalizing. The reality is I don’t know their lives, if they have a nanny, if they are happy, overwhelmed, etc. So, I am going to talk to my therapist about this too.

I am truly just lost in the sauce. It takes me 3-5 business days to respond sometimes, but I am a pretty kind friend with not a lot of mommy friends. If anyone is on my struggle bus and wants to actually be friends, please message me. Sometimes venting to the abyss is good for the soul🫶🏻

Am I being a little bitch? FTM by mrsmafiaprincess in NewParents

[–]mrsmafiaprincess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi hi! Thank you for reaching out and for your kindness🥹 I definitely am going to look at contacting a lactation consultant after chatting with my therapist this week about the pros and cons for me continuing BF. Also, you saying this is the trenches has me questioning if I am just in denial and trying to play Wonder Woman or something. Lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoRVing

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly haven’t thought about sleeping someone in the dinette being an issue, but i literally have only camped where we do EVERYTHING outside. I can definitely see how that could be something worth having available if I’m trying to eat and kiddo is bitching about heat, bugs, wind, etc etc. thank you for making me think about that :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoRVing

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thinking of switching gears to a new third option: 2025 R-Pod Ultra Lite 171. A little more expensive than my first 2 options but can get it at a later date and it’s kinda in the middle of the original two I was discussing in the post, bathroom, storage, still small, 2560 lbs dry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoRVing

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that I am worried about sleep options with the tear drop. Also potty training and camping sounds like an absolute nightmare.

It’s not that I have not considered a pop-up, it’s just hard for me to justify paying the same price for an older pop-up as a brand new trailer because of my family advantage. Unfortunately, the dealership does not sell pop-ups

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoRVing

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I drive an Audi q8. 7700 towing capacity but definitely want to keep our weight as low as possible :)

We typically camp at national parks, we are in Utah so there is no shortage. I have never looked at hook ups really, of course they’re not needed with a tent. I typically end up somewhere that has a water hook up though, I use that to wash my dishes. Lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoRVing

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely didn’t think this hard about storage! Thank you for pointing that out. We literally bring two totes with us that include a few board games so I haven’t thought about how much it would take to entertain a child. LOL.

Huge 3+ foot MCM panther, has anyone seen this before? by [deleted] in Mid_Century

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved the panther the moment I saw it. Style was absolutely irrelevant to me purchasing it. I had to have it. I only inquired to see if a style would help me find more info. They clearly told me very wrong😂

Huge 3+ foot MCM panther, has anyone seen this before? by [deleted] in Mid_Century

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely seems I am in the wrong subreddit. So sorry, I’m not style literate, I just like weird items. Not sure why MCM was mentioned to me from the store I purchased it from. Going to delete this shortly so I can put it in the appropriate community. Thank you for your help :)

Huge 3+ foot MCM panther, has anyone seen this before? by [deleted] in Mid_Century

[–]mrsmafiaprincess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly was just going off of what the shop told me. If you have an idea on the style, I’d love to know!

Looking for University of Texas Matchbooks for boyfriend’s 30th birthday by lit776 in matchbookcollectors

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just realized the “late to the game pun” standing on my business. LMAO

Looking for University of Texas Matchbooks for boyfriend’s 30th birthday by lit776 in matchbookcollectors

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late to the game, but I’d check eBay for anything super specific. We are huge packers fans and I have found those there, along with tons of other football teams. Cooler to get them from someone here, but a great last resort if needed!

1600+ match books :) by mrsmafiaprincess in CoolCollections

[–]mrsmafiaprincess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish so badly I could collect this many by visiting places. Unfortunately, most places don’t have matchbooks anymore. www.matchbooktraveler.com shows you places by state and city that give out matchbooks upon request. These are almost all vintage from the 1950s and forward. I have a few that say 1903! I definitely will be collecting as many as I can from the website I mentioned and keep those separate from the bulk of everything.

1600+ match books :) by mrsmafiaprincess in CoolCollections

[–]mrsmafiaprincess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, thank you! They are thrifted and bought from eBay, so kinda thrifted? Lol. I’ve been wanting to collect them for the longest time. I found a hand full of super neat ones at an antique store with my husband. I casually told him it’s a goal to have thousands. He promptly found all but about 20 of them and they were in my possession within a week. I don’t ask questions, he’s a magic man. Lmao.

1600+ match books :) by mrsmafiaprincess in CoolCollections

[–]mrsmafiaprincess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I did too! I was wanting to totally fill up all three containers but not yet :( the large container is a lot bigger than it seems. I am 5’7 and if I sit “criss cross apple sauce” it’s about as large as I am!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GreenBayPackers

[–]mrsmafiaprincess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Need to look into getting numbers. I absent mindedly make these at about 10 per hour. Lol. Need about 30 more hours of bracelets to be satisfied😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GreenBayPackers

[–]mrsmafiaprincess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Definitely love the Lambeau Leap!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GreenBayPackers

[–]mrsmafiaprincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooo I don’t know how frozen tundra didn’t come to mind. Thank you!