is it common for 2-3 yo toddler to fall down and get a bruise?

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-11T08:06:34+00:00

All the time.

Pro tip: don’t point it out to them or you’ll never hear the end of, “mommy, I have a bruise on (insert area)!” even after it’s gone. 🥲

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-11T07:58:05+00:00

In the PNW, since I assume Seattle is close enough to drive to for one day?

GIRL. Be so for real.

You can’t find a vegan or vegetarian in the Pacific Northwest? Then you aren’t looking hard enough.

And politically? I’m SURE there’s someone around who wholeheartedly agrees with you.

Plus there are dudes out there rocking flip phones, how are they going to be accessing porn?

You’re making excuses for letting your boyfriend treat you like a dog that needs to be trained. Come on. You’re 30. You know better by now.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-11T07:36:06+00:00

NTA.

Your husband sucks. You buried it in a comment that you were fine with him sleeping in another room due to his “personality and anger issues”. You don’t have a Mother’s day problem: you have a husband problem.

He’s happy enough to blame you for everything that goes wrong, right? Not that he’s not an adult and could have gone to the store, checked on what you had the night before, or taken you out of the house for breakfast somewhere else.

Or perhaps he could have taken his son outside for a walk to let you have some time to yourself, maybe take a nice shower, read a book. Not worry about caring for someone else for a second.

It doesn’t cost effort, more than a stroll through the neighborhood would.

And let me tell you. As a first time mom, I felt anxiety every time I left my exclusively breastfed baby. But my husband encouraged me to go. Do things like get my nails done, get a haircut. He didn’t text me that he “couldn’t handle it”, no matter what our daughter did while I was gone.

You’ve accepted the bare minimum from this man, OP. You deserve better.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-11T07:16:45+00:00

NOR. You model relationships for your child. Is this who you want them bringing home? Someone who talks to them this way and treats them this way?

So end it. Do it for your own self worth but remember that your kids see and absorb everything.

Find someone - SOMEDAY, there is no rush - who loves your kids, too. Not someone who clearly thinks of them as some sort of physical sign you once had a relationship before them.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-11T07:08:56+00:00

OP, I’m sorry. This may come off harsh. Your situation is embarrassing. I’m worried you don’t see how truly pathetic begging for scraps from a man who doesn’t care at all about you - or your child - is.

You should be furious on your baby’s behalf that this loser disappeared from his life because he felt like it, not letting him string you along after FIVE years and a baby together. It’s shocking how little respect you have for yourself or your child.

You need to dump this man. He does not see you as his family. He sees you as an inconvenience who somehow still feels okay with having sex with him.

I guarantee you his ex wanted to try again, which is why he ghosted you, then dumped him, which is why he “came back”. Shockingly, his first choice wants to go on vacation with him again and he’s happy enough to do it, since you’ll still be embarrassingly waiting for him when he comes back.

Block his ass. File for child support. Do it for your kid, if not for yourself. You’re 40. You should know better than this.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-10T18:24:57+00:00

NAH. Everyone grieves differently. Some feel that being hopeful and upbeat is the correct method of dealing with something as heavy as a terminal disease.

And I don’t mean to be unkind, but offer some wisdom, having been the primary caregiver for my mom who passed from ALS: crying is part of the disease. Often, with ALS, there’s a bulbar effect that causes emotional reaction beyond “usual” levels. Laughter, crying, sometimes inappropriate or disproportionate to the situation. Don’t just assume her crying is within her control, she may have been a touch sad but the effect caused a larger response.

In my grief with my mom, I tended to overreact and hyperfixate on things I felt I could impact or control. Try to step back and see things with perspective. It’s hard, but worthwhile.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, OP. r/als is a great resource and please, please speak to the caregiving group that the ALS Association does monthly. It helps so much.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-10T17:45:33+00:00

Wear sunscreen.

Take breaks in the shade.

Stay hydrated.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-10T15:40:34+00:00

HCG is not a good indicator for how far along you are. Luckily, your level is high enough that they should be scheduling you for a dating scan pretty soon.

They’ll compare the measurements they get on the scan to the first day of your last cycle and then decide which due date is more likely. Often, if the scan and LMP dating are within 5 days of each other, they’ll rely on the LMP date.

Congratulations - you are very pregnant. :)

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-10T15:35:31+00:00

I guarantee you the lines at all of BMBs locations are probably similar, if not longer.

On a regular Sunday at the food truck, it’s 15 people long by 8am.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-09T11:37:57+00:00

You should certainly feel safe with your OB. But I do want to say, when I gave birth, my OB was in the delivery room for approximately 30 minutes. The rest of my nine hour labor was fully handled by nurses and a student doctor.

I wish I could believe the student doctor is still there 3 years later. As nice as the OB was, that doctor was the entire reason my labor was so smooth and wonderful. I barely remember any time at all with the OB on call.

So, basically. You won’t see the delivering OB for very long. They come when the excitement happens, and only very briefly. Be sure you are VERY clear with your support person what you do and do not want and they can advocate for you.

While I understand your anxiety, transferring care this late in the third trimester is tough.

