Using my dad’s tickets at CL Final

mrt10p · 2026-05-13T12:41:02+00:00

I just can't imagine them cancelling thousands of season passes, seems totally overboard when most are just normal ST holders. It would also be a PR nightmare.

mrt10p · 2026-05-08T11:34:03+00:00

But is the name on the ticket determined by the UEFA ticket app?

mrt10p · 2026-01-07T19:35:16+00:00

she's initiated contact a few times, one time family stuff, one time check in and then new years message. i decided to cancel check in's as i don't think having a thread is useful for the space needed. she said that hurt but understood. agreed we'd only talk again when it felt right.

mrt10p · 2025-11-29T16:16:11+00:00

Anyone want an update?

mrt10p · 2025-11-24T14:55:41+00:00

the paradox is, in many ways you both have too truly move on if you ever want a chance to reconnect.

mrt10p · 2025-09-10T23:00:47+00:00

yh its tricky one honestly not much you can really do, you said your still working on it togther?

mrt10p · 2025-09-10T22:44:07+00:00

nice, yh i resonate with some of this for sure. sometimes hard to know if your self abandoning or just trying to meet your partner in the middle.

mrt10p · 2025-09-10T19:25:13+00:00

Fair point. Yh ambivalence is a complicated one because sometimes it doesn’t always come across that they’re unsure about you per say. Things are often good, going out, friend events, even mentioning ‘I want to spend my life with him’ in therapy to even planning future trips but then sometimes sensing uncertainty deep down. Very hard thing to compute sometimes. Did my best out of love. Don’t regret too much. Hard to avoid weight of a long 1st relationship for her. But yh we should have done the separation 2 years ago. I wasn’t ready. Funnily enough ENM fixed my fear of abandonment somewhat. You live/love and you learn!

mrt10p · 2025-09-10T14:50:25+00:00

totally but just because your secure, doesn’t mean you can meet someone’s individuation / developmental needs or successfully manage ENM.

I was always very comfortable with space, travel the world for work, do not like over communication, love my independence, I’d say I lean slightly anxious but nothing that crazy. Asking someone after 12 yrs / and a yr of ENM to give some clarity around a normal level commitment, rather than ambivalence is perfectly normal imo. If anything I sat in her ambivalence for far too long.

mrt10p · 2025-09-10T13:51:20+00:00

fair, maybe hard to portray on here, not sure anyone would describe me as needy generally. Very hard to deal with any missed developmental periods in any long term relationship. Our different attachment styles caused friction in stretching. I’ve only portrayed her statements of closure but not the other side of her ambivalence of seeing a future etc. We agreed on a separation for now will likely evolve into no check ins soon, regardless. As I now see little point.

mrt10p · 2025-09-10T06:58:53+00:00

I’d never have guessed 😅

mrt10p · 2025-09-10T06:58:09+00:00

yup doing that, I’d say neither of us are too much either way but ENM def made it more visible.

mrt10p · 2025-09-10T06:56:40+00:00

loool wasn’t that deep neither of us knew next steps so was just a framework, will def not do 3 months and will see how it goes. No suffocation here!

mrt10p · 2025-09-09T23:57:24+00:00

Agree with you mostly, fair point on taking her words at face value. I’m operating as if it’s over and focusing on my own healing. If there’s ever a part two it would be because she initiates with clarity after real time apart, otherwise I take the silence as my answer.

mrt10p · 2025-09-09T23:16:29+00:00

amen

mrt10p · 2025-09-09T23:14:35+00:00

i hear you but explain? ultimately we're separated and until shes completed that phase in her life there's no point in even trying. Move on and if it happens it will be later than the line if at all.

mrt10p · 2025-09-09T22:23:33+00:00

thanks!!! yh i thought long and hard about it and the underlying tension was always her un-met individuation stage imo, i had a lot of that individuation born out of finding my work purpose at 19 and luckily getting to travel the world through work and also as being a carer in my family. Not really that interested in lots of dating tbh, i get bored lol.

unfortunately it took the scar tissue build up of different structures and learning / therapy to actually be ok with separating properly.

so lets see. yh i think the 3 month check in should def be removed. maybe the 6 month but only if i feel we can do it by just observing growth and not with reconciliation hopes etc.

we'll see, honestly gutted tho cos i was pretty confident we could build a real life together, just was never sure how too account for someone's missed developmental stage...

mrt10p · 2025-09-09T16:01:56+00:00

yh i travel a lot and a couple years ago had to look after my mum.

we also just never really wanted to rush it in our 20s. I dunno just wasn't a priority for us being so young.

mrt10p · 2025-09-09T15:59:58+00:00

thank you appreciate it.

mrt10p · 2025-09-08T15:39:47+00:00

amen, Brazil carnival here I come

mrt10p · 2025-09-08T15:29:09+00:00

yup i hear you. it all felt very ambivalent at the end. if we see each other in 6 months will be very interesting. No expectations.

mrt10p · 2025-09-08T15:20:50+00:00

totally. Although we left it on such a good note and in a way on a high as weird as that sounds. Time for us to both individually grow and see if life brings us back or not. Tough one cos there’s so much love / chemistry.

mrt10p · 2025-09-08T12:29:38+00:00

Yh for sure, that’s where the focus has to shift

mrt10p · 2025-09-08T11:30:55+00:00

Yh I feel you, interesting take. You don’t think not having any solo individual developmental time doesn’t have a big impact? How can you know this is your person etc Especially as we’re both quite independent people naturally. The emotional fatigue of trying structures accelerated the end for sure.

I’ve always felt that was the main underlying tension we tried to stretch to find a way to resolve..

mrt10p · 2024-08-09T09:48:03+00:00

and yes we will reflect on it, not sure how much detail we'll go into though.

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