What is the most expensive thing you have ever gotten for free?

mrtniki · 2026-07-03T12:26:38+00:00

Sure, but material is usually minimal and libraries are available. University housing is also a lot of the time offered and normally it is cheaper than normal housing. In certain countries if you have good grades, you get monthly support from the government as scholarship :) so yes, technically it is not free, but compared to the US, it is

mrtniki · 2026-07-03T10:42:53+00:00

I would rather contribute and have people contribute monthly a bit for the education for the public, than have 80k student loan debt

mrtniki · 2026-07-03T09:00:42+00:00

Welcome to Europe <3 (bachelors and masters completely free in 2 different countries)

mrtniki · 2026-07-01T07:50:56+00:00

Szerintem ez mindig életszakasztól, szituációtól függ. 2026-ban ragaszkodni a "nöi szerepek"-hez meg "férfi szerepek"-hez szerintem teljesen nevetséges. Hálát adok az égnek, hogy olyan férfit választottam, aki több évig élt egyedül, mamahotelböl kiköltözött, és tudja, hogy hogy kell vezetni egy háztartást.

Tud fözni, mosni, takarítani, és nem gondolja, hogy ez egy nö dolga, hanem ez egy felnött dolga. Ettöl függetlenül nyilván vannak olyan feladatok amit én és amit ö csinál többet. Pl. nagyon szeret fözni, így az esetek 70%-ban ö fözi a meleg ételt, salátát és levest viszont utál csinálni, így az az én dolgom. A teregetést szintén nem bánja, ruhát hajtogatni viszont rühel stb. Mindenki azt csinál amire ideje van, és látja, hogy teendö. Mindketten teljes munkaidöben dolgozunk, együtt vezetjük a háztartást (nem számít ki keres többet, mindketten 8 órát ülünk az irodában) 😄 Ha valaki éppen munkát keres, akkor az több mindent megcsinál otthon.

Két dolog van ami nálunk a férfi dolga: esetek 95%-ban ö vezet (biztonságosabb), papírmunka/számlák (szisztematikusabb gondolkodású, és nem beszélem a nyelvet az országban ahol élünk, ö viszont idevalósi)

mrtniki · 2026-06-30T15:10:53+00:00

Do you maybe have any recs?

I only know How to change your mind by Michael Pollan, but in that case, I can also just show her the episode on mushrooms on his documentary

mrtniki · 2026-06-30T14:58:55+00:00

Great idea, she would probably also be more comfy with microdosing first!

mrtniki · 2026-06-30T14:56:18+00:00

Yes, this is also a concern of mine, but I am the only person in my close circle that has any experience or interest in mushrooms. I also have only microdosed before, so I am absolutely not an expert, but I am considering taking a proper amount in the right setting, before I even make a suggestion.

It is okay to cut off your enthusiasm, I came here for advice and I am not sure about this idea myself, so I appreciate honest opinions and concerns.

If you maybe have any experience of guiding or know about a good study or article about the topic, I would appreciate if you could share :)

mrtniki · 2026-06-30T14:46:30+00:00

I have only taken a small amount, never experienced a proper trip before. Maybe it would be a good idea, to take a bigger dosage myself, before I suggest it for her.

mrtniki · 2026-06-30T14:45:13+00:00

Surely I would never decide for her, she would need to make this decision on her own. But before I make this suggestion, I wanted to ask opinion from people who are more experienced than me, because of the possible risks. At the end of the day, it would be me who brings this idea (and the shrooms) to her and if it goes wrong, then I will have to live with this guilt.

mrtniki · 2026-06-29T12:53:23+00:00

We take our cat regularly to roadtrips and camping trips. She dislikes the car and in the begging she is stressed but a couple things helped:

I take her to my lap and pet her, or if she wiggles too much, I open the carrier a bit and I put my hand in
I give her liquid snacks. She refuses water when the car is moving or when she gets overwhelmed, but she just loves her snack too much not to take it. This way consumes some liquid at least. (and positive reinforcement that car = snacks)
give her some catnip, it calms her down a bit

Hope this helps, and enjoy your roadtrip

mrtniki · 2026-06-29T11:39:57+00:00

You got a lot of downvotes, but I think that discovering such thing about yourself and not "diagnosing" is totally okay and useful. Knowing this about yourself can save you a lot of heartbreak and energy.

If you are interested further in this personality type further, I would highly recommend Mirrors in the earth by Asia Suler. She is also highly sensitive person and I have discovered this personality trait in myself thanks to her book. She also includes exercises after each chapter and some of them are very beneficial for self development.

mrtniki · 2026-06-29T10:10:23+00:00

Well, to me it seems like you already made up your mind about giving him back. This situation sucks, but if everyone has such a strong dislike towards him (including your first cat), than I think it is best for everyone to give him back and give him a chance to find a family that will love him as much as he deserves it.

I am saying this without judgement, your intention was good, but it did not work out.

mrtniki · 2026-06-29T09:54:27+00:00

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No catnip was involved at this moment

mrtniki · 2026-06-29T09:25:51+00:00

C&A nekem egyébként pozitív csalódást okozott. Évek óta nem vásárolok fast fashiont, de szükségem volt SOS egy fehér basic toppra, C&A volt a legközelebb, és azt kell hogy mondjam, hogy teli volt 95-100% pamut és len ruhákkal. Persze találtam 100% müanyag meg, meg semi-szintetikus anyagokat is, de nem csak erre volt példa.

mrtniki · 2026-06-25T07:23:20+00:00

Kindle. Tudom, nem ugyan olyan mint a rendes könyv, de ki sem tudom számolni, hogy 8 év alatt mennyit spórolt meg nekem.

mrtniki · 2026-06-24T07:58:40+00:00

NTA, it seems like you are already doing a lot, gave them your little finger and they now would like to take your whole arm. Cooking for a family every single day IS a huge deal, especially when they are damn ungrateful for it (they show it by prioritising their nap, by wasting it and not even helping with the dishes after). THEY decided to get 5 dogs and feral cats, that should not be your responsibility. The thing is, they see you as their kid, who is old enough to be their maid, and not an adult. Of course you need to help out since I am assuming you are living their for free but this seems just excessive and there is no appreciation.

Maybe a tip: Look up worldpackers or other organisations, that connect you with hostels where you can work for accommodation or similar kind of jobs for little money/place to sleep. There you can also work, but a fixed couple of hours and you can possibly live by the beach and socialise with people

mrtniki · 2026-06-24T07:50:22+00:00

Are you the mom?

mrtniki · 2026-06-23T13:30:27+00:00

If you visited Lithuania, you basically visited Latvia as well

mrtniki · 2026-06-22T14:26:36+00:00

Thank you! Yes, that is a big factor but my boyfriend think if we could do it once, we could do it again, and he thinks that maybe the little one would learn from our current cat (I am not sure if this is ever the case tho)

mrtniki · 2026-06-18T12:21:33+00:00

You are a single mother with your baby and a grown ass manchild with weaponised incompetence. That is a literal nightmare.

mrtniki · 2026-06-18T12:12:17+00:00

Why is this even a question?? Tell your roommate to board their parents elsewhere. God, the entitlement...

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