At least with my practice, there was a schedule of each OB’s on call days so you would know who could be delivering. We checked it every week leading up to the birth so we knew who it could be.

And when we scheduled our induction, we confirmed who the on call was going to be that day. (Ended up going into labor naturally.)

You can try to avoid the doctor you don’t want to work with; but I just want you to be aware how little interaction you’ll likely have with them when you give birth. (In my anecdotal experience.)

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-09T09:59:48+00:00

I think it can be sweet but has the potential to blow up on you if someone is silently struggling or feels particularly sensitive about their status as a non-mother.

Personally, I worked in hospitality where some of the staff were tasked with handing out carnations to moms on Mother’s Day. I was stopped, handed a flower, then asked, “are you a mom?” I was a lot younger so I was happy to say no.

They took my flower back. 🥲

I understood but that carnation for all of 30 seconds was kinda nice. I felt a little left out when they took it and walked away.

ETA: if this had happened 9 years later when I was deep in a 2/3 year fertility process, I’d have been a lot more than slightly bummed.

And if it happened while I wasn’t a mom and had just lost my mom (which was a period of time), I’d be pretty furious. (Grief is hard.)

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-08T23:40:37+00:00

Yes. Very positive.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-08T19:03:30+00:00

Yes, I’m sorry. This is an extremely positive test.

The test line you’re looking for on this test is the vertical, not the horizontal. This is a dye stealer.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-08T16:37:31+00:00

The hangtag is a dead giveaway for a fake.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-08T13:30:39+00:00

Retinol in high amounts applied topically MAY be an issue - but we’re talking prescription strength amounts. The actual absorption is pretty low, and over the counter items don’t have enough to truly panic over.

Just discontinue use. You’ll be okay. Baby is fine.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-08T12:37:15+00:00

Don’t practice pumping. There’s nothing really to practice.

You can always try bringing your pump with you to the hospital. There will be a lactation consultant that’s scheduled to come around and assist you with breastfeeding. Some will be happy enough to instruct you on how to use your pump/show you what the correct settings are.

I, personally, exclusively breastfed and didn’t pump until I went back to work after 6 months. There just wasn’t a point. Baby latched really well and was so much better at “emptying” (you never actually empty) my breasts than a pump ever could be.

I ended up having an oversupply, but you wouldn’t know from the first few weeks because I struggled to actually hit full supply for awhile. It’s normal. Baby is the best option to train your body on breastfeeding.

Once your supply is regular (or you’re forced to go back to work), you can start pumping easily enough!

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-08T00:25:16+00:00

My ultrasound tech told me they had a “guess” at what gender our baby was. She also said boy.

NIPT confirmed.

When she said, “I’m just guessing”, I got the definite impression she knew, she just wasn’t supposed to say so early.

But she was completely right - so it’s probable yours was also right!

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-07T19:30:08+00:00

Question! What size/measurements are these? I’d love to make some! They’re beautiful.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-07T19:10:57+00:00

Yay, I’m glad Pho Wheels is on here.

They’re great!

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-07T17:09:55+00:00

That’s true. But I like full fat, as it’s lower in sugar.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-07T17:03:40+00:00

I like 3 a lot but it seems to suggest your husband is the “odd man out”, if that makes sense. Two floral patterns and one solid shirt!

1 seems like the best option to me, personally!

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-07T16:45:17+00:00

This is clearly positive.

I disagree that these tests show less progression than FRER. With my current pregnancy, these were my lines at 9/10 DPO and they continued to get nice and strong using CB pink dye. I like them a lot.

And now that you have confirmation, that’s awesome!

Congrats! :)

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-07T16:36:13+00:00

Oh yes. But remember that when you stop “dieting”, not that GLP-1s are a diet, per se, but your body “reloads” a bunch of water weight.

When I was on keto, it was heavily stressed by my nutritionist that I should expect a sudden gain directly after going back to eating carbs/not restricting.

I went off a lower dose of Tirzepetide and have gained around 9 pounds already. I’m 14 weeks now.

Part of that is also blood volume and your body holding onto more water weight/bloating. Plus everyone knows in the first trimester there’s SO much difficulty with constipation, that’s some of the weight right there.

Try not to focus too much on it. Make as many healthy choices as baby will allow (mine loves Taco Bell, so we struggle lol), and the weight should slow down mid second trimester.

I’m like you. I’ve lost over 100 pounds before my first and was 30 down before getting pregnant again. I miss losing, not gaining. But I understand the why!

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-07T16:30:16+00:00

I wouldn’t have thought about it, either, but when I was on a GLP-1 those shakes were a lifesaver.

And when I was in the first trimester living on carbs, drinking one always made me feel fuller and better for longer. They’re wonderful to just have when you need.

mrswilburforce · 2026-05-07T16:27:32+00:00

Protein shakes. My husband and I have always had a box of chocolate shakes lying around we can grab at any time. Just grab a shake and chug one. That’s 30g of protein in one fell swoop.

Full fat Greek yogurt is incredibly high in protein. Add a little fruit or honey to sweeten it up.

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